Educating children is a university question. It is said that grandparents usually spoil their children more than their parents, which will lead to differences in educational concepts with their parents. Parents hope to educate their children according to the scientific parenting methods suggested by experts, while grandparents agree with their old experience and will inevitably intervene when parents educate their children. Faced with this situation, the following measures can be taken: first, if conditions permit, try to live separately from the elderly, which will naturally reduce intervention; Secondly, use experts' words to persuade the elderly not to express their opposition directly; Finally, accept the effective experience put forward by the elderly. Some experiences of the old population have stood the test of time and should be learned.

First, try to live separately from the elderly.

If possible, try to live separately from the elderly. Three generations living together have different ideas and living habits, which will inevitably lead to contradictions. If there are still contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it will also have a negative impact on the growth of children. Living separately from the elderly, each with its own space, will naturally reduce the intervention of the elderly in parenting. Taking children to see the elderly or taking them home on weekends can also enhance family ties.

Second, convince the elderly with expert arguments.

When you disagree with the old people's concept of parenting, don't directly refute the old people's statement, which will aggravate the old people's resistance and disrespect the old people. We can convince the elderly with the words of experts, and indirectly tell them that what they say is reasonable in ways that the elderly like, such as WeChat official account tweets and small videos. But experts all suggest this, so we might as well try the expert's advice and see if it is useful.

Third, accept the effective experience put forward by the elderly.

The parenting experience put forward by the old people is certainly not unreasonable. After all, they have been here before, eaten more salt than we have traveled, and summed up the experience they found effective. We don't have to adopt their outdated and unscientific views, but we should also accept the reasonable parts of them, instead of blindly thinking that what they say is all useless old stories.

What should you do in the face of grandparents' intervention in educating children?