First of all, parents should try to avoid saying "Sister wants brother" to her sister.
It takes a slow process for children to learn to share. If parents force their children to share what they like, it will cause her disgust and sensitivity. At any time, parents should remember that they are not only brothers and sisters, but also two children, a girl and a boy. They should master their own characteristics, guide and educate them, not force them.
Parents should let their sisters learn to let their younger brothers. The point is not the elder sister, but the younger brother. From a gender perspective, girls are naturally more sensitive, regardless of age, while boys are naturally more open-minded. Therefore, parents should first educate their younger brother to respect and care for his sister, and tell him, "You are not only a younger brother, but also a boy. Boys should protect girls, so you should protect our girls, your mother and your sister." If the younger brother can do this, on the one hand, the younger sister will enjoy the feeling of being protected as a girl, on the other hand, she will realize that the younger brother is good to herself, and on the other hand, it will be easier to tolerate and love her younger brother.
Secondly, parents should not say "love is fair" verbally, but show it through actions.
For example, when two people are fighting for toys, what parents should do is definitely not to blame their sister, but to confiscate the toy and tell them that this toy has caused you two to quarrel. Mom and Dad don't like such toys! Then let them apologize to each other. As a boy, my younger brother first apologized to my sister, and then my sister apologized to my younger brother. Let them know that each other is the most important thing! Toys can be found later, but the hurt feelings of brothers and sisters will be gone.
For example, when going out for a family trip, parents should consider taking good care of each child instead of taking care of the younger one in advance. Never let your brother sit in the car and your sister walk behind, because your sister will be more sensitive. Any extra care for my brother may cause my sister's jealousy.
Thirdly, parents should pay attention to the way brothers and sisters get along and help them cultivate their feelings.
For example, when celebrating festivals or birthdays, parents should remind one party to prepare gifts for the other. If my brother has a birthday, my sister should prepare gifts for him, and parents should also remind him and prepare gifts for my sister. At the same time, parents also try their best to prepare a gift for their two children.
For example, in normal times, parents should not just hold their young brother, but let their sister play silently. In order to let her participate in this process, parents can hold their younger sister, let her hold her younger brother gently, or hold one in one hand and tell her that this is a boy and a guardian angel given to her by her mother. Sister should cherish him, and brother will always protect her like a guardian angel in the future. If my sister can participate in this process and is not rejected by her parents, she will agree with her brother.
Finally, parents should be vigilant to prevent external unfavorable factors from others.
We advocate parenting education because if parents can't take care of their children themselves, they can't avoid the psychological influence of others on their children. If you can do it yourself, especially when the child's psychology is still unstable, you can avoid some unintentional or intentional injuries.
There are always some such neighbors, even relatives. They insinuate others with their own psychology. They may inadvertently or intentionally say to their sister, "If you have a younger brother, your parents will not love you.". If parents don't know, the subtle harm is very great.
If parents can stand idly by, they should stand up and stop it in time and tell that person (in fact, they also tell their sister and brother): "Maybe this is the case in your family, but it is definitely not the case in our family. Boys in our family will protect girls because girls are our princesses. " When my sister knows the truth, she will naturally care for her brother, not be jealous.
If parents see their younger sister watching a son-preference TV series, they should also speak out in time and tell their younger sister and younger brother, "Every family is different. Girls in our family are treasures, and boys in our family have the responsibility to protect girls. "
With the arrival of the second child era, many families are facing a brand-new educational model. The newly born two children not only have an impact on their parents' economy and life, but also have an impact on the original children at home. We even saw the news that "my five-year-old sister is going on a hunger strike to stop her mother from giving birth", which shows how sensitive the child's psychology is.
Therefore, every family, when considering having one more child, should not only naively fantasize that having one more child means having one more companion, but also rationally consider the war that two children may bring and their plunder of emotions and resources.