& gt& gt 1. Facts have proved that when the IQ reaches a normal level, the key factor that determines a child's future development is concentration.
& gt& gt2. The essential reason for children's hyperactivity and impulsiveness is the lack of self-control. The premise of self-control is to know what you are doing, what you should do and what you should not do. To do this, we need dedicated participation and monitoring.
> > GT3. Learning is a cognitive activity, and its working principle is: external information (learning content) is input into the brain, and then the brain processes the information, stores it in the memory warehouse, and extracts it when it needs to solve current problems.
> > GT4. In the intellectual structure recognized by psychologists, there are five abilities, namely observation, memory, imagination, thinking and attention.
& gt& gt5. Expectation effect: You are talking about the children's future.
> > GT6. Orientation determines the future, which has been repeatedly verified. Your positioning is related to the future direction of your child's life, and it is by no means an alarmist!
& gt& gt7. The so-called "poor students" and "excellent students" have different perceptions of themselves. One is on the road of vicious circle, the other is on the road of virtuous circle, and the final learning effect can be imagined.
& gt& gt8. Weak will quality: Human beings have four basic will qualities: consciousness, decisiveness, persistence and self-control.
& gt& gt9. Emotional instability: hyperactivity and impulsiveness can also be defined as emotional out-of-control state.
& gt& gt 10. For example, the all-in-one parenting style. The biggest feature of this way is that parents take care of their children's all life affairs and study affairs in the name of love, so that children have no sense of responsibility and no ability to learn life since childhood, and their concentration will naturally be quite low.
& gt11.Psychologists have confirmed that the biggest motivation of learning activities is not material rewards or punishments, but feedback of learning results. People's behavior is influenced by the result. If the result is good, they will have the spirit of doing things. If the result is not good, you will naturally become depressed.
& gt& gt 12. Children's inattentive behavior is usually not caused by a single reason, but by a combination of many reasons. Among these reasons, one must be at the core.
& gt& gt 13. The critical period is the period when we are most likely to form certain abilities. If you receive proper education during this period, you can get twice the result with half the effort.
& gt& gt 14. Children in this period move frequently because they are exploring the world around them with their actions. Parents should allow and encourage their children to explore properly. When they focus on something, parents should communicate with their children and explore together, so that their children can maintain the duration and stability of their attention to things or activities they are interested in.
& gt15. Positive education is not to whitewash peace, but to treat peace with a positive attitude on the basis of facing up to reality.
4. 1 Create a quiet and comfortable environment and build a sense of order in children.
& gt& gt 16. If children can be provided with a comfortable living environment, children will feel an inner order from the environment, which will have a great impact on their emotions, and their concentration will naturally be better than other children.
& gt& gt 17. An orderly environment will give children a sense of order.
& gt& gt 18. In fact, many homes that don't pay attention to children are very messy, and many items are not placed in the corresponding positions. Therefore, the child's subconscious mind is affected by the chaotic environment, and his mind begins to become disordered and unable to control his behavior.
& gt& gt 19. A quiet environment gives children a sense of stability. When the environment is quiet, people's hearts are easy to be quiet; Only when you are calm can you concentrate.
& gt& gt20. A family environment full of cultural atmosphere can give children good psychological hints.
& gt& gt2 1. Parents should first look at their behavior in the mirror, because parents are the best teachers for their children.
& gt& gt22. Another management mode is: children eat and do their homework after school, and go to bed at 10 at 9: 00 (depending on age and grade). After finishing homework, children can spend their time freely before going to bed.
& gt& gt23. Mood has a great influence on people's life, work and study. A positive mood makes people full of vitality and spirit, brave to overcome difficulties and improve the efficiency of study and work. Negative and unhealthy mentality will make people listless, lazy and weak, thus being passive and reducing the efficiency of study and work.
& gt& gt24. It's not complicated to say, that is, taking hints as a tool to relax learners' body and mind, making them in a happy state, and then the input of knowledge becomes extremely smooth.
& gt& gt25. Give your child a small goal, so that he can gain a sense of accomplishment and improve his concentration. We should set a practical goal. If we give an operational definition to an actual goal, it is that this goal should be in the child's "zone of proximal development".
& gt& gt First, the goal should be clear and specific.
& gt& gt Second, the child's condition is gradually improved rather than instantly subverted.
& gt& gt Third, we should break down the target.
& gt& gt Fourth, set a timetable for achieving the goal.
& gt& gt26. Parents+school = the optimal solution of focusing on education.
4.6 Family training methods for hyperactive children
& gt& gt27. First, "create an interconnected childhood".
& gt& gt Keep in touch with friends and communities. Friendship makes life meaningful. Children should be encouraged to make more friends and keep friendship with friends. Parents should set an example and spend more time with their friends.
& gt& gt Contact the school. The key point is not how your grades are, but whether you feel comfortable, popular and full of energy at school.
& gt& gt is associated with your favorite activities. Encourage children to try everything. Childhood is the age of exploration. Find out what you like, love and don't care about. The more activities you like, the more likely you are to be happy all your life. Connect with the past. Cultivate children's connection with the past, such as listening to grandparents telling stories, telling stories about their childhood and family traditions, struggles, victories and hopes. Connect with nature or a special place. As long as children are taken out to play, they will naturally connect with nature. You can take them to special places, such as tree houses or natural rivers, which is part of childhood life. Connecting with art, music, nursery rhymes, dressing up and painting, children are born artists. Once they are associated with art, they will gradually develop a lifelong interest. Communicate with pets. Every child should have his own pet, because pets provide irreplaceable special connections.
& gt& gt28. Second, take part in sports activities.
& gt& gt29. Third, play games. "I'm quiet" game
& gt& gt psychologists suggest that modern families spend five minutes sitting quietly with their children every day to experience the happiness and joy brought by silence. Sitting still can play games, which is very popular in European and American families now.
& gt& gt30. The cultivation of ability is a process from external behavior to internal psychological quality, and long-term regular practice is a necessary condition.
& gt& gt3 1. The teacher speaks at the speed of 4G, while "Learning God" listens at the speed of Wifi and "Learning Overlord" remembers at the speed of 3G. Some students watch at the speed of 2G, some students are disconnected when listening, some students have been in flight mode, a few students have not opened the data connection at all, and some even turn off their computers automatically at the beginning of class.
& gt& gt32. Second, set up "centralized police".
& gt& gt The couple never help their children with their homework! But every day after dinner, a family of four will gather around a square table and read their own books. In my opinion, studying together is to create the best environment for children. This invisible force can calm children down. Over time, children's distraction will be improved.
& gt& gt33. The first method is to change the assessment indicators.
& gt& gt No longer takes time as the assessment standard, but takes the degree of task completion as the assessment index.
& gt& gt Fight if you can, and make up your mind if you can't; It's up to you how long you can play. The faster you do your homework, the more time you play. You can play. You have been playing for a long time. Congratulations from your parents! Can't play, and can't blame others. That is the result of your procrastination.
& gt& gt34. The second method is subsection operation.
& gt& gt35. The third method is the token reward method.
5.3 Shortcut to improve performance: Re-understanding the insignificant "small problems"
& gt& gt36. The fifth is to train children's self-control and concentration.
5.4 Let children never forget the table tennis match.
& gt& gt37. If you want to change your child's careless behavior, please provide your child with a clean and orderly family environment first. Imitation learning is the most important learning form for children, and the power of environmental edification is better than a thousand words.
& gt& gt38. Another reason why children are neglected is that parents do too much.
& gt& gt39. In psychology, there is a "100% theory"-if parents do everything, children don't have to do it; Parents don't do 20% of things, and children can complete 20%; If parents don't do 80% of things, children can accomplish 80%, and their potential is developed. Everyone is thinking about things, and children don't have to worry about anything. Don't forget things!
The substitution of parents for children's behavior actually stifles the development of children's ability. If there is no chance of practice at all, how can we develop?
& gt& gt Let children do what they need to do; Let the children do what they can; Let children be responsible for what they are responsible for.
& gt& gt If a child loses something, don't buy him a new one immediately. Let him help with housework at home and earn some pocket money to save and buy it himself. Let them experience the hard-won things, and be careful next time.
& gt& gt children are often left behind because they can always get special care, so they don't take losing things seriously. "
& gt& gt Put the ping-pong bat flat on your chest, keep it balanced and don't lean. Then put the ping-pong ball gently in the middle of the racket. After the ball is placed stably, take your hands off, keep your eyes on the ping-pong ball, and start counting from the time when the ping-pong ball is placed stably until the ping-pong ball falls off the racket. If you want to keep table tennis from falling, what you need most is high concentration. This game can also be played by father and son, mother and son to see who can land the table tennis first-the game will increase the interest of the activity.
5.5 Several small ways to easily cultivate children's sense of time.
& gt& gt The first method is to train the concept of time with an hourglass.
& gt& gt The second method is to plan time with children.
& gt& gt The third method is to let children actively manage their time.
& gt& gt Parents and friends, please remember: We must draw a clear line and divide things into your business and mine. I am responsible for my business, and you are responsible for your business, not only for learning activities, but also for all activities.
Appendix 2 Parents have these characteristics, and it is difficult for children to be excellent.
& gt& gt When you are about to finish reading this book, I will list the characteristics of 18 excellent parents one by one to remind you that only by following scientific laws can you realize your initial heart.
& gt& gt You must take good care of your children's various test papers and exercise books, which are very valuable. As parents, we must understand that mistakes in test papers are often the best starting point to improve our grades.
& gt& gt Always remember the secret of efficient learning: not seize every minute to learn, but seize every minute to learn.
& gt& gt When educating and cultivating children, we must abandon the "perfect complex".
& gt& gt strive to break the vicious circle and establish a virtuous circle. Reward and encourage success, and let children set positive goals instead of default failure. Positive thinking is the biggest challenge for families with inattentive children. Once children start to think positively, the results will be good.
Appendix 3 Educational topics that you are absolutely interested in
& gt& gt Zhuang Ziyun said, "Great love is seamless." This sentence means that invisibility and silence are the highest realm of music; Spring breeze and rain are the greatest love. Education, like love, a good education should be seamless. The heavier the trace of education, the worse the effect of education. The atmosphere is harmonious, the process is simple and the scene is casual.