Lu Yuji Cui Cunyang: "If you plant beans, your seedlings are beans; if you plant melons, your seedlings are melons."

Galatians 6: What a man reaps is what he reaps. He who sows according to his own desires will reap destruction from it. He who sows according to the Holy Spirit will have eternal life from the Holy Spirit. "

All of the above are talking about causality.

Causality is the most basic law in life, which basically affects the operation of everything in the world and the normal operation of society. If you are keen on smoking, drinking and staying up late, you are likely to be sick and weak; If you eat moderately, live regularly and exercise regularly, you are likely to be healthy and have fewer patients. If you are kind to others, you will easily get good returns. If you have malice towards others, you are usually full of malice.

What is the relationship between causality and children's education?

Causality theory is more effective for adults, but sometimes it seems ineffective for children. For example, children never set an alarm clock to get up early, and they should often be late, but rarely; Personal belongings are thrown about at will and never cleaned up. The room should be messy, but it will still be neat. I don't know what my homework is every day. I shouldn't have finished my homework that day, but I can hand it in on time and calmly the next day. I can't brush my teeth, I don't like taking a bath, I should be sloppy, but I can go out quietly every day;

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Doesn't the law of causality work for children?

No, it's just that children's causal laws are sometimes disturbed, often by parents who have no concept of "boundary". There is no "boundary". Simply put, I just can't figure out what is my business, what is his business and what is God's business.

As a parent, is it his business or mine to get up for school on time? If you insist that it's my business, please just quit reading this article. If you still have the basic judgment that this is the child's own business, then what happened when you woke him up? Help children? In the name of love?

It's like a man knocking over a glass and it falls off the table. Falling this cause should lead to the "breaking" of the fruit. But we caught it and interfered with the cause and effect. We thought we had recovered the loss, but in fact the law of causality has not been revoked. The quilt is not broken, but you may have been scalded by the boiling water in the cup, or even if there is no water in the cup, you are at least more or less frightened. These have all been transferred to the cause, but the person who planted the cause has not suffered: you are suffering for him.

It is a law that whoever plants a career will bear fruit. If you always "endorse" irresponsible children and let yourself bear those "bills"-whether physical, emotional or spiritual, then your children will continue to spend money on irresponsible humanitarian roads, drifting away, and irresponsibility will always accompany him throughout his life until he leaves your "love" arms and comes into contact with the "normal" causal era. At that time, did he still have time and opportunity to go abroad?

You said, I also reason with my children, sometimes severely, sometimes even scolding.

But in fact, if you are a competent parent, it is very simple to do. Don't interfere with the law of cause and effect, let the children reap the fruits they deserve.

If you get up from time to time, it is easy to be late for school; If you don't pay attention to the cleanliness of the room, bringing your own room will inevitably become a "kennel"; If you don't continue your daily study tasks seriously, you won't hand in your homework the next day, and it is inevitable that the teacher will criticize you severely. Without learning how to take a bath, several grades of children still count on their parents to take a bath, making him sweaty and untidy until he realizes that he needs to learn skills by himself.

Babies need to be taken care of, but for adult children, there is no need to be reasonable. Questioning has no effect, and scolding will only be bring disgrace to oneself. What you need to do is not to interfere with the law of causality.