I have some thoughts on this issue:
1, live separately from the elderly.
If conditions permit, young couples can live alone, and if they raise their own children, they should try to live separately from the elderly, which can avoid many unnecessary disputes and contradictions.
2. Learn scientific parenting methods and assume the responsibilities of parents.
If we can't live separately from the old people and have to live together, then young parents, as younger generations, must first understand that the old people love their children as much as we do, but they convey their love in different ways. Because the old people have experienced it and raised us as children, they have their own parenting experience. They are very confident about it. In their minds, they will think that since I can raise my children, my grandchildren can certainly do the same.
At the same time, they are a little uneasy about their young parents. In their eyes, we will always be children. As new parents, we have no experience and methods at all, and we often can't handle problems well. If this is the reason, then what parents need to do is to learn scientific parenting methods and prove to the old people with their own practical actions that we can and can do better. Let yourself master the initiative of parenting, let the elderly feel at ease and be willing to let go, so that contradictions can be resolved.
3. Respect the elderly and conduct nonviolent communication and expression.
When there are differences with the elderly in parenting, we must know how to control our emotions. Don't make rude accusations or tough denials to the elderly in front of others, especially children, but always respect the elderly and listen carefully in a calm state. If you feel inappropriate, communicate effectively with the elderly in private when appropriate. For example, you can tell the elderly some news events or examples of people around you, so that they can know the bad consequences caused by some bad educational methods. If you are in-laws, if you are a daughter-in-law, you can ask your husband to convey it.
4. Have a harmonious relationship and live in harmony.
It is said that home and everything prosper, and a happy family is built with each other's hearts. When family members can live in harmony and have a harmonious relationship, problems will naturally be solved well without barriers and contradictions. There will always be problems and difficulties of one kind or another in life. When we have a positive heart that is not afraid of difficulties, face life with a problem-solving mentality, and complain less, we will naturally get the beautiful life we want.