Parents should care more about their children after work. Many parents will educate their children because of their busy work, but parents should be clear about the good and bad of intergenerational education. After making this decision, I will share the advantages and disadvantages of intergenerational education with you.
The quality of intergenerational education 1 What is intergenerational education?
Intergenerational education refers to the upbringing and education of grandparents to their grandchildren. Some young parents, either because of busy work or because of divorce, put all the responsibility for their children's education on grandparents, and grandparents have become "modern parents" who take care of the third generation in an all-round way.
China is one of the few countries in the world where "intergenerational education" is widespread. In foreign countries, children enter kindergartens and nurseries at an early age, and only when they are 18 years old are independent adults, and there is basically no intergenerational education.
Nearly 50% of the children in the towns of China grew up with their grandparents. The younger the child, the higher the proportion of living with grandparents. With the formation of the aging trend of society, the phenomenon of intergenerational education is becoming more and more common. Under the pressure of life, study and work, how to undertake the responsibility of family education has become a social problem.
As an objective way of family education, intergenerational education has a great influence on children's personality development. Therefore, we should clearly understand the advantages and disadvantages of intergenerational education, give full play to its educational advantages, and seriously overcome all kinds of negative effects, so as to improve the existing family education situation of children and make them grow up happily and healthily.
What are the benefits of intergenerational education?
1. Grandparents' love and care for grandchildren is incomparable to any child care institution or nanny. They have enough time and energy and are willing to pay for their baby, which is conducive to the baby's psychological support and emotional stability and relieves parents' worries.
2. intergenerational education solves the problem that parents cannot educate and take care of their children because of busy work and other reasons.
Grandparents have a childlike innocence, and it is easy to establish harmonious feelings with their grandchildren, which creates a good emotional foundation for educating children and is conducive to the physical and mental health of grandparents and grandchildren.
4. The high divorce rate in cities makes many babies grow up in single-parent families, and grandparents can make up for the lack of gender roles in such families, which has a positive effect on the baby's healthy gender cognition.
Grandparents have rich practical experience in raising and educating babies.
Disadvantages of intergenerational education
1, it is easy to ignore children's growth needs: grandparents are not afraid of children falling and bumping, or they are afraid of children playing with problems, and their thoughts are relatively conservative. It is believed that as long as children don't knock or touch, they don't understand their nature of playing sports and their age and physiological characteristics, which hinders their normal sports and development.
2. Obsolete ideas: The educational years of grandparents' parents in intergenerational families are obviously lower than those of their parents, and their educational ideas are outdated and backward. In close contact with children, grandparents' ideas will be inadvertently spread to children, while some grandparents will unconsciously impart many feudal superstitions to children because of their low culture and old ideas, which invisibly increases the difficulty for children to accept new ideas and knowledge.
3. It has a great influence on children's personality development. Parenting in different generations may lead to psychological variation of children and some psychological problems, such as psychological aging, social phobia, eccentric personality and psychological fragility.
4. It is easy to spoil children. Most grandparents often have the idea that because of the living and working conditions when they were young, they did not take good care of their children, but compensated for more love for their grandchildren, leading to excessive doting on their children.
It is easy to cause emotional estrangement between children and parents. Children are separated from their parents for a long time, lacking proper communication and exchange, and the distance between space and time will also widen their psychological distance.
Key Success Points of Intergenerational Education
1, don't always hold the child, let the child get in touch with nature and do more outdoor activities, at least 1 hour every day.
2. Don't let children crawl around just because they are afraid of danger. Let your child lie in bed or car. As long as you pay attention to protection, nothing will happen.
3. If there are conceptual conflicts between the two generations, we should communicate more and don't stick to our own opinions. Old people can read more books and periodicals on modern parenting, get in touch with some new ideas and methods of parenting, and improve their scientific level of parenting.
4, don't do everything, let the children do what they can.
Don't use psychological compensation to raise grandchildren just because you don't meet your children's needs.
6. More communication and exchange of parenting experience in peacetime can also make up for the lack of intergenerational education.
7. Avoid indulging children's habit of eating snacks.
8. Children's parents restrict their children's affairs, and elders should not intervene and try to be consistent with their parents.
9. Don't always wear too many clothes for your child, which will affect your child's athletic ability and resistance.
10, children's taste should be light, avoid cooking with their own taste, and let children eat too salty.
1 1, don't buy things to please children, otherwise it is easy for children to form the bad habit of bargaining and rolling with adults.
The quality of intergenerational education: Is intergenerational education good or not?
Nowadays, many families give their children to the elderly to raise and educate their grandchildren for various reasons. This kind of upbringing and education from ancestors is called intergenerational education, which has both advantages and disadvantages.
The favorable factors are as follows:
1, the elderly have a lot of parenting experience, plenty of time and enough patience.
2. Because of the consanguineous relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, the elderly will instinctively be friendly to their grandchildren, which will provide psychological basis for Separate child care's success.
Most old people often have a child mentality, especially like to play with children, and it is easy to form a harmonious relationship. Therefore, it creates good opportunities and conditions for educating children.
The rich life knowledge and profound life experience of the elderly provide capital and authority for educating children.
However, due to the limitations of historical conditions and age characteristics, there are inevitably some unfavorable factors, and I should have a clear understanding of this.
The disadvantages of intergenerational education are:
1, easily spoiled.
Due to the limited living and working conditions when they were young, most old people often have the idea of giving more love to their grandchildren instead of taking good care of their children. This kind of thinking often leads to the phenomenon of "intergenerational habits". Old people love their grandchildren too much and indulge their children everywhere, which easily leads to children's strong willful dependence and low self-care ability. There are also some old people who "protect their weaknesses" because they love their children too much, resulting in children's weaknesses not being corrected for a long time.
2. Old ideas.
Although the times have changed greatly, many old people still demand their children with old ideas, teach them too much old experience, and lack the cultivation of pioneering spirit and divergent thinking. There are also some old people who unconsciously teach their children a lot of feudal superstitions because of their low culture and old ideas, which invisibly increases the difficulty for children to accept new ideas and knowledge.
3. Causing emotional estrangement between children and parents.
The old people's doting on their grandchildren and protecting their shortcomings make it difficult for their children to accept their parents' strict demands and criticisms, and it is also easy to form emotional barriers and emotional opposition, making it difficult to carry out normal and necessary education.