Family education is very important.
Children grow up like adults. After school, family education is an important supplement to school education. It can be said that the development of children's quality and character mainly depends on family education, not school education.
Here is an article for everyone: the importance of family education.
1. In modern society, parents are faced with an unprecedented, unprecedented and severe one-child education problem.
Families with many children have parents on the first floor and children on the first floor, forming a complete social relationship. The one-child family has only one layer of parents, and a child cannot form a layer of society, which is an incomplete social relationship.
Our ancestors did not leave our generation with the experience of educating the only child. It used to be the idea of having more children and being happy. For example, in the past society, a family had several children and often "competed" for one thing. It is common for children to "grab" meals. I have developed a sense of "competition" since I was a child. Nowadays, most families are only children, and parents let their children do everything, even feed them bit by bit. The only child in the family has no partner and children to "grab" things, and the children lack competitors.
The only child will cry after falling. His parents are anxious for eight people to help him. But this is not because the child cried because of pain, but because the child cried when he saw his parents in a panic. He won't get up unless you help him. Such children will develop "femininity". This phenomenon is very common. If there are several children in the family, and one child falls down, the parents may not be able to help him, so he will not rely on others and stand up by himself. In this way, children will form a good habit of relying on themselves in everything.
In the one-child family, parents always let their children go. Parents are not as knowledgeable as their children. Some children beat adults, but adults dare not. When playing games, children can only win but not lose; Parents give their children what they like. Parents won't let things they don't like appear in front of their children, and so on. These let children develop a kind of "self-respect", everything must be the first, and they can't suffer. When the only child grows up, it is very likely that he will not be able to eat when he goes to school or goes out to society. Because after leaving home, no one will let them go like their parents. Once they encounter setbacks, they will feel that the world has changed, they can't stand it, and they even hate learning or society. At this time, parents need to "share knowledge with their children" at an appropriate time, play the role of brothers and sisters, and deliberately steal things from their children. Children beat their parents, and parents should also beat their children. Let the child know the world from an early age, not for him alone, otherwise the child will not grow up.
Many only children lack a sense of responsibility. This is because parents never let their children take responsibility for one thing, and the responsibility has always been borne by parents. How can a child who has never been responsible for one thing have a sense of responsibility? Therefore, once such a child enters the school, when the teacher asks them to undertake heavy learning tasks, he is very unaccustomed, tries his best to escape, does not feel at ease in attending classes, and his homework is slow or even impossible to complete. The main reason is the lack of responsibility training and exercise.
Nowadays, family education is one-off, and once a mistake is made, it is difficult to have a chance to correct it. Some people didn't get a good education before, and after learning the lesson, their second child can get a good education. There is no such opportunity now. Children don't get a good education in early childhood, and if they come back to primary school to remedy it, the effect will be far from good. Because every stage of children's growth has its own laws and characteristics.
Parents should send their children out, bring in other people's children, and let the only child have more contact with friends.
Parents can't meet all the requirements of their children, so they should divide their children's requirements into two categories: reasonable requirements and unreasonable requirements. Good children can't develop willfulness, and wayward children are spoiled by their parents.
Parents' duplicity is the worst way of education, which destroys children's self-esteem, self-reliance, willfulness, dependence and incompetence. It also shows that parents can't control their emotions, which is obviously a manifestation of mental health. A mentally healthy parent should treat children as independent people and help them grow up as much as possible. Growth is mainly a matter for children, not for parents. For children, parents are mentors, reliable friends and strong backers, not commanders, slaves and saviors.
Second, on the whole, China society has never been so rich as it is now. Now our life goes from difficulties to food and clothing to prosperity.
There is an old saying in our country that "children from poor families take charge early", and many children from poor families have been admitted to universities. This is because they have lived in a poor family since childhood, and they know that only hard work can get out of trouble. Some parents give their children a lot of money. How can children study hard with money? These parents also said that my child didn't study hard because I gave him so much money. This is the money to buy children to study, and no amount of money can buy good children. Everyone should understand that there are things in the world that attract children to learn more than money. Parents should realize that "money" is far from studying and close to eating, drinking and having fun. Giving children a lot of money is tantamount to guiding them to try to eat, drink and be merry. When children grow up, they will not make money, but will only spend money. Because the money is given by parents, if you don't have it, you can ask your parents for it again. This method of cultivating children is unworkable, wrong and even more dangerous.
Some parents bought many expensive toys for their children, but the children didn't like to play with them. They are interested in sand, mud and water. Why is this? Because children have no values, expensive toys are not suitable for children to play with. Water, mud and sand can make children move and change at will and let them see their own strength, so children like to play.
Due to the only child and the quality of parents, many of our families have become "family special zones" and "family greenhouses". The temperature difference between family and society is too great. At home, children are overprotected and arranged instead. Children have little chance to stand on their own feet, and of course they don't grow up. Parents actually "don't let their children grow up." Parents indulge their children too much in life, riding brand-name bicycles, wearing brand-name clothes, constantly giving pocket money and engaging in "super-level consumption". It is to guide children to develop rapidly in eating, drinking and having fun. As a result, children's ability to adapt to society is seriously lagging behind, and their desire for consumption is greatly expanded. They have not learned the ability to make money, but their ability to spend money is greater than their parents'.
No matter how rich parents are, they should not show off in front of their children, but should pretend to be poor appropriately. The previous sentence "No matter how poor you are, you can't have poor children" is wrong. No matter how rich you are, you can't have rich children, and no matter how poor you are, you can't have poor education. The bigger the wallet, the more knowledge parents should have. Parents should not be offside and have the responsibility to meet their children's basic needs, but not their greed and vanity. It is good to dare to "contribute" to the growth of children, but you can't be a "slave". Dare to "sacrifice" for children is not the same as being a "slave" for children. If these two concepts are confused, it will destroy children and parents.
If you are already a parent and are not well prepared, you must make up lessons quickly, because you can't say to your child, "son, wait for me, I am learning how to be a parent."
Third, today is an era when information is moving from closed to open. Radio, TV and Internet, including some unhealthy information, have many sources of knowledge for children. Children's little brains can't handle this knowledge correctly, which leads to children's aversion to learning. The teacher's class is no better than storytelling, and the content is no better than Little Swallow. Children can't be blamed for being tired of learning, because what attracts children more is to compete with schools and teachers for their attention. In order to improve their children's academic performance, parents either forced their children to study or beat them, which led some children to run away from home. Parents are now required to learn more attractive learning methods than radio, television and the Internet. This is a very high art. On the surface, watching TV will affect children's study time. In fact, this is just a small matter. The key is that TV cartoons and the like are all thinking in images. Children often read such things with pictures, forming books without pictures that they don't like to read. Because after school, especially in junior high school and senior high school, books are either fonts or formulas, which are abstract things. Children don't like learning, and they think learning is terrible and boring, and they can't attract their attention like pictures.
Television has played an important role in this abnormal development. Watching TV for a long time greatly reduces children's practical ability. Because watching TV requires neither hands nor mouth, only eyes and ears. Television has cultivated children's virtual attitude towards life, that is, they like to watch other people's lives and let others live for themselves, rather than creating their own lives, which will inevitably hinder children's growth and weaken their abilities. On the other hand, TV has greatly stimulated children's entertainment psychology and sexual awareness. In order to capture the audience, the first principle of TV is "good-looking" and full of entertainment, which breaks the boundary between adults and children. There are some words that adults can say behind their children's backs. What TV says doesn't matter what it says, and it reveals many secrets of adults. Children hear a lot of things they shouldn't hear and see a lot of scenes they shouldn't see. It can be seen that from the perspective of negative effects alone, TV has done two bad things at the same time: it not only makes children grow up, but also promotes their abnormal development.
Once such children enter school, especially society, they will be dull and clumsy, unable to communicate with others, and always like to retreat into their own world.
Nowadays, parents have changed from making their children make a living to making their children get rich. It turns out that all you have to do is find a "rice bowl" where you can eat enough. It's different now. Times have changed. Parents should keep a calm mind. Parents used to follow the school and let their children listen to the teacher. Now, parents are changing from logistics service to all-round counseling. Many parents help teachers dictate new words to their children, check their homework and become "second teachers". After the children finish their homework, the parents will ask them to do other tutoring questions. If children do too much and can't play fast, they will do problems while playing, so that children can study hard? Children should play longer than adults. It is wrong for parents to force and watch their children study.
Many parents have turned their attachment to school into freedom. Parents have their own ideas and methods of educating their children and don't follow the school. Because the school is a collective education, it is impossible to teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Only parents can do this. Parents can adopt corresponding educational methods according to their children's characteristics. On the one hand, parents should respect schools and teachers, on the other hand, they should have their own set of educational methods. The future of children is a matter for parents. Schools and teachers are just "railway policemen" who only care about children's education at a certain stage of their lives, while parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers.
Many parents pay special attention to their children's academic performance because it plays a great role in their children's future. So academic performance is determined by the level of school education? Not necessarily, it should be said that it is largely determined by family education. Because family education determines children's learning psychology, and learning psychology is the most important factor in learning.
What is the really effective cooperation between school education and family education? We should do our own work well and give full play to our respective advantages. If the school forces parents to be "learning counselors" and "supervisors" intentionally or unintentionally, it will inevitably lead to confusion of parents' roles. In the end, "teaching assistant" will not be good, and parents will not be good, forming a situation in which school education and family education seem to be "consistent" but actually split. The most important advantage of parents is affection, and the most important task is to cultivate children's good non-intellectual factors, and they can't do what parents are amateurs-learning, which is the guiding role of the school.
Whoever does not attach importance to family education is destroying the happiness of himself and his family.
Family education often affects more than one generation. Those excellent parents can not only educate their children well, but also ensure the growth of the next generation. Because he has established a good family style and a good family education tradition. Therefore, family education will affect the future of the family and must not be sloppy.
It has become common sense that human beings must not exchange industrial development at the expense of the environment; Similarly, children's physical health, mental health and moral health should not be sacrificed in exchange for high school enrollment rate and parents' satisfaction. In the near future, this will surely become the consensus of people.
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