Entering the middle school stage, children's self-awareness is rapidly enhanced. However, because this generation of children "mature" mainly through external information dissemination, rather than their own real experience, so it can be said to be mature. There is a contradiction between the two, which leads children to break away from the shackles of their parents, and parents still regard their children as their original children. Children think they know everything, but most of them learn it from second-hand channels such as the Internet. Some information has deteriorated or distorted after repeated dissemination, so it is difficult for children to obtain accurate and objective information. In addition, it is difficult for this generation of children to grow up calmly and naturally, and their psychology will soon mature. The child's mental state directly affects the child's mental state and learning attitude in this period, and also affects the child's attitude towards life. Therefore, paying close attention to children's psychological changes is the primary task of parents. A student's psychological state directly affects his future character. What parents should do is to observe in place rather than over-intervene, to prevent minor delays rather than make a clean break, and to communicate and guide rather than be overbearing and arbitrary.
Good health, overdraft credit card and future pressure and competitive demand become contradictions.
It is healthy to use physical credit cards to overdraw consumption too early, and the basic savings of physical conditions are not enough, which is contradictory to the overdraft pressure in the future. At present, the burden of middle school students is still relatively heavy, with more homework and less exercise at night. I have to go to school very early in the morning, and parents usually have to rush to work, so it is generally difficult to have morning exercises. For example, it is difficult for the previous generation of fathers to accompany their children in the morning, and it is rare for mothers to dance with their children in the community. The first thing parents should do is to reduce the burden and urge their children to improve their learning efficiency instead of putting pressure on them, rather than just ensuring the study time. Middle school is a period of children's rapid physical growth. It should be said that paying attention to students' physical condition plays an important role. This generation of children in the future will face great external environmental variables, so it is necessary to reserve a healthy body from an early age. The efficiency of children's study at night needs to be improved, and the situation of writing things before going to bed after dinner needs to be adjusted. If the child is inattentive, inattentive and careless when studying, even if the child's study habits cannot be well developed, the cultivation of concentration will be delayed, and the child will lose valuable physical and mental correction period, which is not worth the candle.
The utilitarianism of hobbies conflicts with the requirement of cultivating a sound personality.
Today's children sometimes "lose interest" in hobbies that their parents or the outside world think, largely because these so-called hobbies are utilitarian and technical. In addition, many interest classes or games deviate from children's natural needs, resulting in children's lack of rigid education to get close to and explore nature. At this time, the child's hobbies are still very uncertain, and any development may affect his life. Therefore, parents need to effectively guide their children at this stage and cultivate their sustainable hobbies. This is more meaningful to their future.
Calcium supplementation learning is contradictory to the learning ability needed in the future.
This is the contradiction between short-term goals and long-term goals. Children study ahead of time or deliberately study harder, which leads to their limited interest in learning, lack of long-term preparation in methods and abilities, and their learning stamina is generally insufficient. Yu Xinchun said that the two need to be unified. The ability to focus solely on the future has not improved children's grades. This kind of education is not desirable. Similarly, the learning mode of cramming children into school blindly without paying attention to methods is also contrary to the needs of children's sustainable development. Parents need to pay attention to children's academic performance and learning ability at the same time. It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. Let children master more effective learning ability, in fact, academic performance is often more stable, the rise is more lasting, and the effect is often more obvious.
The contradiction between exam-oriented education and quality education
Yu Xinchun said that at present, we should be alert to the resurgence of the ideological trend of reading uselessness. He said that since it is a degree, it is unrealistic not to take the exam. Talent selection is often carried out through examinations. At present, there is no fairer, more objective and more scientific way than examination, and examination is the most important, controversial and least criticized competitive way to select talents. Education has many aspects, and knowledge and ability are inseparable. Today's middle school students, the pressure of entering a higher school is not only a matter of graduating class, but also the pressure of learning is always accompanied by the growth of children. Improving children's learning ability is an issue that every parent is extremely concerned about. However, it is often more effective to really prescribe the right medicine instead of blindly rushing to the doctor. Advocating quality education is not to avoid exams, but to make the exam mechanism and methods more scientific and keep pace with the times. The idea of opposing exam-oriented education and quality education not only goes against reality, but also misleads parents' judgment and even delays the growth of this generation of children.
Family education is "school-oriented", and there is no contradiction between school education and family education.
Many parents are busy at work during the day, and they have to accompany their children to do their homework at night, and even help them with their homework. Some teachers explicitly ask parents what to do. At present, some schools blindly transfer the educational function of schools to parents, which weakens the educational function of schools and makes family education school-oriented. Children live under two systems, and the information is not uniform. Parents even become their children's extracurricular class teachers. For many middle school students, especially the graduating class, their daily life is basically maintained at two points and one line. Therefore, in addition to the relationship with parents, school life has become the most important thing for middle school students. Whether the relationship with teachers and classmates can be handled well has also become a concern of many parents. For middle school students in the period of youth transition, they are often reluctant to share their school life with their parents, who are often very concerned about their children's school life. Yu Xinchun said that caring for children's school life in an appropriate way can not only keep abreast of children's state, but also increase their intimacy with children, which can not be ignored.
The traditional concept of education was blocked, and the new concept of education was not formed.
This generation of children directly face the changing society. In the stage of social transformation, the development space of the original educational ideas is blocked, and foreign educational ideas enter in various forms. At the same time, the parents of this generation of children are generally highly educated. They not only expect their children to grow up in an open way, but also use their own shadows to restrain their development. Contradictions and changes are everywhere, which leads to the imperfection of the theoretical system of foreign teachers for children. Parents are children's first teachers, and they are also "positions" that they can't quit. Although the children entering school have more contact, the family is still an important place for every middle school student to study and live. How to deal with the relationship with children has become a problem that every parent must face. Whether to be a strict parent or a child's friend, each parent's choice is different, but the ultimate goal should be to create a good family environment for children, which is conducive to their growth.
The contradiction between children's self-cutting and emotional variation
Physiological changes affect psychological changes, and psychological changes promote physiological changes. In addition to parents, teachers and classmates, children are increasingly exposed to society. At this time, children often hide their changes and want to cut off contact with their parents: parents are not allowed to touch their mobile phones, enter the room, rummage through their schoolbags and answer the phone. During this time, the objects he associates with are likely to have an impact on his future. Parents should pay attention to this change of children, and don't panic in the face of this change of children. Parents should adapt to this change in their children and not shirk their responsibilities and blame them. At this time, children need to communicate with outsiders more. Positive communication will make their minds mature in a stable way. We should try our best to guide children to associate with friends who have a positive effect on him, but friends who have a negative effect on him must guard against procrastination, teach children to judge themselves and let them naturally break away from their inner values.
The contradiction between the uncertainty of future education direction and ideal expectation
At present, the education reform is progressing steadily, and parents are at a loss to adapt to this change quickly. What changes have been made in the new curriculum reform, and what impact it has on children's senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination, which has become the most concerned issue for parents. However, in any case, parents should pay more attention to the improvement of their children's learning ability and deal with uncertainty with their children's deterministic learning ability.
Send a crutch or input ability for in-class and out-of-class study.
Although the study burden of middle school students is heavy enough at present, due to the strong pressure of study and further education, extracurricular tutoring has become an inevitable choice for many parents to invest in their children's education, whether for improving their grades or for sprinting to better high schools and universities. However, in the face of numerous counseling institutions, how to choose a counseling institution and tutor with high credibility and suitable for children has become a headache for many parents. Choosing an institution with a good reputation that children like and are suitable for can often get twice the result with half the effort. Parents should choose carefully, make rational judgments on their children's learning input, and inject strong and reliable power into their children's sustainable learning ability.