1 will make children feel inferior and conceited. Inferiority and conceit are understandable. They are extremely distrustful of themselves, denying themselves or proving themselves through extremes. Often denying children will make them feel that they are not recognized and that their existence is wrong.
2, will make children self-loathing, low sense of self-identity in Zhihu, some netizens said that they are often denied by their parents, feeling that "(parents) are two normal people, educating me about this abnormality". Parents often deny their children and say no to them, which will make them feel low in self-identity, think that they are "wrong in everything", "wrong in everything they do" and unable to accept themselves and the outside world. When I encounter setbacks, I will deny myself first and be disappointed in myself.
3. When children grow up, they will complain about their parents online. Every time I see parents' wrong behavior towards their children, I will see a bunch of young people complaining about their parents below. In the comments, I have seen such a sentence: "My parents may have difficulties, but I will always remember what they said to me, and my pain for more than 20 years comes from this." Parents' repressive education makes children want to resist, want to resist their parents' "negation", get along with their parents often in a violent state, and want to escape from their parents.
This will turn children from victims into abusers. We have to admit that it is a kind of "mental injury" in disguise to disagree and deny the value of children for a long time. When children grow up, everything parents do to their children will become the core of their education for the next generation. In other words, children will treat their children like this when they become parents in the future. Perhaps if parents think about it carefully, they will find that their repressive education for their children once happened in their childhood. There are some things that affect children more than parents think.
Therefore, parents should give priority to positive education and guidance, give more support and encouragement, rather than taking extreme violence to suppress. This will only make their children worse and worse, which is not conducive to their healthy development in the future.