First, rank children according to their age and developmental characteristics. In other words, children's labor should conform to the development characteristics of this age stage.
Parents should observe where their children's labor interests are. Some parents always complain about hard work, and as a result, their children turn a deaf ear to manual labor. In fact, most children aged three or four like to help others and love their work, such as helping their mothers pick vegetables or wash rice, because children will get positive feedback during their work-I can help their mothers work!
So parents should observe what their children like to do. If they like to play with water, they can ask their children to start washing dishes. If you like to take a mop, let the children start mopping the floor.
Second, parents should be specific when assigning labor tasks to their children. Because kindergarten children are far less sensible than adults, parents need to tell their children clearly what to do. First of all, we should make clear the content of labor, whether it is mopping the floor, washing vegetables or wiping the table, and also tell the children how to do it, such as where to mop the floor and what to use.
Then parents can show their children how to do it once. Parents should pay attention to observation when their children are working, and encourage them in time if they are doing well. If it is not done well, parents should help their children and solve the problems in the process of childbirth in time.
Third, give children timely encouragement and appreciation. In the early stage of cultivating children's work, parents must accompany their children, give them encouragement in time, encourage their willingness to work, and praise their work process. If the child is tired, let the child have a rest and find a small bench for the child to sit on for a while. It is also necessary to make clear the reference standards and not to ask too much of children.
The purpose of labor is to make children interested in labor and let them work, so it doesn't matter if children don't sweep the floor. Parents should dilute the results and give their children more encouragement in the process.
Fourth, parents should show weakness appropriately. Children are naturally willing to help others and are more willing to help the weak by their own efforts. Parents should properly disguise their weakness and give their children the opportunity to take care of themselves and help themselves.
Parents can tell their children that they are particularly tired after work today, and ask them if they can pour their mother a glass of water or help her put away her clothes. Parents can stimulate their children's enthusiasm and potential by doing so. Over time, children's awareness of love for work will gradually be cultivated.
Fifth, the reward mechanism of wisdom. What is the reward mechanism of wisdom? Many parents give their children money to wash dishes and sweep the floor in order to let their children work. In this way, labor and money are linked, which destroys the internal driving force of children's labor. Parents should also avoid punishment, because punishment will also undermine their willingness to work.
Wisdom reward mechanism avoids money and material rewards, and gives children more rewards to promote parent-child relationship, such as rewarding children to go to the park, eat and watch movies with the whole family on weekends, so as to show that they cherish the fruits of their children's labor and let them feel that their labor is concerned. Therefore, to make children like labor and participate in labor, they need intelligent, skillful and smarter operation methods.