Many parents find that their children are particularly obedient at school, but they are disobedient at home and can't control them. In fact, the child's environment is different, and his physical and mental development is different. Just like Meng Mu moved three times, in order to create a good learning environment for children, Meng Mu moved three times with the children. Parents should realize this correctly in order to control their children better.
Some parents control their children by hitting them directly. In the end, they found that their children were beaten many times, but there was no big change at all, except that they would obey you just after you beat them. Educating children in this way will not only have no good effect, but even bring bad habits to children and let them use violence to solve future things.
When I was young, my parents would treat their children as treasures and leave everything to them. Some families even spoil their children, not only parents, but also grandparents ... I thought this was love, but when the children grew up, I found their shortcomings. The most terrible thing is that parents can't find out that this is their own problem, and everything thinks it is their own problem.
Learning is a place with rules, and every child will adapt to the school rules when he comes to school. And home is a place where you can do whatever you want from an early age. Only by recognizing the root of the problem can we solve it better. ...
There are more and more questions about the parenting style of grandparents. Obviously, the old education model has not adapted to the vigorous development of society, and the education of children should keep pace with the times. Therefore, for the older generation's education model, young people should work harder to let the older generation really understand the current education model and avoid embarrassing situations. When it comes to grandparents' treatment of children, the first one must be doting. Grandchildren are their pride, and they are afraid of falling. This mode of overindulgence can easily make children develop a spoiled bad temper. They only ask their grandparents for help when they encounter anything, and they lack independence.
The second biggest problem grandparents have with their children must be superstition. The older generation has some superstitious ideas, and traditional ideas have been subtly rooted in their ideology, which is difficult to change. But superstition can't adapt to modern education and should be eliminated. This requires young people to give ideological guidance to their elderly parents. Then, I have to say that it is easy for grandparents to instill their ideological goals into their grandchildren. From the perspective of grandparents, this is a kind of inheritance. But from the child's point of view, this is a kind of pressure. If a person's ideological goals are inconsistent with those given by his grandparents, there will inevitably be disputes or obedience.
Grandparents also have the concept that men are superior to women, and boys can carry on the family line and need extra care; Girls don't need more education when they get married. In fact, the current social form is not an era when men inherit incense, but an era when men and women are equal and everyone can win glory for their families. The last problem is that old people sometimes have extreme personalities and are prone to opinionated opinions, which can easily lead to a war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In addition, the elderly are generally wordy, and the new generation of young people like quiet areas, which is also easy to conflict between the two.