In today's society, it is also influenced by traditional culture: the phrase "the man is the master and the woman is the master" has always been mentioned by us, which means that father and mother have different roles in the family and do different things for the family division of labor. However, in educating children, this sentence does not apply. We often hear "strict father loving mother" and "strict mother loving father". Then, what kind of mode is parents' orientation to educate their children in the family, which will be more suitable for their growth? With this question, let's discuss it together.

First of all, we must understand:

Strict means not criticizing and beating with a serious attitude, but strict discipline. As the saying goes, no rules can make Fiona Fang.

Kindness is not an educational model accustomed to persuasion; Kindness can be understood as: firm and gentle love.

The education of children in the family must be complementary to each other by mom and dad, and it will not be harsh or kind. Someone must play different roles in different family environments, and children will grow up with love and health in constraints. Different families may have different role-playing, which is different for educating boys and girls. Look at how the four groups of families divide their work.

Family 1:

Strict father loving mother boy

For the discipline of boys, it is best to give it to dad. After all, men know men best, and fathers have the greatest influence on the formation of children's personality and three views on life. A strict father, for the family, words carry a lot of weight. Boys who grow up in this atmosphere have masculinity, a sense of responsibility and the courage to bear pressure.

In this family, mothers complement each other and teach their children more about life. These children are kind-hearted and strong in appearance. At the same time, having a loving mother will know how to respect women in the future.

Family 2:

A motherly girl in strict father.

Many people say that their children are the lovers of their fathers' previous lives, but if the father's education is strict in family education, it will make their daughters feel resistant, because girls will have a lot of thoughts to share with their fathers, but the father's role is rigorous, so their daughters' thoughts and thoughts will stay in their hearts, making them feel inferior more easily and not knowing how to communicate with boys.

Summary: family 1, family 2, the education model of loving mother in strict father is actually more suitable for boys in the family. A basic view recognized by the educational circles is that a strong mother is bound to be weak. But strict father's loving mother is not suitable for girls in the family, and strict father's role is more suitable for girls' inferiority complex, which will also have an impact on girls' future love and marriage.

Family 3:

A loving father and a strict mother

This combination is a typical strong mother will be weak. The role of a strong mother has a strong voice in the family, which often leads to the lack of masculinity that children need to learn from their fathers when they grow up. The boys who grew up in this family have no opinions, and they are afraid that their mother will follow her advice and a timid child will hide behind her.

Family 4:

A girl with a loving father and a strict mother.

This combination is very suitable for the growth of girls. When a girl grows up, she can get her father's love, and her mother's discipline is synchronous. Such a girl will be more obedient. Under the influence of my mother, I will also have my own strong side, because I was under the strong discipline of my mother since childhood. Such girls will also be braver and will not be afraid of being bullied by others.

Summary: The educational model of family 3 and family 4, loving father and strict mother, is more suitable for the growth of girls. The care given by her father is very important, so that the warmth of her love will not cause the loss of character. But for boys, the mother's strength has a great influence on life, which leads to the lack of sunshine for boys.

Of course, the above statement varies from person to person, and you can't kill it with a stick. According to Professor Li Meijin's experience in education, being a boy or a loving mother in strict father is more conducive to the healthy growth of children. Girls need to know more about love and strength under the education of loving fathers and strict mothers.

Finally, education is actually "teaching" and "education". Parents' roles in the family should be divided and cooperated, and what kind of role model should be decided according to their own situation. However, parents still need to pay attention that "strict father's loving mother" and "strict mother's loving father" should have a bottom line principle, and kindness should also have a defined scope. Education is actually a "balance of yin and yang"-good people and bad people. This lifestyle education model will be more suitable for the healthy growth of children.

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