Is there any good way to deal with Xiong Haizi?
Let's look at a short story first.
There is an old man who likes to be quiet and has the habit of taking a firm lunch break at noon. But suddenly one day, during his lunch break, a group of children came to the door. This group of children jumped up and down, making so much noise that the old man was so upset that he couldn't take a lunch break at all. The old man angrily criticized the children. But the anger and criticism of the old people didn't stop them, but they quarreled even more. It has been like this for several days in a row. Whether the old people criticize them, scare them or persuade them, it has no effect at all.
Later, the old man began to think of a way, and suddenly he had a brainwave and thought of a way. So when the naughty children came to make trouble again, he opened the door and told them happily: children, from today on, I decided to invite you to my house every noon to make a scene. Not only will I not be angry with you, but I will also pay you. We will give you ten yuan each today. So the children are very happy to make a hullabaloo about and make noise. Finally, each of them got ten yuan and left happily.
The next day, the children came on time again, and the old man gave them five yuan each. And tell them that grandpa is old and can't earn money, and the money on hand is getting less and less, so they should be given a pay cut. The children got ten yuan yesterday and only five yuan today. Although they were unhappy, they reluctantly accepted it. On the third day, the old people gave them two yuan each. On the fourth day, everyone paid one yuan, and on the fifth day, nothing was given. At this time, the children were very angry and said to the old man, we just want to make a hullabaloo about and work for you. It was clearly agreed that you would give us money, and now you won't give us a penny. We won't be so stupid, and we won't work for you anymore.
Since then, the old man can have a quiet lunch break again.
This story actually uses the principles of internal motivation and external motivation in psychology.
At first, the children were noisy in front of the old man because of their inner motivation, so no matter how the old man persuaded them, they would still make noise every day. Moreover, the more the old people drive them away, the more fun they feel, but it increases their internal motivation, so the noise becomes more severe. But then smart old people began to pay them, and successfully turned their internal motivation into external motivation. When a person's behavior is driven by external motivation, only the greater the external stimulus, can his external motivation be greater. With the decrease of external stimulus, external motivation will also decrease.
Therefore, when the old people start to reduce their wages, their external motivation to make noise will also decrease. When the old people stop paying them, their external motivation will be reduced to zero. There is no external motivation, so there is no motivation to act. So they consciously stopped coming.
For some bad habits of children in daily life, parents may also try this trick. This principle, in turn, is that if something comes from internal motivation, it becomes external motivation when parents reward it repeatedly. On the contrary, it inhibits the child's intrinsic motivation and reduces the child's enthusiasm.
Therefore, knowing more about psychology in daily life can help people solve some small problems in daily life more tactfully. This is a matter of killing several birds with one stone. Why not?
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