2. In China's policy documents on family education, parents' "main responsibility" and "comprehensive study" and "systematic mastery" of family education knowledge, ideas and methods are emphasized for the first time, which shows that the national education administrative department has a clearer understanding of family education and parents' educational responsibilities to a certain extent, and also puts forward new problems on how to strengthen parent education.
3. Only a solid basic education can achieve this "comprehensive" and "systematic" requirement; Only by clarifying the main responsibility of parents, grasping the growth law of children and improving the quality of education can the level of family education be fundamentally improved. Parents' lack of basic knowledge of family education and indifference to self-education are the fundamental reasons for the blindness of family education.
Sometimes, parents are easily fooled by "pseudo-experts" who claim to have "cheats" and "unique tricks" for their godchildren. Some parents, regardless of their children's characteristics and their family background, take "other people's children" as an example and easily ruin their children's bright spots; Some parents are extremely entangled and exaggerated in the face of small problems in their children's growth. Parenting anxiety brings more distortions in educational behavior ... Similar problems are not unrelated to people's lack of basic common sense in educating children.
A mother with a doctor's degree in psychology said, "I know the characteristics of every stage of a baby's development. For example, after the full moon, the baby will cry more and more, reaching the peak in 6 to 8 weeks, and will decrease after 4 months, and gradually become calm. Therefore, when the baby becomes crying, I am not very anxious, and I don't doubt what I did wrong, because I know that most babies need to go through this process. " She told this common sense to her family that everyone can maintain a relatively stable mood when the baby cries. Knowing the law of baby's development can make you more confident and calm.
6. Although not every mother has such psychological knowledge, not everyone who has studied psychology can apply what they have learned to the practice of raising children. It is worth learning that the doctor and mother are not obsessed with solving the problem of children crying, but grasp the law of children's development, apply what they have learned, and avoid the anxiety caused by this superficial phenomenon to adults. There is no standard answer to raising children. It is very necessary for parents to understand the law of children's growth and learn relevant educational theories, so as to grasp the general direction, not deviate, and be able to flexibly use the learned theories and principles when encountering specific situations.
7. In the broad field of family education, it is necessary for every parent to learn more "explicit knowledge". Because family education is a science, there are rules to follow. As educators of children, parents can't teach themselves. Parents' education of minor children is the legal function of the family, and they can't do whatever they want in the private sphere of the family.