Fatherly love is of unique value to children's development.
Father's personal participation in children's education can make children smarter and improve their abilities in many aspects.
1. is beneficial to children's social development. Tang Rong of Sichuan Normal University mentioned in his master's thesis "Research on the Present Situation of Father's Participation in Children's Family Education and Family Countermeasures" that father is the most important playmate of children and also the satisfier of children's positive emotions. Fathers can not only play more exciting, wonderful and diverse games with their children, but also guide their children to participate in the games well; Children can not only learn interpersonal skills in the game environment provided by their father, but also improve their overall planning ability by observing the process of their father formulating game principles and rules.
2. Help children's intellectual development. Wang Zhigang, Sichuan Education Development Research Center of China West Normal University, pointed out in the article "On the Absence of Father's Role in Family" published in Gansu Agriculture magazine that maternal love and fatherly love have different effects on children's intelligence. Mothers impart skills and knowledge such as language, daily life, the use of goods and toys. By working together with children to explore various forms of activities and games, fathers will cultivate children's hands-on ability and innovative consciousness, and promote children's curiosity and thirst for knowledge.
3. Help children form a good gender awareness. David R Shaffer and others mentioned in Developmental Psychology: Children and Adolescents that imitation is an important way for children to learn from their fathers. Through getting along with his father, boys will better observe and imitate men's language and behavior from his father, and gradually show men's personality advantages; Girls will be exposed to good and clear male role models from an early age, and it is more conducive to cultivating femininity to distinguish the differences between men and women.
How to be a good father?
It is not difficult to be a qualified and good father. Li Xuan of Guizhou University proposed in his master's thesis "Research on the Present Situation and Problems of Father's Role Absence in Family Education" that fathers should change their ideas from three aspects and actively integrate into their children's education.
First, we should deepen our sense of identity with the role of "father". As long as the father deepens his sense of identity with his role, he will consciously undertake the education of his children.
Second, realize that children need more company. Fathers should not neglect their children's feelings while trying to earn money to support their families. They should be able to realize that children need not only material satisfaction, but also high-quality warm companionship from their loved ones.
Third, we should change the traditional concept, abandon the concept of "women are the masters outside, men are the masters inside", understand that taking care of children is not a matter for the wife alone, and pay more attention to her own investment in the family.
In short, as long as the father is willing to take responsibility for the family, it can make the family warm and harmonious. In the family, the roles of father and mother are indispensable. It is only because the role of father in many families has been weakened that people begin to discuss the important role of father. In fact, the father's participation can not only reduce the burden on the mother's shoulders and promote the growth of children, but also consolidate and sublimate the feelings of husband and wife, which also plays an important role in the self-growth of men.