1. Don't use force against boys. Adolescence is the transition period from children to adults, which means that boys will get rid of the guardianship of parents and families, get rid of the dependence on adults and become independent individuals. It is a critical period of psychological weaning, which requires the enhancement of independent consciousness. If parents use force against boys and force children to obey their parents, not only can they not make the boys yield, but they will make them resist more fiercely and even ignore the consequences. For adolescent boys, parents should learn to understand and tolerate boys' mistakes. When boys make mistakes, don't force boys to obey their parents' education by force. Moreover, respect boys' demands for independence, support their wishes and ideas, and encourage boys to handle their own affairs independently. Then, we can guide the boy's self-consciousness and independent consciousness to develop in a healthy direction and turn the "dangerous period" of adolescence into a "safe period".

It is important to keep smooth communication with adolescent boys. If parents don't understand the changes of adolescent children and use improper educational methods to make the communication between parents and children full of gunpowder, there will be no communication and no concern. An important reason why many parents have conflicts with adolescent children is that there is no smooth communication between parents and children. For adolescent boys, we should give them respect and trust, respect their independence and respect their four rights: the right to speak, the right to decide, the right to vote and the right to privacy.

Parents should pay attention to the boy's friends. If children's sense of value and belonging in childhood mainly comes from their parents, while adolescence comes from their peers, then a basic survival principle of adolescent children is that their sense of identity with their peers is greater than their sense of identity with their parents. This can give comfort to their peers. In the end, adolescent boys will leave their parents and other adults, prefer their peers and form an interdependent relationship with them. Boys learn how to communicate with others when they get along with their peers, and develop their various abilities in the process of communicating with their peers. Children who maintain stable and close friendship with friends often have smooth interpersonal communication and high mental health level in adulthood. Although no matter how old you are, your peers will have an influence on your children, but they have a great influence on adolescent boys. Because of the importance of peers and friends to adolescent boys, their influence on children even exceeds that of parents. If boys make bad friends during this period, it may bring great adverse effects to children.