The word "parent-child" is not accurate enough to accurately express the concept of interaction.
Interaction is the fundamental means for parents to carry out family education, which includes various technologies, methods, skills and research, even disputes, as well as strategic thoughts, strategies and strategic heights. From a strategic point of view, interaction can be divided into five levels:
The best policy: the situation. On the surface, it means-should I listen to you? How do you think? Why are you so stubborn and stubborn? In essence, this supreme strategy refers to the tacit understanding of good life and study habits, and also includes the process of establishing, consolidating and skillfully using these tacit understanding. It seems that this strategy is really good, so use this strategy! ! You should know that the highest strategy, the use cost and the cost of producing results are also the highest, which you can't afford, so you will still need other lower-level strategies;
The best policy: guide. On the surface, it is based on the last policy: "karma." In fact, the bread here contains endless "persuasion" space, and the operating cost is relatively low. If you make good use of this strategy, your space will be far greater than the previous strategy, which can be called the classic main force!
Zhongce: teach it. This strategy is the most commonly used by parents. It seems that children are always the object of education. If you want to enter the children's vision and inner world, it is not shameful for you to receive some children's education! Education should always be a two-way street!
Volume two: neatness. Just angry! Play with attitude! Tears! Sad! Anger! Have a family meeting! Endless entanglement! I would like to ask: Do you want to have faith first (be convinced, be faithful and confident), and then have prestige (the prestige and majesty of parents)? Or do you have to have deterrence (threat, imposition) first, and then have faith (really convinced)? If you figure it out, you won't be entangled again!
The second best strategy: fight it. Parents and children go to war directly! Once you fall into this quagmire, no matter how many experts and coup, it is difficult to recover your "hard to return."
It may be better if your vision is always at a low level, or if you give up some family education responsibilities. Otherwise, the scene in "Child Slave" will probably become a reality in your home.
Your vision determines your strategic level and height. If you firmly adhere to the above-mentioned best policy+worst policy+middle policy (these three policies can be called "the three roads"), it doesn't matter even if you are the kind of wolf tiger mother who is hotly discussed on the Internet, you will still achieve the glory of tutoring; And vice versa!
No matter how correct your point of view is, you can't care too much. Once you lose interactivity and become stiff, you lose the strategic initiative. The more tactical victories, the farther away from the target.