So, how should parents properly handle the contradictions between their children?
First, calm emotions and encourage children to solve problems by themselves.
Many times, when there are contradictions between children, especially when they feel that their children are being bullied, parents can easily lose control, and it is difficult to think calmly, let alone solve the problem.
Therefore, when parents encounter such problems, they must first calm their emotions and calm their children's emotions. Through children's stories or other ways, let them know the ins and outs of things and think rationally.
In addition, in the process of solving such problems, parents should play a guiding role, not a judging role, and guide their children to solve the problems themselves, otherwise they will only make them more and more dependent on themselves.
Therefore, after understanding the truth, parents should guide their children to find out the causes of contradictions and their respective responsibilities, and then encourage their children to think about ways to solve problems themselves.
Don't do everything, protect the calf, and let the children lose the excellent opportunity to exercise themselves.
Second, if parents need to communicate, they should make sense calmly.
Some contradictions or problems may be beyond the scope that children can solve by themselves. At this time, communication between parents is needed.
At this time, parents need to pay attention to their words and deeds to avoid causing new contradictions.
Moreover, both parents should not be partial to their children, not just listen to their one-sided words, but should solve the contradictions between children from an objective and fair perspective.
In addition, if parents need to communicate, it is best to do it in private. They should not make public theories and make noise in class groups, otherwise it will only cause greater adverse effects and even intensify contradictions, and it will also cause difficulties for children to integrate into new groups.
Third, teach children some communication skills.
The main reason for the conflict between children is that they can't master some communication skills well. As parents, we should strengthen our children's ability in this respect.
Parents should always educate their children: keep friendship with other friends and don't be self-centered. After all, you should always study, play and handle these relationships with these friends to make your children happier physically and mentally.
In addition, parents should also set some rules for their children in peacetime, such as being polite when talking to friends, not messing with other people's things, being sincere to friends and so on.
Fourth, we should learn to look at problems from the perspective of children.
Children's thinking is still very different from that of adults. Parents should learn to look at the contradiction between them from the perspective of their children.
For example, many times, the contradictions and conflicts between them seem very serious, and they may become close again every other day or at intervals.
Therefore, when there are some minor conflicts between children, parents should teach their children to take the initiative to apologize and use appropriate language to resolve the conflicts instead of thinking about everything.