If you think about it carefully, it is really vivid to describe the two modes of family education with "widowed" and "zombie".
Moreover, coincidentally, these two models generally refer to the absence of father in family education.
Why is dad always absent from family education? On this issue, you can see my previous essay "Why is Dad often" absent "from the perspective of biological evolution? 》
Widowed education generally occurs in our time. I am a typical example.
With the development of education, people's academic qualifications have generally improved, and more and more parents have received higher education, especially in cities. This so-called "widowed" education is rare.
More is "zombie" education. Of course, the "zombie" here generally refers to the father. Father seldom pays attention to children's study and life, but after all, father is also thinking and being influenced by various modern educational concepts consciously or unconsciously-giving children more freedom, letting them play more and cultivating their interests. ...
Driven by this belief, fathers will occasionally interfere with the mother's educational model, seriously disrupting the consistency of mother's education and affecting her authority; For the father, the mother's practice has affected the healthy development of the child and should be pointed out in time.
Of course, this issue is an open and reasonable housework, and this discussion can easily fall into an infinite loop.
When it comes to communication in family education, it is often difficult to go on. One of the important reasons is that what both sides know is a fragmented educational concept-they often get what they want from a single few articles.
Therefore, communication will be difficult because there is no more sufficient factual basis. In the end, it turned into different words, which made the whole family unhappy. In the long run, it will be fine! It will inevitably have a very bad influence on his wife and children.
No wonder Comrade Li Meijin severely criticized this way of education!
Generally speaking, "widowed" education and "zombie" education will coexist for quite some time, but the former will gradually fade with parents' attention to education, while the latter will not slow down because of this general trend, but will become more serious, because his fundamental problem lies in how to improve parents' own educational ideas and systematically improve them.
I hope this article has inspired you. I'm talking about family education.