1. University Source: From the ancient imperial examination system to today's exam-oriented education, the root of parents' anxiety in China lies in taking their children's school transcripts as their own parenting transcripts, because the former is obvious that the whole nation bears the burden of education.

2. Differences in social structure between China and the United States: pyramids, the only social structure that has been changing is the top of the pyramid (elite).

3. Two attitudes towards resources: refugee mentality and privileged mentality. We should let children avoid these two kinds of mentality, and remember that great strength comes from great responsibility. The greater the ability, the greater the responsibility. Only by shouldering their own responsibilities and making contributions and services to society can elites not be easily overthrown.

What kind of students are the top universities in the world looking for?

1. IQ: get rid of the misunderstanding of grades and scores; Iq is only the threshold, which shows that the student can withstand the learning requirements of the school, which is enough. After this threshold, if there are only grades and scores, there will be problems.

2. EQ: Carnegie, a famous success scientist, believes that success consists of 15% professional skills (IQ) and 85% interpersonal skills (EQ). Reflect on how much energy parents put into raising children's IQ and EQ.

3. Shangpin: Personality is our intangible foundation, and we can go through storms without wavering.

4. Adversity quotient: adaptable and responsible for the family. Reflect on how parents usually face their children's failure. Do we want to see our children fail when they are with us or leave us?

One of the cores of positive discipline is that mistakes are good opportunities for learning. Only by changing the negative attitude towards mistakes can we dare to empower our children to choose, try and make mistakes. What parents are most afraid of is what if their children let go and do something wrong? I once asked such a question: Do we want our children to make mistakes when they are around us, or do we not let them make mistakes until they leave us?

At present, China society is facing many problems, such as honesty, management, food safety, medical system, environmental pollution and so on. Just like Buffett's secret of success: crisis = danger+opportunity, what we need is not the complainer and the accuser, but the owner who has the ability to solve problems, find problems, solve problems and innovate for solving problems.