As we all know, family education is not ideal, parents have done it in family education, and children may need to suffer a big loss. An example of this is in the real middle. Because there are several schools near my home, I have more opportunities to contact my parents and children. After a long time, I found a phenomenon: every school announced the test results (including the college entrance examination), and parents staged a fancy trick on their children. Of course, it's good exercise, and it's worth giving a thumbs-up without shaking your head. What I can't understand is that he is in a public place, such as the school gate or the street, but some parents may forget this because their children are not good. I think this is me. At home, it is customary to touch your child loudly. Children face different eyes from people around them, or bow their heads without expression, as if they are used to it; Otherwise my face will turn red. Without hatred, I would disappear on the sidewalk. In the subconscious of many parents, I feel that we must cultivate our children into useful people and be strict with them. They think the ancient training left by ancient ancestors. "

Sure. Parents' starting point is good, not to treat their children, but to cultivate them. Can you strictly say that you want to reprimand and attack children? If parents have this idea, it is wrong to understand the so-called "strictness". Many people don't think that the words that hurt their children from some parents are slowly engraved in their hearts, which will eventually affect their character and behavior habits. Some children will rebuild their parents and turn them into psychological hints that they have nothing, which is an outline in class. This kind of self-exclusion, doubt, and the multiplication of negative emotions will make children grow into self-informed and low-priced people. Isn't this the original intention of our parents? Of course, it's not for children, or if you need to improve, you won't sit on the sofa, or you will still be photographed, but this shot is never to play with your children, but to talk to them. To put it simply, this kind of speech is like talking with our friends and communicating with our children in an open heart. When children impose self-protection mechanisms, they will be more willing to accept them.

Reading and learning children's own career, the biggest reward should be to let children have fun from reading and learning. If our material rewards exceed those of children who are not easy to study, their attention will inevitably be attracted by material rewards. Even if they are still sitting in the study, their purpose has changed into prizes and reading, thus losing their internal strength of self-improvement and making it difficult to continue. How to make children have internal drive in reading and learning? No matter what we should do, I think it is necessary to start with cultivating children's interest, which is an important way. After children are interested, they will further develop their interests and let them successfully experience interesting experiences, thus promoting their in-depth development and forming a virtuous circle. For example, in my early deliberative culture, my daughter turned to the huge demand for reading and learning, just like eating every day. I have never thought of using material rewards to motivate children to study, but I attach great importance to cultivating children's reading and learning habits from the enlightenment of interest and spiritual encouragement, and finally achieved good results.

When I saw the children, I read the original version of Romance of the Three Kingdoms. Next to the adult, there is: "Look at what these messy extracurricular books are used. I didn't take this in the exam. I can't see it! " Go and do more math problems. "Seeing all kinds of research activities, adults suddenly come to you:" Don't play drums all the way, you can score. "Don't think this is exaggerated. Scenes like this often happen in reality, and not many parents have this idea. We will not consider the influence of parents' patterns on children's patterns. The pattern of parents is very large, and the pattern of children is also very large; Parents' models are small, but children's models are not big. Some parents' self-righteousness is misleading their children, which is impolite. On the contrary, the child's model is to cultivate and develop space. We are not saying that major languages, including reading, are becoming more and more important. At least it is good for children to do active reading. Such children are the future, but some parents don't read them. They think that when children see so-called extracurricular books, they should put all their time and energy into reading Chinese books and math books, even if the name is the truth.

Some parents have no good practices for their children, but they have wrongly restricted them. The root cause of these parents is limited and too small. In addition, the children in the above example are interested in carrying out various research activities, because parents should be happy, which actually shows that the children have valuable exploration quality and are future social innovative talents. The correct attitude of parents should be to actively participate in their children's exploration activities, which is positive and encouraging for their interaction and guidance. In fact, the most important learning is not only to let children master the knowledge itself, but also to cultivate children's imagination, creativity, logical thinking and the ability to find and solve problems. We should encourage children to continue to develop their wide range of interests and hobbies, and always maintain their curiosity and exploration spirit towards the world. In fact, most parents are not "fashionable" in the field of education. Obviously, our parents can't rely on personal experience when educating their children, because personal experience is very limited or even wrong. Instead, we should use a series of scientific educational means to help you really cultivate an excellent child.