It is important to reserve knowledge. If you can master enough English vocabulary, add, subtract, multiply and divide mathematics, pinyin and literacy before entering primary school, it will be good. Children will know what others can't, teachers will like it and children will be more confident. All kinds of skills, good at painting, good at singing and dancing, good at piano band 8, good at calligraphy writing and so on. But is there anything more important than this?
I have two children. My daughter is about to enter the kindergarten middle class at the age of four, and my son will be two years old in September. Both of them are still young. However, around the age of two, I began to report to various early education training institutions for my children. My two children are not young. Do you want to follow suit? Why do you want to sign up for such a class? Is there anything more important than this?
In my opinion, if I don't want my children to be painters, dancers, singers or have certain skills in the future, it is unnecessary to spend a lot of time training early. Some things are born to children and have strong imitation ability, so they can learn to imitate by themselves. Some skills can be learned quickly in a short time if you want to learn them. I am in no hurry to force children to learn them.
I pay attention to reading. If children like reading, they can absorb a lot of wisdom from books and accompany them. I believe that they will never feel lonely because of books all their lives. I am concerned about whether children have good moral character. I like the important truth of being a man conveyed by traditional culture: there is virtue here, soil here, soil here, money here, and money here is useful. Virtue is the foundation, wealth is the purpose, and the external foundation is the purpose of fighting for the people. A man of noble character, I am not worried about doing something morally corrupt; Someone who knows: Zhi Zhi will decide later, then he can calm down, then he can calm down, then he can be safe, then he can think about it, and then he can get it. I'm sure he won't be impetuous.
After entering the society, I know the importance of good social communication, and I hope children can have such qualities. I have always been a lucky person since I was a child. I met many outstanding people who helped me a lot at different times and influenced my thinking. Looking back, this also benefits from my optimism, cheerfulness, willingness to open myself up and always seeing the good in others.
Especially with the arrival of artificial intelligence, many skills possessed by people are constantly surpassed and replaced. Two days ago, Ma Yun's unmanned supermarket surprised people, but it also frightened many people. "The cashier is redundant. What can I do in the future? " Some people's psychology stems from their worry: "slowly, people don't need to work." Where will they go to make money in the future? If they have no money, will anyone go to the supermarket? " . I believe many people have experienced this feeling before: mobike must be hated by a group of drivers who drive black cars and taxis; The advanced assembly line in the workshop also laid off a group of workers; Robots can perform some operations instead of doctors. . . . . . The next position to be replaced is likely to be you or me, unknown.
What is irreplaceable by artificial intelligence? Recently, I heard a word: "spiritual IQ". How to understand this word? I believe everyone knows Edison's famous saying:' Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% sweat, but that 1% inspiration is often more important than 99% effort.' The "inspiration" mentioned here belongs to the category of "spiritual IQ". People in China tend to pay too much attention to hard work and emphasize IQ and EQ. We find that children feel particularly sensitive when they are young, and they have many abnormal ideas that even adults don't understand. The more they grow up, the more knowledge and skills they learn, and the more they begin to approach the thinking of adults. Many good ideas, creative schemes and so on all come from such a ray of light. Brother Yixiu always sits quietly until he comes up with a good idea, and then he has it. It is said that Jobs would often shut himself in his room, meditate on the product proposal, and then finalize it, so that he would not care about other people's objections. We can see that almost everyone in the street has an apple. Children's aura needs our protection, not to suppress and suppress children's nature. In my opinion, indoctrination education in many training institutions is to suppress children's nature.
These are all my concerns, but at this stage I am more concerned about the healthy development of children's body and mind. Everything in the world has its own laws. It is spring planting and autumn harvest all year round. Plant lotus seeds in winter, and no matter how you take care of them, beautiful lotus flowers will never grow. Giving birth to a child must be conceived in October, and a month earlier and a month later will make you extremely worried; It is said that the cycle of physical development for girls (boys) is 7(8) years. In the current cycle, the organs and internal organs of the body have not developed well, and the cerebral cortex has not developed well. I am eager to let them learn all kinds of knowledge and skills, which is tantamount to pulling out the seedlings to encourage them. At this stage, I will try to make them have a good body, provide nutrition for the body, eat well, drink well and sleep well. I will give the children extra nutrition and food. I know that the current physical construction is like laying a foundation. Strong foundation, can stand up in the future, can withstand all kinds of pressure.
Pay attention to sports. Not developed limbs, simple mind. Research shows that exercise can promote the growth of new neurons in the brain and establish new neural networks. In short, it is to become smarter! Exercise can promote blood circulation, accelerate metabolism and make people more sensitive. There are many benefits of sports, so I won't go into details here. I let my child learn roller skating and swimming, not for learning, but for hoping that she can have the habit of exercising and exercise to achieve the effect of exercising.
For psychological construction, what I can do at this stage is to give them enough love and companionship, manage the relationship between husband and wife, create a loving environment for children and encourage them to be themselves. After entering adolescence, we should do a good job of separation
When we are anxious that our children can't keep up with their studies, get into a good school, go to a good university, find a good job, find a good partner and so on. When we start to enroll our children in various classes, we will ask them if they are willing and happy. Do you feel unsafe or do the children feel unsafe? If we can bear such problems, I believe that children can live a healthier and happier life and find the life they really want. TED has a talk on "Learning with Hacking Thinking". To tell you the truth, I envy this boy 13 years old. I believe that he has lived the life he wants. His future must be wonderful! I went to a study before, and realized the Happiness Academy founded by Mr. Jin Xiangqun, and saw the children who failed in the college entrance examination develop their own moral qualities in the academy. I am very jealous of them. If I have received such education and training, I believe I will live more practically. I'm not worried that my children will not be admitted to college in the future!
Writing here, I suddenly understand why, in my subconscious, I always feel that my children have no problems and my parents have problems. Because the child is a blank sheet of paper when he is young, he depends on us and needs our guidance and guidance to this unknown world. At this point, I really understand that parents are the starting line for children. The most important thing in raising children is our growth as parents!