Unfortunately, many parents always feel that their children are too young to understand the differences between the sexes, and there is no need to distinguish them clearly. But is this really the case?
Children have a sense of gender since childhood.
According to the research results of psychologists, children around 3 years old have already possessed the initial gender consciousness. At this time, what parents should do is to guide their children correctly and appropriately, to help them better understand their gender, which will also help them form a correct self-awareness and help them grow into people with self-esteem and mental health.
Parents in foreign countries still attach great importance to this issue, but in contrast, parents in China still lack understanding of gender education, mainly in the following aspects:
1. It's hard to get rid of the tradition of son preference.
In some areas, the problem of son preference is still serious. Some families pay too much attention to boys and not enough attention to girls, which easily leads to girls' excessive inferiority complex and boys' excessive ego.
2. Do not pay attention to the development of children's gender awareness
I often see news such as "grandma and mom took a 6-year-old boy to the women's bathroom to take a bath, which caused public anger". As the protagonist's grandmother and mother, they may also accept criticism from others that "children are too young to understand anything", but they don't know that doing so is disrespecting other female customers' right to physical privacy and will also cause confusion in children's gender consciousness.
3. The dislocation of gender parenting model
Some parents like to raise girls as boys and call their daughters "sons"; Or dress boys in skirts and dress up as girls. Parents may do this for fun, but it will affect their children's normal awakening of gender consciousness.
In the long run, the "female man" who lacks the gentle charm of women and the "sissy" who lacks the masculinity that men should have will be flooded, the normal aesthetics will be distorted again and again, the children's self-awareness will be blurred and mutated, and it is not surprising that sexual perversion and sexual perversion will occur.
Children's sex education needs urgent attention.
Another problem that needs to be improved urgently is children's sex education, and many families really need to improve their parenting work in this area.
1. Do not pay attention to protecting children's privacy.
It is understandable that the concept of the elderly is backward. Some well-dressed and fashionable young parents have the heart to let their children run around with their genitals exposed in public. It's really scary.
There are also some parents who casually send their children's photos or even nude photos to friends and forums, hoping to share their children's cuteness with others, but they don't know that these photos will become abnormal collections, and even more frightening is that they will make their children the targets of bad people, which will lead to many security problems.
2. Avoid or postpone normal sex education.
The children are full of curiosity. When they ask some questions related to sexual knowledge, many parents often take an evasive attitude, either accusing their children of being "shameless" or perfunctory, making them feel more ignorant.
In school, sex education seems to be a difficult field. Once a good set of teaching materials was just launched, but it was banned by some ignorant parents, which eventually led to "stillbirth". Such an anecdote really makes people laugh and cry.
Only when children know nothing about sexual knowledge will they think they are playing games in the face of sexual assault by acquaintances; Children don't know what is right and wrong, and they are easy to be curious, so they will go to promiscuity, early pregnancy and abortion at a young age; When parents complain that their children are not sensible, have they ever thought about whether they have fulfilled their due educational responsibilities?
Therefore, if parents really care about their children, they should know more about gender education and sex education. When children have doubts, parents can explain the truth to them in vivid and intelligent language. Don't be perfunctory, avoid it deliberately, and don't be cheated just because they are embarrassed.
If parents can do more things within their power to help their children solve their doubts, let them form a correct gender awareness and learn to protect themselves, they will avoid many unnecessary injuries.
In the future, children will grow into adults with sound personality and rich mind, and they will certainly thank their parents for their efforts today.