This practice is really effective, so that children have to do some housework in order to earn pocket money. But is it really good to do "clearly marked" housework for a long time?
Xiaomei has an 8-year-old daughter Xiaoli, who usually plays games at home except watching TV. She didn't help clean up the mess at home, even her own room was in a mess, but she always turned a blind eye and asked her to clean it, always shirking it.
On the day Xiaomei cleaned, her daughter went to ask him for pocket money. Xiaomei watched her daughter refuse to help her with housework and didn't want to give it to him, but her daughter vowed not to give up until she reached her goal, and the two were deadlocked for some time. Xiaomei said to her daughter, well, I'll give you pocket money for cleaning, sweeping the floor in 3 yuan and mopping the floor in 5 yuan. I heard that I could get pocket money, and my daughter readily agreed.
From then on, every time Xiaomei asked her daughter to clean, her daughter would ask for pocket money in exchange. One day, Xiaomei was too weak to get out of bed. Nobody cleans at home. She called her daughter and told her: Daughter, mom is not feeling well today. Please clean up the house and give you 20 yuan pocket money.
I didn't expect my daughter to feel so much housework that she gave me 20 yuan. Qian Shao disagreed. She refused Xiaomei and turned back to her room. Xiaomei didn't expect her daughter to have such a reaction. At that time, she was very angry and felt sorry for her daughter's behavior.
"Incentive" education
What is "rewarding" education?
"Reward" education is to encourage children to help their parents do something in their spare time, and in this way, help children form good habits. In addition, rewards can be varied, not necessarily money, but also family appreciation.
Consequences of excessive rewards
When you reward your child too much, forming a kind of "I won't move until you give money" or dislike that you win less money, then you won't call your child. Excessive rewarding education will make children very realistic and even form the concept of "interests first".
Under this concept, children will become selfish and irresponsible, and feel that they should be rewarded for everything. After that, his brain will form an instinct of pros and cons analysis, which will be analyzed before doing anything. He doesn't do it if he thinks it's not cost-effective, which is not good.
The benefits of mastering the reward scale
Before encouraging children to do housework with "rewarding" education, parents can specify a housework list for their children. This list has daily chores, paid tasks, and "clearly marked".
But don't let children get paid easily. Let them know that only if they work hard enough and do well enough can they get what they want.
This gives children some truth about work in disguise-the same is true when you enter the society. Only by doing things well enough can we get corresponding rewards, which is also the truth of equal pay for equal work. This also cultivates children's ability to accomplish things independently and can better survive in society.
If "rewarding" education is adopted, how can parents master the scale?
Educate children on "consciousness"
When rewarding, first let the children realize that this is not a "money transaction", but a reward for being responsible for themselves. This will help children form good work habits and cultivate a good sense of responsibility. Instead of letting children form a profitable habit.
Pay attention to the timing and scale when giving rewards for housework.
The time to reward children is not to reward them as soon as they work, nor is it that parents persuade their children to do housework, but to give them some rewards after they form the habit of taking part in labor consciously by relying on rewards. When you finish what you want to do, parents should not give you too much reward, depending on the actual situation.
Replace money with family appreciation.
Tell children that there is no financial reward for doing housework, but if they do, they will get thanks and praise from their families. And tell him that adults like hardworking children.
In addition, parents should praise their children when doing housework, rather than saying that their children are not doing well. Only by making him aware of the role he plays in this family will the child be more motivated to do something within his power.
How do parents raise their children correctly?
Tell your child that there is no interest at home.
Everyone has a share in family affairs. As long as they are family members, everything is taken for granted and there can be no interest relationship. Children are part of the family and housework should be shared. Children should not get into the habit of doing things with rewards.
Encourage children to do their own things.
In life, children can be encouraged to do more things and develop good habits of doing things by themselves. When he can do his own thing perfectly, he also forms a good habit of doing housework invisibly, so that he will take the initiative to do it without his parents saying. While doing housework, I can also feel the hard work of my parents, so I will become active in doing housework.
Establish an idea from an early age
Since children have their own ideas, parents should constantly emphasize the idea that housework is the responsibility that every member of the family must perform, and I am also a member of the family, so I should also have the obligation and responsibility to do what I can.
Whether this kind of "rewarding" education is useful for children in the future depends on their family situation and whether their parents can grasp a degree and teach them a correct view of money. If parents do not grasp the degree of a reward, it may cause irreparable consequences.
However, if parents use this method properly, they will cultivate their children's sense of responsibility in disguise. So it has two sides.
Today's interactive topic: Do you think "rewarding" education is helpful for children's growth? How do you get children to help you do some housework within your power?