First, understand children.
It is natural for children to like fun toys and delicious food, just as every adult has his own preferences. Many adults find it difficult to restrain themselves from what they like, let alone children. Therefore, first of all, we should straighten our own thinking and think that this is a normal phenomenon, so that you can put yourself in the other's shoes and remain rational in the subsequent treatment. To do better, we should consider from the child's point of view, understand him first, and then we can better convince him.
For example, my child saw his favorite letter ABC toy in the toy store, but there are many at home. In this case, you don't want to buy it, but you'd better not veto it directly. We should say, "Wow, this is Tao Tao's favorite alphabet toy. This time it's the alphabet sitting in the car, which can be put in a small train. It's really interesting, and dad likes it! "
Second, appease in time.
At this time, the baby may be particularly anxious and can't wait to take it to pay the bill and then open it to play. What we need to do at this time is to calm the child's emotions in time. Of course, you shouldn't just refuse to buy it. We can convince him with childlike innocence and discussion tone, and even give him another time to keep hope.
"Dad also likes this toy very much. He knows that Tao Tao wants it very much. However, we also have ABC puzzles and folded letters ABC at home. If we buy again today, those ABC toys at home will fall out of favor. We have already bought bubble machine toys this month. We can buy this ABC as a gift for Tao Tao next Children's Day, ok? "
Third, the law of calm.
At this time, if the reasonable children are a little frustrated, they can still accept the above plan (it depends on the long-term formulation of rules and educational laws), but some children still feel that they can't understand it. I want to buy it now. If you don't buy it, I will cry. This situation, because it is in public, you may feel a little embarrassed, but at this time, as a parent, you can't yell at your child, let alone treat your child with violence.
What we need to do is to stand quietly beside the child and take him home directly after his brain fluctuates. At home, the child may continue to cry, and the parents will continue to wait until the child stops crying, wipe his face and pour a glass of water. At this time, we will start to educate the child and tell him directly that it is wrong to do so. This is a calm method, and the home is a comfortable and familiar environment, so it is easier for children to stabilize their emotions.
You don't have to worry that this method is too difficult for children. In fact, he may not be able to correct it for a while, but after one or two times, the child will understand what you told him later and will not enter the "water splashing period" again.
Fourth, make rules every day.
Thirdly, I mentioned this long-term rule-making education law. If we can make rules well every day, then children will generally reason with you under your careful guidance.
So how to make rules? Here's what I did:
Make shopping rules in advance. For example, you can only buy one small toy a month, or you can save three months to buy a big toy. This also gives children more concepts. Toys are not what you want. You need time or other efforts to get them.
Pack your toys every day. I think it is very important for children to put away their toys before going to bed every day. First of all, this is a bedtime process, which will also make children and their toys more intimate and cherished. Secondly, if there are too many toys and it is troublesome to clean them up, then the next time he wants to buy toys, he will think it over carefully, instead of throwing them aside after three minutes of enthusiasm.