Parents are the mentors of children's life, and life without parents is doomed to be incomplete. For a boy who has been deprived of his father's love since childhood, his life is more different than others, which brings him anxiety and negative emotions. What will happen to a boy who lacks fatherly love since childhood? Let's have a look!
A boy who lacks fatherly love since childhood 1 First, the child lacks sense of security.
A sense of security is very important for children's growth. If a child lacks a father's love since childhood, he will feel very insecure. The more insecure children are, the stronger their sense of self-protection will be and they will often be paranoid.
Second, inferiority, low evaluation of themselves.
Children lack fatherly love since childhood. Subconsciously, children will question themselves and feel that they are not good enough to be loved. They are very self-abased and withdrawn, have a low evaluation of themselves, and are prone to mental illness.
Third, affect personality.
Lack of fatherly love has a great influence on children's character. There is a saying that boys will lack masculinity if they stay with their mothers and other women for a long time. Moreover, girls are psychologically masculine and easily become women. It is difficult for children who lack fatherly love to have a sound personality, which will also affect their views on marriage and love.
Every father wants his child to be a child with sound personality, mental health, happiness and self-confidence, so don't "let go" when the child grows up, and don't always leave the child with his mother. Spend more time with your children, communicate with them and love them. Love can't be hidden in your heart, but expressed by actions.
Fathers should understand that the lack of fatherly love is very serious harm to children, because children love you very much.
A boy who has been deprived of his father's love since childhood, only his mother is good in the world. A nursery rhyme brings out the long-term problem of family education-when the father is absent, the children can't see the father, and the natural mother is the best. Excluding 83 million left-behind children in rural areas (the digital source is reported by CCTV News on May 3 1), how much time can children in cities spend with their fathers every day? Is father's company up to standard? This is a child problem that deserves our whole society's attention.
Professor Qian Zhiliang, Department of Education of Beijing Normal University, said in the lecture: "It is the father's fault that the son doesn't teach" in the three-character classic, and it is also the father's unshirkable responsibility to educate the children. Fathers in China should shoulder their responsibilities, and don't let their wives combine strict father, loving mother and strict teacher, and don't let them be exhausted. These words touched several mothers.
Lack of fatherly education will have serious consequences.
The most common influence of the lack of fatherly love education on boys is "fatherless love syndrome". The main characteristics of boys suffering from this syndrome are: excessive shyness, depression, self-abandonment, lack of ambition, few words, dislike of groups, aversion to making friends, impatience, moodiness, fear of failure, indifference, and even truancy, puppy love, running away from home, stealing, and even love to use violence.
Experts in the treatment of children's mental illness jointly conducted a special investigation on more than 3,000 children in Germany and Japan. The results show that the more children lack fatherly love, the more likely they are to suffer from "fatherless love syndrome". Moreover, this disease affects boys more seriously, and the possibility of boys suffering from this disease is 1 times that of girls of the same age.
Expert tip:
(1) Cultivate children's good habits with their own behaviors.
(2) Children's education begins with physical education.
(3) Tolerance is higher than punishment
(4) Respect for children's rights
(5) The core of family education is responsibility.
(6) Love is unconditional.
(7) Let children rely on themselves
(8) the child's words are not clear.
(9) Learn from children and grow up with them.
(10) Give children free time.
(1 1) Let children grow up happily through experience.
Sun Yunxiao: Because fathers have a great influence on children's attitude towards life and disposition, fathers should set an example in daily life and guide children from trivial matters. You can also take time to play sports with your children, communicate with them more, and pay attention to their development in all aspects. "If your child has no friends, it is more serious than failing the exam." Sun Yunxiao said that many fathers only care about their children's academic performance. In fact, from the perspective of education itself, the fundamental goal is to promote people's development, not only to learn knowledge, but also to adapt physically, psychologically and socially.
Another important mission of paternalism is to free children from dependence on their mothers.