I often wonder how corporal punishment is worth talking about, so that up to now 20 16 years, there are still so many people who call themselves parenting experts, writing articles describing how they discipline their children with corporal punishment and explaining why they beat them.
Those who support corporal punishment are probably like this: corporal punishment is not a poisonous snake and beast, but it is effective when used properly; Parents don't have to feel guilty, as long as they let their children know where they are wrong and why they were punished, convince them, punish them, and give them love and truth after corporal punishment, which is an education.
No matter how smoothly you rationalize your beating behavior, you just say, "I tell you, I just want to hit you." Children make mistakes, and adults make more and more mistakes. When we send the wrong letter in the workplace, forget the meeting, make mistakes in the manuscript, and manipulate public opinion in the headlines in the media, the supervisor or reader can say, "You are wrong, I want to hit you. Do you know that I loved you before I hit you?" "So, are you sure?
"No, I gave him a love education after hitting the child. 」
"After reading a lot of' terrible children in love education', my view on corporal punishment has gradually been revised. 」
"Our generation was beaten, but the corporal punishment of parents and teachers did not make us violent. Remind me that you are hitting the child! )
As parents, we know why we are angry and why we want to beat and scold our children. Often because of time pressure, mood swings and lack of communication skills, we can't understand children's thoughts. Sometimes even a child's "bad attitude" is a reason to beat and scold. However, the attitude is quite subjective. When we are in a good mood and state, if something bad happens to someone with a bad attitude, will we be considerate of him? Physical discomfort? Lack of sleep; When you are in a bad mood, say "whatever!" "It will make people angry.
Those who are in favor of corporal punishment insist that the purpose of disciplining children is to prevent them from going astray and causing social burden. Children will not obey and respect others unless they fight. These people insist that they can handle the degree and intensity of beating and cursing, because beating and cursing is only a form of punishment. The most important thing is to let children know their behavior mistakes or stay away from danger through punishment. But when adults curse or pick up vines, do they really have the confidence to remain rational and unmoved?