There are two "very unlovable" children in our class, one is Cheng Xin and the other is Huang Ye. These two children are willful, selfish, free and loose, and have poor self-care ability. How to educate these two children well has always been a headache and puzzle for me. Last semester I studied and thought about random education, focusing on these two children. I found that casual education made these two "unlovable" children cute. This is a kind of wisdom education, and I created the happiness of education with wisdom.
1. Wear a tall hat to enlarge the advantage.
In the communication with students, I found that Cheng Xin in our class is young and naive among the classmates, and because of his parents' doting, he has poor habits in all aspects, is self-centered and will not get along with others. No matter who you sit at the same table with, the same table will always report him, saying that he hit others in class; No matter who passes by his seat, he will touch others several times; Every time I eat, there are always rice grains and soup on the ground.
On one occasion, Tian Yuyu, a deskmate sitting in a row against the wall, cried and told me that Cheng Xin was sitting in her seat and wouldn't let her go out. When I walked over, Cheng Xin saw me immediately stand up and argue loudly: "She didn't ask me to go out. How should I know? " Now I let her out, why doesn't she go out again? "In the face of such a child, I was angry from the heart and severely criticized him at that time. But I know that simple criticism and reprimand can't solve the problem. I've been looking for opportunities for education.
Finally, I waited for my chance. One day, I suddenly found a small stick on my podium. When I asked, I realized that it was the pointer that Cheng Xin specially gave to the teacher. I was very happy. So, while stroking the pointer, I said to myself in an exaggerated tone: "This pointer is neither too long nor too short, neither too thick nor too thin, and it is smooth and slippery. It's really good. I like it! " After listening to my praise, Cheng Xin's face smiled like a flower. Then I praised him in front of my classmates and praised him for loving the group and the teacher. He is a good boy with love. After listening to my praise for Cheng Xin, the students all cast envious eyes on him. At this time, Cheng Xin giggled with his head down, and his eyes were full of happiness and satisfaction. During the break, he bounced like a happy bird. At dinner that day, I found him smiling with his mouth open while he was putting rice in his mouth with a spoon.
From then on, I often asked him to read the words on the blackboard with this pointer, and everyone agreed that he was the "little angel of love" this month. I posted his photo in the column of "Star of the Month" on the blackboard and hung the sign of "Little Angel of Love" on his chest. I gave Cheng Xin many honors, which made him very happy. At this time, I think it is the best time to help him get rid of other shortcomings. So one day, I pulled Cheng Xin to my side, stroked his head and said softly, "Cheng Xin, you are an angel of love now. A' angel of love' should not only love the collective, love the teacher, but also love the classmates, and help each other with classmates, right? " He nodded vigorously. Since then, few students have come to tell Cheng Xin -shaped that he is not too embarrassed with his deskmate. He is often seen reading extracurricular books and talking and laughing with his deskmate Tian Yuyu. Cheng Xin has less troubles and I am much happier.
2. Cold treatment, gradually get rid of bad habits
Huang Ye in our class is very headstrong. Whenever something goes wrong, he will cry, whether in class or after class. I also talked to his parents about it during my home visit. His parents also think that their children are willful and often cry like this at home. It's no use beating and scolding him, and they can't help it.
One day at noon, Huang Ye was severely criticized by Mr. Xue for his poor writing of English words, and asked to erase and redo them. This is not bad. Huang Ye began to cry again, and the students around him couldn't calm down to do their homework. The more I advised him, the more he cried. At this time, I had a brainwave and asked everyone: "Students, we have learned the lesson" Don't be willful "in the class of morality and life. Now Huang can't stand the teacher's criticism and doesn't listen to everyone's persuasion. How headstrong. Let's talk about it What should the teacher do now? " The students said in unison: "Cold treatment!" (Of course, this method of students comes from the book Character and Life. ) "Well, let's stop being distracted and do our own thing quietly!" After that, I began to lower my head and grade my homework, and the students calmed down.
But Huang Ye is still crying. I invited him to the office and said to him calmly, "There is no one in the office. You can cry here. When you don't want to cry, you can walk into the classroom by yourself. However, English homework must be redone. If it's too late to do it, stay and do it at night. " Then I went back to the classroom by myself. However, just a few minutes after I returned to the classroom, Huang Ye also quietly entered the classroom from the back door, quietly sat down in his seat and began to do his homework. As soon as I saw it, I immediately raised my voice and said, "I know that Huang Ye is a sensible boy. You see, after only a few minutes, he came to his senses and stopped crying. You can tell the teacher anything. Crying won't solve anything. Do what you can't do. A child who is not willful is a good child! " As I spoke, I thought that the casual education of "cold treatment" was really effective, which not only stopped Huang Ye from crying, but also taught everyone that willfulness was unacceptable.
From this incident to now, Huang Ye never cried loudly again. Twice, he didn't hold back, so he cried silently for a while. (Only tears, no crying) I comforted him and he stopped crying at once.
Treat him as an army and gradually develop good habits.
Another shortcoming of Huang Ye is selfishness. He doesn't get along well with his classmates and often haggles over trifles.
He and Lu? Is Jay Lu's deskmate? Jay is a quiet and honest man, but I still often see Huang Ye and Lu. Jay's contradiction often sees Huang Ye on the ground? Jay pointed, lost his temper and threatened not to talk to Lu? Jay sits together. So I let Lu go? Jay turned and left, leaving a fierce girl sitting next to Huang Ye. However, a few days later, Huang Ye asked to follow Lu. The reason why Jay Chou sat together again is that now he and Lu? Jay has become a good friend. He lent his rubber to Lu? Jay, Lu? Jay lent him extracurricular books and chess, and they got back together. I began to strongly object. He was depressed. Looking at his disappointment, I suddenly realized that this was a good opportunity to help Huang Ye correct his shortcomings. So I sent him to the army. I said, "since you have become good friends, I can let you sit together, but you should remember that good friends should help each other and not haggle over every ounce." What if they get together for a little thing? " Jay had an argument and then separated. "Huang Ye assured me that he would correct his shortcomings.
However, a few days after they recovered, they quarreled again because they went ashore at lunch. Jay accidentally knocked over half a box of lunch on Huang Ye's desk, and Huang Ye screamed when he saw it. I immediately went over to Huang Ye and said, "Huang Ye, are you Lu? Jay's good friend? " He nodded, and I said, "Lou? Jay accidentally knocked over the rice on your desk. If you don't help him pick it up, why bother him? This is not like a good friend! " Huang Ye listened to my words and immediately bent down, Lou? Jay picked up the rice together, so I took the opportunity to give him a good compliment. From then on, he and Lu? Jay gets along very well and often sees Huang Yejiao Lu? Jay does his homework and helps Lu? Jay is a duty student.
As can be seen from the above examples, random education is an important form of education in the work of class teachers. There are abundant educational opportunities in the daily life of primary school students. If teachers establish the concept of random education in their minds, be good at observing and capturing the opportunities of random education in peacetime, and use it properly, education will get twice the result with half the effort.
Author: Yangzhou University Primary School in Guangling District, Yangzhou City, Jiangsu Province.