Stay with your elders. When the elders are standing, the younger generation should stand with them and not sit by themselves. After the elders sit down, they are told to sit down before they can sit down.
& gt Speak to your elders in a soft and moderate voice, not too small. The voice of the answer is too small for the elders to hear clearly and it is not appropriate. The ancients thought that "fear is disrespectful." If you have something to do in front of your elders, bow forward quickly and in small steps to show enthusiasm, yearning and respect; When things are done, it is a sign of reluctance and courtesy to say goodbye to your elders, take a few steps back in front of them, and then turn around and slowly quit. Listen attentively when the elders ask questions, and don't look around.
& gt& gt& gt Treat uncles, uncles, teachers and other elders as filial and respectful as your own father, and treat brothers and classmates as friendly and respectful as your own brother. Have a heart that respects everyone.
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There are two scenes worth pondering:
& gt& gt& gt A shot: On weekends, Ms. Zhang's son is sitting on the sofa in the living room watching TV. When the doorbell rang, several colleagues came home. Ms. Zhang happily opened the door to receive her colleagues, and let her son give up her seat and give up her seat to her uncle and aunt. But the son sat on the sofa and said motionless, "Aren't you going to talk in the back room?" Ms. Zhang smiled awkwardly, and her colleagues had to say a few words and leave in a hurry.
& gt& gt& gt Scene 2: When the phone rings, Ms. Zhou's son is playing computer games at home. He picked up the phone grumpily: "Who are you looking for? Not at home! " Then I hung up with a bang. Three minutes later, the phone rang again. Hearing this, the son is still the original one. Before the other party could speak, his son shouted, "I told you, I'm not here." Say that finish immediately hung up the phone. As a result, when Ms. Zhou went to work the next day, she was criticized by the leader. It turned out that Ms. Zhou's son answered the phone because the leader had something urgent to find Ms. Zhou.
& gt& gt& gt These little things all reflect a common problem, that is, parents' lack of etiquette education for their children. It not only often puts parents in an awkward position, but also affects children's social interaction and physical and mental development. A polite, courteous and elegant child is not only likable and easily accepted by others, but also valued by others on many occasions, which means that there are many opportunities for exercise invisibly. Therefore, as parents, we should focus on small things, avoid the lack of family education, and cultivate children to gradually become gentlemen and ladies.
There were two brothers in Song Dynasty, one was Cheng Hao and the other was Cheng Yi. Both brothers are learned people. At that time, there was a Jinshi named Shi Yang. In order to enrich his knowledge, he resolutely gave up his high position in his forties and went to Yingchang, Henan Province to learn from Cheng Hao. Once, he and his friends swam left to Mr. Cheng's house and met Mr. Cheng who was closing his eyes. It was snowing outside at that time. Out of respect for the teacher, the two did not dare to disturb the teacher's rest, so they waited respectfully outside the door. After waiting for most of the day, Cheng Yi slowly opened his eyes and saw Youzuo standing in front of the door. At that time, the snow outside has accumulated more than a foot, while Shi Yang and Youzuo don't look tired and impatient at all. The idiom "Cheng Menxue Pear" tells the story of Shi Yang and Youzuo's studious spirit and respect for their teachers. Cheng Yi was moved by their sincere learning spirit and taught them wholeheartedly. I didn't expect much, but I finally learned the true meaning of Cheng. Go back to the south to study and spread neo-Confucianism. He plays a connecting role between Neo-Confucianism and Neo-Confucianism.
& gt& gt& gt Among some etiquette norms in ancient China, many of them are still worth learning today. For example, keep your eyes open when talking to people, and girls should not shout. Don't make a sound or beat chopsticks when eating; Say hello to your elders before you leave. Don't pick your teeth at the guests, etc. Parents don't tell their children, and children naturally don't understand. The root cause of children's impoliteness is that parents usually lack the education of basic common sense, not because children are indifferent and withdrawn, and not because of their thoughts and feelings.
If parents always shout or curse, will children be gentle and polite? As the saying goes, like father, like son. It is very important for parents to demonstrate their behavior in peacetime. Example is better than words. Sometimes, a thousand religions are not as good as their own actions.
Light a heart lamp for yourself. Every moment, when you see a child, you see yourself. While you are educating your children, you are also educating yourself and testing your personality. -Suhomlinski
I sincerely hope that my understanding and dissemination of Disciple Rules will enable more children to have both ability and political integrity and benefit more families.
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