Everything has changed for some reason since I entered school with my schoolbag on my back! Suddenly, an insurmountable Great Wall was built between men and women, and the once intimate children became completely strangers, as if they had never met each other, like passers-by! I don't know when there was a gap between the desks! Boys and girls will never talk again. If boys talk to girls or girls talk to boys, they will be laughed at by the students around them! Why, I still don't know, maybe this is between children, adults have nothing to understand, or the society is backward and conservative!
Looking back now, I still want to ask why, why there is no restriction between boys and girls before going to school? Why is there an invisible gap between boys and girls when they go to school? What is the reason? Is it society, family or education? Maybe both!
After entering middle school, boys and girls no longer sit at the same table. If boys and girls sit at the same table, both sides will feel embarrassed. But with the subtle changes in my body, I slowly have some wonderful feelings in my heart! Both men and women have a good impression and want to be close, especially there are beautiful girls or sunny boys in the class. They will sneak a look at them from time to time. If others find out, they will blush and feel extremely embarrassed and ugly, but they will feel better, happy and satisfied. If they can talk to the girls or boys they like, even a short sentence, even a sentence, they will have a sense of accomplishment and be happy for several days!
I clearly remember that there was a physiology class in the middle school at that time, and there was a special teacher to teach it. But every time I study reproductive chapters, teachers often let students learn by themselves. Even if some teachers simply mention it, students will bury their heads in their arms and dare not look at their teachers or classmates around them. They are not afraid, but want to see it and are ashamed to see it. In fact, they really want to see the teacher. Although I didn't see the teacher at that time, my ears were straight. The implication is sometimes unforgettable!
In middle school, if men and women really have a good impression and want to associate and fall in love, they will not be open, and they are all underground workers. More is the so-called "secret love". If you like someone, you will often speak ill of her (him). Actually, you're venting your emotions. That feeling is really beautiful!
Later, I graduated from college and became a teacher. Seeing that my students are so close, boys and girls are completely integrated, talking and laughing, I will think of my pale student days, which is really wonderful!
Unfortunately, middle schools no longer offer physical health courses, and there are no professional teachers to teach them. Although boys and girls are very open and optimistic, they can eat, walk and watch movies, but with their psychological changes, as well as their understanding and desire for sex from magazines and the Internet, it is inevitable that they will have the impulse to try! How to correctly guide students to grow up healthily and happily, without neglecting their studies and being hurt, has become a subject that must be solved in China's education!
Nowadays, education is not only cultural education and knowledge education, but also personality and mental health education.
Let's learn about foreign education in this field, especially sexual psychology education.
Four-year-olds in Malaysia should also learn about sex.
A proposal entitled National Education, jointly drafted by the Ministry of Women, Family and Social Development, the Ministry of Education, NGOs and educators, was submitted to the Cabinet and passed. Sex education can become one of the subjects in schools within two years, so that children as young as four can learn about sex. Students will learn about human development, gender relations, marriage and family, communication skills and safe sex in sex education subjects.
A Malaysian Chinese said: "In Malaysia, parents will take the initiative to talk about some sexual knowledge. As far as I know, there are many hotline help, consultation centers and reception centers in our country. There are a lot of sexual knowledge in junior high school textbooks, including contraception and pregnancy. Primary school students are afraid of not understanding, so they use some small books with pictures to publicize the knowledge of how to protect their bodies. "
Japan teaches from primary school to high school.
The cover of the first volume of Hygiene textbook for primary schools published by the Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology of Japan has pictures of the bodies and sexual organs of women and men. During the primary school 1 year, there are 1-2-hour lectures on the physiological differences between men and women, the principles of menstruation and pregnancy, and so on. There are also 1 year junior high school 1-2 hours of special lectures. It was also mentioned in the physical health class that the school called for no risky sexual behavior, and also learned about contraception and sexually transmitted diseases.
In high school, there were sex education classes in both sports health classes and family life classes. Regarding contraception and sexually transmitted diseases, I also discussed ethics and abortion. In junior and senior high schools, every school in Japan has a "promoter association" specially established by experts and scholars, which is responsible for providing students with all kinds of sex counseling and sex education, and compiling a guide manual for sex education. Japanese students mainly get sexual knowledge from school, although parents will also take the initiative to tell their children some related knowledge.
Singapore launches multimedia "Growing Years"
The Family Planning Association of Singapore has formulated a series of sex education programs for young people, with the emphasis on strictly controlling sexual behavior and sexual age. The Singapore government attaches great importance to the moral education of young people and imposes strict sentences on sexual crimes. Up to1999,9000 citizens have received sex education courses, which have produced good results.
In 2004, the Ministry of Education of Singapore formulated a systematic sex education plan, and designed a set of multimedia sex education textbooks "Growing Years Series" for junior high school students. The other three teaching materials, Growing Years Series, will be launched in the next two years, which are suitable for students in the upper grades of primary school and middle school respectively.
Dutch children discuss with their parents at the dinner table.
The Dutch people's open sexual attitude left a deep impression on the whole world. However, sexual openness in the Netherlands is not as rampant as teenagers fear. On the contrary, the teenage pregnancy rate in the Netherlands is the lowest in Europe. Children begin to receive sex education when they enter primary school at the age of 6. Like other courses, there is nothing special. Children can also make their own research reports and even discuss this topic with their parents at the dinner table.
Among European countries, the Dutch teenage pregnancy rate is the lowest in Europe. Education experts believe that early sex education for teenagers and even children can help teenagers know how to protect themselves and prevent them from regretting for life because of a temporary sexual impulse or some ignorance about sex.
Abstinence education is carried out in American13 schools.
The United States has been teaching fertility, gender differences, personal hygiene, sexual morality and other knowledge since the first grade of primary school. Junior high school will talk about fertility process, sexual maturity, sexual restraint and other knowledge. Into high school, talking about marriage, family, sexual charm, homosexuality, sexually transmitted diseases, prostitution, sexual perversion, giving condoms to students. All comprehensive universities have sociology departments, and all of them offer "sex education" courses.
In recent years 10,13 schools have increased abstinence education, advocated postponing sex until marriage, and told students to practice safe sex. Some schools will provide information about where to get birth control devices (45%) or how to use condoms (39%). There was an advertisement in a subway car in the United States to remind middle school students to use condoms. The picture shows a group of innocent boys and girls with a striking inscription: "Ifyoudo, doitright." If you want to do it, you must do it right. Although teenage pregnancy is very common in the United States, after taking certain measures, the number of early pregnancies has decreased sharply. At present, 32 public schools in four cities in the United States/KLOC-0 have established sex counseling rooms. In the consulting room, it is also a child who presides over the consultation. Its content is confidential to both teachers and parents. In any case, the United States will never let teenagers learn from themselves without teachers, resulting in "sexual ignorance" and "sexual indulgence."
The Swedish "common life career" covers a wide range.
Sex education in Sweden, also known as "contraceptive education", has become a model of education all over the world. Swedish youth sex education has a long history, and its early school sex education is one of the internationally recognized successful models of youth education.
Starting from 1942, educate children over 7 years old. Teachers adopted heuristic, participatory and game-based teaching methods. The content is to teach pregnancy and childbirth knowledge in primary schools, physiology and body function knowledge in middle schools, and love, contraception and interpersonal relationships in universities. 1966, Sweden tried to implement sex education through TV, which broke the situation that parents could not talk about sex.
Since sex education was carried out in Sweden from 65438 to 0933, the educational model has achieved remarkable results: the prevalence rate of sexually transmitted diseases is extremely low; Few girls under the age of 20 are pregnant and give birth; The HIV positive rate in China is only 5 132 cases. The birth rate and mortality rate have dropped significantly; The abortion rate is extremely low; The proportion of sexually transmitted diseases and sexual crimes is also declining.
Recently, in Sweden, the word "sex education" was replaced by "common life career", which put forward a broader meaning. In other words, it is not only committed to the harmonious common life between men and women, but also includes the common coexistence between men and women, and sexual relations are only a part of it.
Finland tells stories every day.
Since the 1970s, sex education has entered the syllabus of primary and secondary schools in Finland, and even kindergartens have positive sex education books, which strengthen sex moral education and conduct sex education from the perspective of sexual health care. Finland has a nature education book-our bodies. Parents can talk about a paragraph every day like "One Thousand and One Nights", and sex education will naturally begin. After more than 30 years, sex education in Finland has achieved remarkable results, and Finland was set as a model by the World Conference on Population and Development.
British peer education
After the proportion of unmarried pregnant teenagers in Britain increased, on the advice of experts, the law passed by the British government stipulated that five-year-old children must begin to receive compulsory education. All public primary and secondary schools in Britain carry out sex education according to the specific provisions of the "national compulsory curriculum", and teach different content in four stages according to different age groups.
At present, "peer education" is popular in Britain, America and other countries, that is, by developing self-education and self-help groups for teenagers, using peer influence to resist the negative influence from society.
Sex education in junior high schools in Japan The Japanese education department knows the importance of sex education for junior high school students. Middle school is the most important period for the healthy growth of life, and it is also the period for the greatest physical changes. The individual differences in this period are considerable, and it is the most difficult age to educate. Doing a good job in sex education for junior high school students has a great influence on children's life.
In the third grade of junior high school, it is not uncommon for boys and girls to pair up during school, school and rest time. If the boys in Anonymous don't say hello to their classmates, the girls who get the cold shoulder will be anxious. This is a tendency from the third grade of junior high school. Every evening, in the classroom and in the corner of the campus after school, they will put their hands on each other's shoulders and stare at each other intently. Boys sometimes put their hands on girls' thighs. Even if you see the teacher's figure, you still keep the original appearance and never avoid it. Other students in the same grade will not be disgusted with this. Some students even casually said, "What's the big deal if you don't have sex!" This is the current situation in Japan.
Japanese middle school students, on the other hand, pay attention to obeying the rules in the ways and means of male-female communication. For example, don't be late for class. Sit in your seat when the bell rings. When there are two people in the room, the boys should open the door on their own initiative. If in the dark, boys must hold girls' hands instead of walking away; For girls, even if they are willing to be with boys, they should not stay too late and be decisive when breaking up. If middle school students are pregnant, there will be trouble anyway. Therefore, both men and women should fully understand their different desires and know that men sometimes can't control themselves because of different environments. Girls try not to create such an environment.
In recent years, the communication between men and women among middle school students has developed rapidly. In the third grade of a middle school, about one third of the students make friends with the opposite sex. Holding hands, shoulder to shoulder, eyes and spirit can be seen everywhere. But the content of communication is still based on the consciousness of "helping me". It can be seen that the traditional color of middle school students' view of the opposite sex is still very strong. It can also be said that there are still many things that need adult guidance.
In Japan, when it comes to sex education for middle school students, when it comes to the physical problems of men and women, it is explained as follows: "Physical problems are not limited to girls, boys can also produce seven or eight thousand sperm a day, and naturally accumulate them, resulting in the impulse to deal with them. Don't think masturbation is a shy and annoying thing. " Nowadays, students often have sexual accidents, and some boys play with women. At this time, it will play a great role to arm the theory and open each other's hearts through sex education. Moreover, bullying the weak is prevalent now, and sex education also has a certain effect on them. Bullying the weak is due to lack of sympathy for others. Therefore, through sex education, men and women will resonate in understanding.
Some female students are distressed because they can't find a boyfriend at the moment. The school doctor will advise: "Even if you can't get a boyfriend, it's not abnormal at all. Life is still long, why do you have to have a boyfriend now? What we are doing now is communication, and it is uncertain whether it will last for a long time. " Students should understand the nature of sexual desire between men and women, the gap of sexual impulse, the harm of abortion and contraception. Under the existing circumstances, some girls think menstruation is a disease, and some boys have a headache because they listen to the late-night radio for too long. Every student is lonely inside. I can't confess my troubles, fall into loneliness and loss, and pursue the opposite sex. The practice of their communication faithfully reflects these phenomena. This is the deep psychology of middle school students in trouble.
It is very important to understand the psychology and mentality of middle school students and do a good job in sex education in middle school. This has reached a consensus in Japanese education. Next, let's analyze the causes of sexual injuries among modern middle school students.
1. melancholy.
For various reasons, teenagers will be unhappy, sad and taciturn. If you are in this state for a long time, you should pay full attention to it.
2. Shaanxi Pass.
Is haggle over every ounce, too narrow-minded, can not tolerate others, do not understand others. I'm worried about small things, too, and I love to get to the bottom of it.
3. jealousy.
When others are better than themselves, they are unnatural, uncomfortable and even hostile. What's more, they even use blows and slanders to vent their inner jealousy.
4. panic has a sense of terror to the environment and things, such as fear of needles, fear of the dark, fear of ghosts and so on. The light person's heart beats violently, his hands shake, and the heavy person can't sleep, insomnia, screaming in his dream, etc.
5. brutality.
If you are unhappy with a little thing, you will vent it on others, hitting people and cursing them. Others will make fun of others for their own happiness and sneer at others, without warmth.
6. sensitive.
That is, nervousness and paranoia often regard others' unintentional words and irrelevant actions as contempt or ridicule for themselves, which leads to moodiness and great emotional changes.
7. Inferiority.
I lack confidence in myself and think that I am inferior to others in all aspects. No matter in study or in life, I always look down on myself and hold my head up. This inferiority complex has seriously affected my mood, and I feel too depressed because I lack interest in myself.
So how can I guide them correctly?
First of all, write the national middle school students' sex education guidance materials. Textbooks should be compiled not only from the perspective of sexual morality, but more importantly, according to the characteristics of teenagers, convenient textbooks such as physiological knowledge education, sexual health education, contraception and prevention of sexually transmitted diseases should be compiled to ensure that middle school students can minimize their injuries in the process of having sex. Second, local education departments should provide sex education and training for parents according to the actual situation. Sex education involves some private topics, which may not be suitable for unified explanation in a collective environment. Parents can change their traditional ideas and conduct scientific sex education for their children after mastering some educational technologies. This requires local education departments to design sex education courses for parents (through classrooms, TV programs, radio and other forms) to explain the knowledge and educational technology of sex education to those parents who need it. Third, prevent unhealthy and adult information from entering the school. National education departments and cultural management departments should severely crack down on pornographic books and periodicals near schools, pornographic information on the Internet and TV programs that are not suitable for teenagers to watch. The purpose is to purify the growth environment of the younger generation and ensure that middle school students can obtain sexual knowledge from normal channels. Fourth, middle schools are required to offer special sex education courses and be equipped with special teaching teachers. Although sex education has been mentioned for many years, many schools still ignore or even do nothing about sex education courses. Therefore, local education departments must require middle schools to offer special sex education courses and equip them with well-trained teachers who can teach smoothly to ensure the implementation of sex education in schools. For sensitive topics that students care about, we must be frank and thorough, so as not to arouse students' curiosity through half-baked sex education. Fifth, we must help middle school students who are harmed by sexual behavior. Middle school students' sexual behavior mistakes usually occur in ignorance or little knowledge. Once the injury is caused, students' bad emotions such as fear, fear, guilt and shame seriously affect their mental health. Therefore, middle schools must give psychological help to those students who have made mistakes. In a word, the openness of sexual consciousness in China has spread among middle school students, and has caused certain social impact. The national education department should proceed from reality, actively respond to the new situation, and focus on solving the problem of sex education for middle school students from the perspective of society, family, school and country. Otherwise, the combination of the openness of sexual awareness and the lack of sexual knowledge will inevitably bring immeasurable losses to teenagers and a heavy burden to the country and society! China can't wait to strengthen sex education in middle schools!