Junior high school parents' experience exchange materials 1 I was really scared when I received a phone call from my son's class teacher, saying that I should write a report on outstanding parents' deeds. As a parent, I just did some due responsibilities and obligations, but the school gave me such high trust and honor, which is really shameful. Let's talk about my experience in educating children.
I think family is the first environment for children's life, and its influence plays an extremely important role in the cultivation of children's good moral behavior. Every parent is a child's first teacher and a lifelong teacher. Parents' education for their children is a useful supplement to school education. It is the urgent need and hope of every parent to cultivate their children into a person who is physically and mentally healthy, independent and useful to society. I have paid attention to the cultivation of children since childhood, so that they can grow up healthily in a harmonious environment.
First, set an example and let children have a good example.
Parents are children's first teachers, and children's initial words and deeds are obtained from their parents. I am an educator. My son is two and a half years old and receives preschool education in the kindergarten of our school. Because our teacher has a strict working system, I take him to school at 6: 30 every morning, every day, so my son has been with me at the basic primary school stage, so my behavior has a great influence on my son. As a teacher, I am strict with myself, insist on doing things honestly, get along well with every colleague at work and be helpful. For example, I will actively help any colleague who wants to take an excellent class, and I will never slack off at work. How many cram schools does my son attend? He has witnessed my love for students and persistence in my work since he was a child. Knowing that his mother is a responsible mother, I will try my best to do one thing well, and it is not easy to do simple things well. Everything I said and did at school made a mirror for my children. Because children spend a long time with me, I often tell my son that if you want others to be good to you, you must be good to others first. The son knew when he was very young? Give someone a rose. Is there a fragrance in your hand? Meaning: Have you realized Bai's life again? Selflessness is personal? Real understanding. Tell him. I have been telling my son five fairy tales every night since I was one and a half years old, telling him the philosophy contained in the stories. Children pay attention to moral education guidance, so that he can know what is true, good and beautiful and what is false, evil and ugly from an early age, thus establishing a correct outlook on life and values from an early age. Enlightenment education determines the behavior of children the day after tomorrow. My son can get along well with every classmate in the class, be good at discovering the advantages of classmates, actively improve his behavior and be willing to help classmates. When I was a child, my son used his notebook the fastest. At first, I always thought my son was hopeless. Maybe he threw it away before he used it. Then I received a letter from his teacher? Your son has become a philanthropist in our class. He actively helps anyone who has no books. Today, a classmate in the class didn't have any books. He gave his only one to others, but he didn't have any exercise books! ? I am glad to see the teacher's reproach with appreciation. After all, my son did the right thing. Later, I deliberately asked my son why he did this, but my son answered me like this. Mom, you are right. Only if you like your classmates will your classmates like me. ? Looking at my son's childish face at that time, I realized from my heart how important it is for my parents to set an example. We should let children develop a good style of integrity, friendliness and diligence from an early age.
Second, communicate with children often and be their mentor.
The theme of Chinese education in today's society is to let students learn the language of the motherland well, so how to learn well is to let students speak and write. Therefore, parents should put communication with their children in the first place in family education. If you can spare half a day to communicate with your child, you can know the changes of your child's thoughts in time, make a correct judgment according to your child's thoughts and behaviors, and then guide your child in time and correctly. Especially now, junior high school students often have their own ideas. If they can't communicate with their children in time and effectively, they can't understand the problems they encounter on their way to growth. When I was in primary school, I had to take my son with me after school every day, and I was busy cooking when I went home. Time is tight, so I regard the time on my way to and from school four times a day as the best communication time between me and him. My son can always tell me about his study and entertainment at school. I will confirm it in time, and I can guide him correctly if it is not in place. Really achieved timely family education. I always have a chat with my son before going to bed at night. During this time, I will listen to my son tell me how he felt that day like a story: he was praised by the teacher for helping his classmates, criticized by the teacher for writing typos in his homework, and was very happy to play games with his classmates at school. The music teacher praised him as the best singer. Which classmate in the class didn't finish his homework and asked the teacher to call his parents? . Listening to my son talk about his own affairs every day sounds trivial, but listening to the children's voices makes them willing to express their thoughts and opinions. Parents point out his advantages and disadvantages like friends, and if they have, they will change them, and if they don't, they will encourage them. It plays a very important role in children's growth, especially for their physical and mental health. Now my son lives in school and can't go home for a week. Saturday and Sunday are the best time for me to communicate with my son. We will kneel down and talk like old friends who meet again after a long separation. My son will tell me about his study in school for a week, and I will focus on tutoring him and warning him not to be proud. There must be two voices in the process of children's growth, and that is? Encourage? And then what? Alert? . These sounds come from communication. Knowing the child's learning dynamics in the first time can encourage and alert the child in the first time. I hope every parent can take time out of his busy schedule to communicate with his children, because everything starts with communication.
Third, always put learning and reading first.
Now reading has become the core of Chinese classroom. Learn from reading, accumulate from reading, and enrich your language expression ability from reading. Educator Yu Yongzheng said? If life is a flower, then Chinese is the root of life. ? So I sincerely ask parents to strengthen their children's reading at home. Learning is the bounden duty of students, so I have always stressed to my children that learning is the first thing at any time. Some parents will say that we all know that reading is a good habit, but it is difficult for children to let go. What I want to say is that the formation of children's good reading habits is closely related to a good family learning atmosphere. We should study with our children, exchange what we read, and talk about our views after study, so as to skillfully combine communication with reading and kill two birds with one stone. Why did Gao Linsheng, a special national teacher, become an ordinary primary school teacher, then a college Chinese teacher, and then an education expert? A wonderful way is that reading as a child changed his life's fate: when he was a child, his father asked him to recite a paragraph of classical Chinese every day, but he couldn't eat it. In order to eat, he had to recite the boring classical Chinese, so he insisted on reciting 300 pieces of classical Chinese every day, and he didn't understand the meaning of classical Chinese. Until later, it was these 300 pieces of classical Chinese that changed the fate of his life. Accidentally went to the university substitute teacher's class, and the result happened to be a classical Chinese. After class, the students all said that he spoke better than their professional Chinese teacher, and then he really changed from an unremarkable primary school physical education teacher to a university teacher, and later became a national special teacher, all thanks to his childhood study. The best reading time in life is childhood and adolescence, so I hope parents and friends can take time out of their busy schedules to study with our children. Reading will become the wealth of our children's life. Because I know the importance of reading, I usually actively read various educational magazines, learn good educational ideas and methods from them, get in touch with teachers, and cooperate with teachers to educate children. My son has been studying formally since the first grade, and his study habits are very important. So I accompany him to do his homework every night, help him with his homework and recite dictation. I always recite the books that the teacher asked his son to recite, and I always compete with him to see who can recite them first to reward him, which greatly stimulated his enthusiasm for reading. Slowly, the child formed the habit of consciously learning, and our parents began to accompany him. When the child is doing homework, I read my professional books beside him, from tutoring homework to checking homework, highlighting the careless places in the child's writing or homework, and further letting him develop the habit of consciously correcting mistakes. At the same time, in the process of studying with children, my professional knowledge has also been strengthened. It is the best of both worlds! When children see their parents lead by example, they will follow their parents' example and study harder and harder. I often hear some colleagues say that children are doing homework and parents either watch TV or laugh loudly; Either invite a group of people to play mahjong at home, or let the son stay at home and play computer by himself. These are irresponsible behaviors, and I think it is very bad for children, both physically and psychologically! At the same time, parents are advised to take their children's holidays as the best time for parent-child reading. Only parents set an example and create a good reading atmosphere. Are they still afraid that their children will not fall in love with reading? So guidance is very important.
Fourth, actively participate in extracurricular activities and give children room for free development.
Nowadays, children are basically only children. Apart from going to school, there is little time to play with children at other times. Playing is children's nature. If the child's nature is artificially strangled, there will be many psychological problems, either withdrawn or arrogant. Therefore, in order not to let the child have this shortcoming, in addition to normal study, we try to let him get in touch with nature and play with other children on weekends. When spring comes, I will take my son to fly kites in the fields, where I can make many friends. The weather is hot in summer vacation. I always take my son to play football on the grass in the evening. The key is not to play football, but to let children get physical and mental exercise and learn to cooperate with others. This also allowed him to find the fun of life outside the computer and reduce the time of surfing the Internet. In order to let my son have a wide range of hobbies, I not only pursue the improvement of my grades during the holidays, but also let him participate in painting classes, music classes, taekwondo exercises, calligraphy exercises and so on. For these hobbies, I only ask my child to study happily and play heartily, and don't force him to achieve something. Because there is no pressure, my son's study is relaxed and happy, his life becomes colorful, his personality becomes cheerful and generous, he is warm and friendly to his friends, United and friendly, and helps others, becoming a good boy that everyone likes. At the same time, learning his hobbies in adolescence can make him a versatile person in his later life, and he can shine no matter what stage he stands on and needs talent display in the future. All walks of life like talents who can let go at critical times.
5. Actively cooperate with school teaching,
School is the main place to educate children. I attach great importance to the cooperation with the school, attend every parent-teacher meeting seriously, often communicate with the class teacher, understand the children's performance at school, objectively analyze the children's performance at different stages, patiently communicate and discuss with the children, praise their achievements and urge them to improve.
Two words are particularly popular now, IQ and EQ. In modern society, it is not enough to let children compete in their studies. It is also important to let children adapt to the development of society and deal with the relationship between good people. IQ is the capital of survival, but EQ is the guarantee of quality of life. As each of our parents, everyone who has experienced it knows that it is necessary to organically combine the two aspects, so that children can become outstanding teenagers with all-round development in morality, intelligence and physique, adapt to society and become outstanding talents in the future.
My educational philosophy is: listen to children's voices and give them free space; Share children's successes and setbacks and give them rational guidance. I am willing to work with all parents to light up their children's life course with smiles and encouragement, and be a mountain that children can always rely on.
Junior high school parents' experience exchange materials 2 Dear teachers, parents, friends and children:
Hello everyone! I'm _-parent. I am very happy to stand here today and share some of my personal feelings with you! I want to thank xu teacher, the head teacher of our class, for giving me such an opportunity. First of all, on behalf of all parents, please allow me to say to all teachers: Teacher, you have worked hard! ?
Below I will briefly summarize and introduce the education of children, hoping to draw lessons from parents.
First, know how to be grateful
What are the two words I want to say first? Grateful? . Some parents may have doubts in their hearts: nonsense, is this achievement good or not, and will it have something to do with gratitude? Dear parents and friends, don't believe it! My child just graduated from Grade Three this year and has been admitted to Wen Yi No.1 Middle School. I think a big reason is that we teach children how to be grateful. When the child's grades are good, I will say the first sentence: Your teacher will be very happy this time because the teacher has worked so hard. ? When the child slips, my first sentence will be:? Don't lose heart, the teacher is so kind to you, but he still values you very much. You must cheer up next time and don't let the teacher worry. ? Of course, I will call the teacher in time to say thank you and so on. These words are my sincere thanks to the teacher for his hard work! It is also a kind of gratitude education for children. Like last year, my son won the prize in Wen Yi No.1 Middle School? Excellent students? At that time, I asked the children to tell the teacher first. I said: The teacher is most worried about your grades. ? This time, when the admission list came down, my son was very excited and said to me: Mom, tell the teacher quickly! ? Of course, I am happy that my son entered school, but the happiest thing is that my son has learned to be grateful and has a grateful heart. I want to: let children be grateful to every teacher who teaches them, love them and respect them. Love the teacher, and children will like the teacher's class; Respect the teacher, he will listen carefully in class, the classroom efficiency can be high, and he can grasp the key points and make achievements. Some people may say that your son met a good teacher. Of course, I am glad that my son has always been taught by a teacher. However, parents and friends, as a teacher, first of all, he is a normal person, not a god. In the face of dozens of students in the class, it is impossible to serve one of your children anytime and anywhere, so there will inevitably be times when you don't like it. This requires us as parents how to guide our children to be grateful. Parents can be grateful to their friends, which is an important magic weapon to promote success. Recently, I read a story in "Smart Backpack": an old carpenter has always been a good worker. Later, he wanted to leave the construction industry and go home to enjoy family happiness with his wife and children. The boss is reluctant to let him go and hopes that he will build another house. The old carpenter agreed. But he didn't want to go to work, but he built a house with poor quality. When he left his job, the president gave him the key to the house and said, you have worked hard for our company all your life, and I want to give you this house. At this time, the old carpenter regretted it. The boss knows how to be grateful, but the workers don't learn to repay his long-term care. This story tells us that we should take our work seriously and thank others. In fact, everyone has been building houses all his life, for others and for himself. There is a golden rule in the law of success: treat others as yourself and be grateful. That is, always think for others and think from others' standpoint. As a child, think more about the difficulties of being a parent; As students, we should give more consideration to teachers' difficulties.
Of course, gratitude is not only manifested in students to teachers, but also in students to parents, parents to teachers, and parents to others. There is a good saying? Teaching by example is never better than teaching by example? .
Step 2: Get into the habit
? Habit? Is the second topic I want to talk about today. What habits should children develop in junior high school?
1, learning comes first. In their view, study is work, and it should be before entertainment. They should concentrate on their studies, be calm, have no distractions, go all out and forget to prepare for the war.
2. Learn everywhere. Make good use of your spare time. Every morning, when you run, eat, break, before class and rest, you can recite words, formulas, solve problems and adjust your mood in your spare time. No matter how they have their own characteristics, they are consistent in one thing: ensuring study time and learning to make good use of their spare time. Over time, the effect is considerable.
3. Reasonable arrangement. Do what you should do and do what is reasonable at a reasonable time, not the other way around. For example, pay attention to classroom efficiency, listen to lectures in class, take notes in class and understand in class. If you don't understand anything, take the initiative to ask the teacher for advice after class or on the same day, so as to be open and clear. For example, make good use of your time and encourage yourself to complete the learning tasks of the day, so that every day will be clear. For example, you can combine work and rest, relax moderately, and be dynamic. For example, keep up with the teacher's rhythm and review, and don't go astray. Use holiday time to adjust and make up for last semester's problems. All holidays in junior high school are very important. Students don't just check what they have learned. You also need to preview the content of the next semester in advance and study in advance. For excellent junior high school students, it is X##B! Let's talk about it: how does my son arrange his holidays? (which scientific research is not ideal, use the holiday to make up; Which subject is your top, use the holiday to go up a storey still higher to achieve yourself); If the holiday time is used well, it will not exist, and there is not enough time at ordinary times, which leads to problems such as insufficient sleep. I found it when my son got little sleep and his grades dropped. On the contrary, you can always get good results by traveling light.
4. Self-adjustment. Don't dodge the question. When you encounter problems, you can adjust yourself by looking for teachers or classmates or self-reflection, abandon the pressure from the outside world and yourself, consciously put down the ideological burden, and turn the pressure into motivation, so that you can maintain a normal heart no matter how heavy your schoolwork is or how easy it is. Don't affect your study because of your usual exam results. It is normal to make a mistake in many exams. It is important to find out the reason and avoid it from happening again.
Emotions must not be impetuous, but should be handled calmly in a good way. Once you encounter setbacks in your study and your mood becomes impatient, stop studying temporarily, think quietly, adjust your mentality, and keep telling yourself that you would rather not fight than disturb the war?
What should parents do when they enter junior high school?
1, understand the various systems of the school. Especially the way to high school directly. Learn about the relevant school systems as soon as possible and create conditions for children's junior high school study as much as possible. In particular, some junior high schools have very good high schools, and many parents enter junior high schools in order to let their children enter senior high schools in the future. These parents should know the school's regulations on direct high school as soon as possible. What are the requirements? Is it necessary to rank the achievements in three years? Or should there be a unified selection exam? Are there any special requirements for math or English in the exam? Wait a minute.
2. Communicate with the class teacher and the classroom teacher as soon as possible. This is what many parents can do, but primary school parents generally only deal with the class teacher to understand their children's learning situation. But in junior high school, in addition to the class teacher, it is more important to communicate with the main classroom teachers, who are more likely to know whether the child's course is good or not and what problems are there. The senior high school entrance examination is a comprehensive selection examination. It is very important to communicate with teachers in time to avoid children's excessive partiality. In addition, in addition to academic performance, the content of communication with teachers should also pay attention to the changes in children's mentality. Junior high school is a sensitive period, and children have a strong thirst for knowledge and curiosity. Good things will affect him, and bad things will affect him. Insight into the changes of children's mentality, communicate with teachers to solve problems in time, and help children maintain a stable learning mentality in junior high school.
3. Seriously talk to children about junior high school problems (the importance attached to learning, how to face pressure, etc.). Children who just entered junior high school have two completely different mentalities: one is that they can't concentrate on their studies after the summer vacation. This mentality is not conducive to early adaptation to the new learning environment in junior high school. The other is excessive worry about junior high school learning. These students are under great pressure. How to help children analyze problems and solve learning difficulties? Baidu can find Li's Sina blog, which contains a free DVD of genuine learning methods, which should be a good guide.
Both parents should figure out how to deal with children's adolescent education, especially how to better communicate with children in the face of their self-reliance tendency. When children enter junior high school, their learning methods should be changed. The way parents educate their children should also change. It is not a good idea to care or scold blindly. After junior high school, children don't fight back or scold them back to childhood. Parents need to tell the truth when educating their children, for example. And the role of language has never been more convincing than behavior. In other words, in primary school, parents will take direct stick or sugar-coated education, while in junior high school, children are more likely to receive indirect education.
5. Know the situation in recent years in advance and help children set their own goals (want to enter high school). The situation of the senior high school entrance examination changes correspondingly every year, and the results of the college entrance examination in each high school are different. It is impossible for a first-grade child to care about such a thing. But parents need to know this. If parents can help their children understand these things and set goals as soon as possible, they will guide their children to work hard and increase their motivation to learn.
Finally, I wish all parents, friends and children all the best.
Family is the first classroom for children and the first social environment for children to contact. Parents' quality, personality image and practical behavior have a vital influence on the formation of children's ideological and moral character, and are the key factors to determine the success or failure of family education. How to educate the only child well is a big topic for every family. Daughter Huai Jiaxuan, 10 years old, a student in class 4 1 in Yuhong Primary School. Her growth is healthy, because she has a healthy mind, a healthy body and a healthy life.
Like most parents, we deeply feel that educating children is an art, just like creating a painting. We should add every stroke to her heart, enrich every color and leave the least regret.
First, establish a good parent-child relationship, improve their own quality and create a harmonious and beautiful family environment for children.
The child grew up with us. As parents, we have created a harmonious and warm family atmosphere full of happiness and care for her. We never adopt paternalistic discipline, but communicate with each other as friends. At home, everyone can express their opinions at will. If they are correct, they will be adopted, respected and considerate. In terms of children's hobbies, we respect her personality development, and parents give appropriate guidance to cultivate children's hobbies.
In order to let her have a more direct perceptual knowledge, we have taken her to Tsinghua, Peking University and other first-class universities, accompanied her to science museums, art galleries, natural museums and other places to broaden her knowledge horizons, and let her learn to aim at outstanding people and sow the seeds of lofty aspirations in her young mind.
As a parent, I do my duty as a parent. We have been creating a harmonious and beautiful family environment for our children.
We know that in a family, parents are the main targets of children's imitation. My husband and wife value their parents' role models in front of their children. Every night, we have to read and study. In such an atmosphere, children are influenced by subtle influences from childhood and form a good habit of loving reading.
We respect children's ideas, and care about not only her physical growth but also her psychological growth. The child is ten years old and has his own thoughts. Many things have his own opinions. I often take the initiative to communicate with children on an equal footing. We have created a relaxed and good environment for children's growth. Living in this environment, children are calm and happy. Now children are willing to share everything with me, and they are more sensible and easier to discipline. Children can grow up healthily and lively.
I once lost my temper with my children. After I calmed down, I felt that this was not the solution to the problem, and I had to have a good talk with my calm children. I regard my children as my friends. I take the initiative to admit my mistake to my child and apologize to her for what I said and did wrong. As a result, the child gradually told me everything. What happened at school, what happened between classmates, and even trivial things, we also talked to each other. What she thought, whether it was confusion in study or troubles in life, was also taken out to discuss with her mother. We feel relaxed and happy every time we talk. Mutual trust and respect. These good family atmosphere make her lively, cheerful and happy! Very popular with classmates and teachers.
Second, adhere to close contact with schools and society, and study hard to master the scientific knowledge and methods of educating children.
The parent-teacher conference at school is an activity that I am extremely concerned about. No matter how busy I am at work, I will take time to take an active part. This is not only to improve their own quality, but also to respect children, so that children feel that they attach great importance to her and that her affairs are no small matter. This is also the best opportunity for us to get to know children and communicate with teachers and parents.
In my heart, I always think that teachers are the most respectable. Teachers are the hardest, really like candles burning themselves to illuminate others. So I am very supportive of children's participation in school activities. I always analyze problems from the teacher's point of view. I think teachers are all for the good of children, whether it is criticism or praise. Children get more praise, and I will educate her to guard against arrogance and rashness and continue to work hard; When a child encounters difficulties, I will guide her to face them positively and overcome them. The class teacher is also very concerned about the growth of children. When children are found to be lax in discipline or have other problems, we will communicate by phone or talk face to face, and home and school will join hands to educate together.
Third, it is important to teach children to be human beings and establish a correct concept of teaching children.
We value children's lives more than their studies. In the process of children's growth, I think the most important thing in education is to teach children to be human and learn to live in the world. What kind of person do you want to be? Be a person who respects parents and teachers, is honest and caring for others, and has self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence and self-improvement.
At ordinary times, we pay attention to cultivating and training children's good living habits, and encourage her to participate in recreational sports and social activities in some schools to promote the healthy development of children's body and mind.
At home, I also pay attention to guiding her to participate in housework as much as possible, supporting children to participate in social welfare work, taking her to travel when I have time, broadening my horizons, exercising my ability, and paying attention to cultivating children's self-care ability and work habits.
I often talk to my child about my work experience and tell her that no matter what she does, she should have a dedicated and serious attitude, and so should her study. Now, children have basically developed good study and living habits.
In the blink of an eye, the child has grown up gradually, and the painstaking efforts of education are bearing gratifying fruits on the child. We are glad to see that the children are lively and cheerful, distinguish right from wrong, be sensible and obedient, and have a sense of collective honor? We are moved by the growth and progress of the children.
Perhaps the child's study is not the best, but her sense of collective responsibility, kindness and justice, as well as her habit of reading, all let us see great hope!