First, cultivate children's manners. In his view, if a teacher wants to be virtuous, he should first be polite to show the importance of respecting the old and loving the young, so that children can learn to be generous and kind, thus cultivating their family etiquette.
Secondly, see the teacher in time. It is not just a fallacy to let children apply what they have learned. Therefore, it is necessary to schedule the situation in time. There are many children at home, so try not to give orders, and give more spiritual guidance to help children get out of the mode of thinking and master words.
Finally, cultivate children's self-protection ability. A bright society will also make children have the desire to imitate. If parents don't cultivate the ability of self-protection, children are easily poisoned by the scum of society. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's views on dealing with social problems, pay attention to protecting their own mental health, prevent their children from going astray, control their mouths and avoid making mistakes.
In a word, Yan Zhitui's family education philosophy is "love"+"ceremony", which cultivates children's etiquette, timely teaching and self-protection, so that children can learn to respect interpersonal relationships, conform to the Constitution, be fair and reasonable, and learn to respect the old and love the young, teach by example, and keep upright and avoid evil.
Enlightenment of Yan Zhitui s Family Education Thought on Modern Family Education;
1. The positive significance of the thought of combining love with education to modern family education.
Yan Zhitui's thought of "majesty and kindness" has become the principle of modern family education in China, and it is an important subject worthy of study in modern family education in China. Yan Zhitui advocates the establishment of parents' prestige, which is the principle that "family education needs parents' authority" advocated by modern family education.
Modern family education theory puts forward that the authority of parents is an important condition to ensure the effectiveness of family education, and kindness and seriousness are the basic principles of educating children. Pay attention to the degree of strictness and kindness. Children who lack seriousness are easily indulged. This coincides with Yan Zhitui's thought. Therefore, Yan Zhitui's educational principle of combining strictness with kindness has positive reference significance for modern family education.
2. The lack of the thought of combining love with education in the implementation of modern family education.
① There is a serious imbalance between "strictness" and "goodness": spoil is greater than strictness. Nowadays, the only child is the apple of his parents' eye. Parents often try to create a comfortable nest for their children, so that children can eat and wear well, and their own work is also done by parents.
Parents expect too much from their children, which leads to strict tutoring: the school requires students to take care of themselves and learn to do housework, but parents are reluctant to let their children get tired and not let them do it. Most parents put intellectual education in the first place, asking their children to spend all their time studying, thinking that as long as they study hard, they ignore the education of their children's family work.