Let me talk about my situation first. I am a stay-at-home mom. I quit my job and went home after I got pregnant, so I took care of the children wholeheartedly. But I walk around the children every day, and even the shopping cart is full of children's things, which inevitably makes me a little unhappy. So over time, my temper became very irritable and I became more and more impatient with my children's education. Especially after the birth of Bauer, I was impatient with Dabao's education. When Dabao is naughty, I always get angry and sometimes even start work.
But I didn't sacrifice my career for two good children. When my family was in Dabao Primary School, I would rather live on campus than go home. When Bauer went to kindergarten, he became more and more naughty. Due to physical and mental exhaustion, I have to seek professional help everywhere.
In this case, getting family education can help me, and I found Dean Tan's works. There is a chapter called "60 seconds, please calm your mother down", which says that it only takes 60 seconds to make your mother not angry and your child obedient. I thought it was helpful, so I signed up for Dean Tan's course.
When studying the course, Dean Tan told me that when I want to get angry, I should try to control myself according to the following procedures.
0- 10s, quick response. When a child makes a mistake, the first reaction is not to blame, but to take the child out of this environment and divert the attention of the child and himself.
1 1-20s, stay calm. Yelling won't solve anything. Being calm can not only help you solve problems better, but also make it easier for children to listen to you.
2 1-30s, situation assessment. Keep a clear head and think about why children are like this. Is it intentional? Really just curious.
3 1-40s, say something to the child. Children should not only know what they have done wrong, but also know what is right.
4 1-50s, do you need to teach your child a lesson? In most cases, it is enough to give children a little education, and there is no need to punish them.
5 1-60s, strengthening effect. Remember never to threaten your child, which will not only hurt your child's heart, but also reduce your prestige.
After all these processes in my mind, even my great anger is almost gone.
After returning home, I tried these procedures described by Dean Tan and found that my temper was really much better. Now I have a good relationship with my two daughters. Every time Dabao goes to school, she will hold my arm for a long time and her family relationship will improve. My husband doesn't blame me for not educating my children well. This is what the "one minute" of business education brought me.