Since my cousin came to Shenzhen, she always likes to invite us to play on Sundays. Our own children are about the same age and should easily become good friends. However, my cousin's eldest son Pumbaa is very naughty. When playing with children, he often creates some small frictions. Pushed down my sister, took her bubble machine, took out gravel and spilled it all over my brother, so I couldn't open my eyes.
Without saying anything, the cousin picked up the baby with her feet and cried after kicking. Even if I advised her, she wouldn't let me. She gnashed her teeth and said, "Let him cry. If he is tired of crying, he won't have the strength to be naughty."
My cousin and I said, "You see, I am also very strict with my children. Why is this baby still so thin? " It's not good to educate children often by calling. You should change it later. "
My cousin said helplessly, "If I hit him every day, I would have broken him. When you are busy, where can you afford it? His father doesn't have time to take care of the children at all, so I can relax myself sometimes and drop as much as I want! "
I feel a little numb in my back. This baby is so ignorant that it must be inseparable from her parents' education methods. Cousin's teaching method is not good for educating children, which is a bit like the "corpse-changing" parenting education on the Internet. I'm not ashamed to say it. You are irresponsible to children, but I also told her that you can't educate children in this cultural way.
Many parents are like that. When their children's growth is unsatisfactory, their grades are not good, and their moral cultivation is problematic, their parents will lament: "Why did I give birth to such a child and tell the judge?" This is simply an invitation from God to destroy me! " In fact, it was not God who ruined you, but the wrong teaching method that ruined your son a little.
If there is something wrong with children's growth, it is likely that parents have something wrong with their children's cultural education. Irresponsible parents, parents of children without a good education. This is usually the case when educating children. It is common that children are not well educated.
◎ Cowardly parents may be in this state when teaching, and children are very prone to problems!
Usually don't care about children, beat and scold children for no reason. "Habit makes the future, and character determines life." Children's habits and personalities are all grown up bit by bit in the daily life with their parents. Some parents usually don't like taking care of their children. After a day's work, they were very tired when they got home, so the baby was separated. Children like to play with mobile phones, just play for a while, and I will relax for a while. Children's diet and daily life, if in a state of free-range, it is difficult to develop good habits.
If parents neglect their children, the consequences will be more serious. For example, children's academic performance is poor, and if they are left to talk by the teacher every once in a while, they are likely to be very angry. When children always make mistakes and embarrass you in front of outsiders, you will fly into a rage. At this moment, you are a responsible parent. Jumping out as soon as possible is also a kind of conversation reminder and a kind of abuse. It seems that through this manipulation, all the children's problems can be changed at once.
In fact, this kind of "corpse-changing" parenting education has to break the child's sense of security and solve the child's self-confidence, which is very unfavorable to the child's character development. When children grow up, they can't have great prospects and may be abandoned. Everyone can't be such a mom and dad.
◎ If you are a parent who wants your child to be excellent, you must invest time and energy in these aspects to discipline your child.
(1) To mold children's good habits, parents should always care and guide them.
Some people like reading with their children, so the baby has developed a good habit of reading since childhood. Some parents also like to take their babies to exercise together, and their children love sports competitions and are in good health.
Pay attention to hygiene, love learning and exercise regularly. Good habits will benefit a person for a lifetime, and good habits will be carried out in everyone's life. Therefore, parents need to accompany their children to grow up, care about their children's growth, and take themselves as an example to teach their children to get on the right track.
Encouraging children's good moral quality is the core of family education.
A person's personality determines what kind of person he is. The development of children's personality is largely realized in childhood. If you want your baby to be optimistic and confident, parents should give their children more companionship and make their hearts full of belonging.
If you want to make your baby strong and brave, you must guide your child to get rid of setbacks and difficulties again and again. When successful experience is accumulated little by little in children's minds, children are confident and strong people.
Disciplining children is an extremely profound research topic. Because every child is unique, other people's teaching methods must not be copied and pasted on themselves. Teaching children in accordance with their aptitude and giving them the most ideal cultural education are the courses that every parent must do well.