In the early morning dyed golden by the morning light, three or two groups of children kept walking towards the primary school gate in a small passage separated by a warning line. In this group of children, the figure of a slender little girl has been locked by my eyes. The huge schoolbag on her back forced her to lean forward to keep her balance. This little girl is my six-year-old daughter. A month ago, I firmly sent her to the primary school gate, and used my own breakfast every morning and my first smile at night as gifts to celebrate her important growth in life. However, with the real beginning of primary school life, my firmness is becoming more and more doubtful day by day. As soon as I entered school, I spent six years trying to train my daughter to be "myself", telling her that everyone is "unique" and not arrogant and impetuous, so that she gradually understood that "you have your good, and I have my good". However, in the past month, my ideas have been fundamentally challenged. A few decades ago, I was a primary school student and knew that the biggest rule in school was uniformity. Decades have passed, and our society is full of individuality. It can be inferred that children nowadays are not depressed, if not unassuming. Unexpectedly, only one school tool was prepared, which gave us a duel. After the first parent-teacher meeting, the teacher gave a very detailed PPT, which made detailed regulations on what kind of books, pens, stationery bags, file bags, dancing shoes, etc. And clearly defined what kind of skin each book and bag has, how thick the skin is, where to write the name and how to write it. That weekend, we rushed to several big supermarkets and wholesale markets near our home to purchase all kinds of supplies listed by our teachers and implement them one by one. I didn't expect many children's products to be unqualified, including my daughter. When I came back that day, my daughter blamed me anxiously: "Why don't you buy me a pair of white dancing shoes?" Because my daughter has been learning to dance, there are several pairs of standard ballet shoes at home. How can it be unqualified? The daughter said, the teacher told me to buy a white one, with a wide elastic band in front instead of a thin shoelace. "This is not a performance on the stage. Usually used in class. Is it necessary to be so unified? " After running for a few days, dancing shoes became a "straw" that crushed me. "Just wear this, don't change it." I said stiffly to my daughter. My daughter didn't make any noise. I turned around and saw tears in her eyes and anxiety and fear written on her face. She whispered to me, "Some children have been criticized." How can I let my daughter, who just started school, be blamed for such a trivial matter? How can I make her so helpless? ! I immediately got up and took my daughter to the store recommended by the teacher to buy dancing shoes that meet the requirements. My daughter's mood calmed down, but I was extremely uncomfortable. I kept asking myself: Am I wrong? The educational concept of "teaching three points and teaching seven points" hit a wall as soon as the school started. It took me six years to learn to wait and understand that the growth of children is "teaching three points and teaching seven points", but this month, I have to speed up my pace. Because I understand that preschool children should focus on games, I have always insisted that children should not go to preschool, where they can learn more knowledge. The children's small hands are mainly used to use tools such as scissors. The pen in her hand is more used to draw and seldom to write. At school, writing has become a compulsory course. I know my child lacks training in this field, so I will pay special attention to her when she writes. I watched her carefully. Every time she writes a word, she works hard, stroke by stroke, very hard. Although each stroke is still crooked, the page looks very dirty because of too much force. Seeing that she is so serious, I know she will get through this smoothly. However, I heard from my teacher within two days. "Children's handwriting is very poor, and parents supervise their children to write every word well." Calligraphy needs long-term practice. Is it possible to ask children to be horizontal and vertical and write decently in less than a week after entering primary school? Children are either prodigies or they have to start in kindergarten. Looking at the child's serious and painful appearance, I was thinking: Did I learn to "wait" correctly? If so, why does it cause more pain to children than others? If not, then what is right? I spent six years trying to make my daughter understand that the foundation of interpersonal relationship is mutual respect. I also know that children should learn to respect, first of all, they should respect her, and they should not be bossed around just because they are parents, and they should not abuse their power just because they are adults. However, after this month's parents' life, I have to worry. For safety reasons, the management of entering and leaving the school gate is very strict at present. Without special circumstances, it is difficult for parents to see their children at school at ordinary times, and it is also difficult to understand how teachers interact with their children. But I am still full of doubts. Since the beginning of school, teachers have established SMS communication channels with parents. Seeing the teacher's long message and the detailed requirements in it, the first thing that comes to mind is that the teacher is very hard, and both parents often feel that managing a child is beyond their power, not to mention that a teacher has to manage 40 students in a class. So, after receiving the information, I will reply to the teacher that the information has been received. Thank you sincerely. Unexpectedly, two days later, the teacher sent a message to all parents: if you receive a text message from the teacher, you don't have to reply if you don't need it. If you need a reply, you will give a special explanation. When I received the text message, I suddenly froze, so I took back my thoughts and reread the text message I want every day. I found that although most teachers' text messages start with "Hello parents" and end with "Thank you for your cooperation", the whole text message is basically all kinds of orders, such as "I must bring it here tomorrow …" "There are children who don't have parents' signatures today, please pay attention" and so on. I know this is a channel with only "posting" but no "uploading", and teachers seem to be used to the way of "obeying" without "discussing". The communication between teachers and parents is still the same. Will it be different for children? The "little red flag" of Aituan was bought by parents. There is still a mystery. It took me six years to make children understand that gifts are not the motivation to do things, so I try not to get gifts as an exchange condition for children to do things. However, these days, my daughter has successfully changed two erasers with "small stickers" and changed a lollipop with a few small pieces of paper with patterns. She also accumulated another pile of "small stickers" in a small notebook. It is said that if she saves enough 65,438+00, she can exchange it for a bigger gift. In order to let the children hang more "little red flags" on the class wall, we bought green plants and napkins for the class, sent wall stickers to beautify the wall, and participated in the design of the class emblem that should have been participated by the students themselves ... The education method that is sharply opposite to the modern education concept suddenly happened after my daughter entered school. In another six years, can this prestigious school give me a creative child? Haven't public opinion been discussing how to cultivate children's creativity all these years? However, when you go to primary school to attend classes, you will find that after class, someone will shout, someone will go to the toilet to drink water, and someone will listen to the order. In class, they will cross their hands on the desk and raise their hands as high as possible to answer questions. When they open their schoolbags, all the children's book covers are exactly the same, all the pencils are 2H long, even the tips are the same thickness, and even the names on the book covers must be written in the same font in the same direction ... Six years later, they are still so uniform. ! I firmly believe in an educator's famous saying: education is that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul. The purpose of education is not to pour out what is in our minds to children, but to awaken his soul and stimulate his great creativity. It took me six years to try my best to treat this child around me as a person one size younger than me to understand her heart and let her understand mine at the same time. Now I send such a small child to school with great enthusiasm. I hope the school can do better than me, let such a small child grow up and grow up along her unique life track. What kind of child will I have in six years? Now, I'm a little scared.