1. What is death?
As a doctor, Mr. Hihara Chongming often witnessed death. This gave him a deeper understanding of life. He thinks that death may be frightening, but it is not the end of life, but another new beginning. Mr. Rihara often thinks of his dead wife, relatives and friends. Their voices and smiles seem more vivid in his memory. This made him understand that people will not disappear after death, but will stay in the life of the living in a more profound way. As a doctor, Mr. Nichinohara said that even in another world, his starting point is to continue to help people. At the same time, he also hopes that the words left behind will blossom and bear fruit in the world like wheat seeds.
2. What is life?
Mr. Nichinohara said that life is an energy body, invisible, but existing. With the theme of "life learning", he devoted himself to improving the dignity of life and communicating with young children all over Japan. He told the children that life exists in time that we can control. In childhood, we spent almost all our time on ourselves. Only when you grow up can you contribute your time to others and society. He hopes that when children grow up, they will realize this and try their best to help those in need.
3. How to live your true self
To live your true self, Mr. Nichinohara gave three suggestions. First, I don't care about what's outside. If we pay too much attention to external things such as fame and fortune, praise from others, we will not be able to look at ourselves from the inside and see our true selves. Second, it is not influenced by other people's evaluation. We should make use of our abilities, actively use environmental conditions and concentrate on what we should do. To this end, we need to pursue a simple lifestyle. Third, let nature take its course and don't force it. On the one hand, we should make unremitting efforts for our ideals. On the other hand, when the ideal cannot be realized, we should also learn to accept it calmly. This is the so-called "do your best and listen to your destiny". Mr. Nichinohara said that to do this, we must first summon up the courage to act.
1. Love and be loved
For Mr. Rihara, love and being loved are the energy sources of his life. To love others and be loved by others is a unique feeling unique to human beings. On the one hand, when people pass on love, they can also get happiness. As the singer Fiorenza cossotto realized: To win the love of the audience, we must sincerely thank everyone present. Whenever she walks on the stage, she imagines how to convey the idea of "I love you" to every audience. This practice made her fall in love with the audience. This has always moved her audience and made her artistic life last forever. On the other hand, everyone wants to be loved, which is human nature. But when seeking to be loved, people often use their own standards to ask each other.
2. How to treat friends
As for friends, Mr. Rihara thinks that a true friend is enough. A true friend is someone who wishes us all the best. A true friend, even if he hasn't been in touch for many years, will take your business as his own no matter how things change. So, how can we find real friends? Mr. Rihara said, first of all, you should trust your inner feelings. If you think you can be a real friend with someone, then believe this feeling. In addition, spend more time with this friend, such as walking and chatting, and invite each other into each other's life stage. Finally, on the stage of life, true friends need to have common experiences and help each other in difficulties.
3. What is love?
In Mr rihara's view, love is the ultimate goal of human existence. Without love, people can't live.
When he was in his nineties, Mr Nichinohara wrote a love song. From the lyrics, we can feel his understanding of love: we are here in Qixin, working together for beauty and devoting time together. Hold hands tightly, pass on love, spread love and fill your heart. We are here in Qixin, working together, offering ourselves without asking for anything in return, holding joy in our hands and overflowing our hearts. My dear, please accept my love, please accept my love. This song is for some volunteer choirs to sing in the shelter. So, this song became the last song that people who died there heard. Mr. Nichinohara said that he believes that a society that can give love to each other must be full of warmth and happiness.
1. Forgive others
When it comes to forgiveness, Mr Nichinohara admits that whenever he needs to forgive someone who is hard to forgive, he feels powerless. Mr. Nichinohara said that only by thinking and understanding from the other person's perspective can real forgiveness be realized. Forgiving others is actually forgiving yourself. Because unforgivable people will let themselves fall into bad negative emotions and live very tired. On the contrary, forgiveness will make people live more relaxed and happy.
End bullying
Mr Nichinohara said that bullying is an act of disrespect for life. If we can put ourselves in others' shoes and care for others as we care for ourselves, bullying will be put an end to. Otherwise, bullying will not only happen between children and adults, but also between countries.
On 20 16, Mr. Rihara created a collection of poems and paintings "No Revenge", one of which expressed his attitude towards bullying. In the poem, there are a few words that say: bullying is an act that hurts life and deprives friends of time. Come on, stop bullying people. If the bully is you, don't fight hard, don't open your mouth and scold, bear it silently and tell him that I won't retaliate.
3. How to get along with young people
Mr. Rihara said that he likes young people. Whenever he is affirmed by young people, he will be very happy, hoping to be a mentor to young people and give them more courage. He believes that getting along with young people requires intimate and gentle contact. For example, pay attention to your tone, expression and attitude. If you lecture them condescendingly, they won't communicate with you. In addition, the evaluation of "young people nowadays are not so good" is a self-based statement. With the growth of age and experience, young people will become talkative and confident. More importantly, Mr. Rihara believes that many people only respect elders or powerful people, and often lack due respect for the younger generation, family members and the weak. He said that it is a good practice to respect others, and you can think of others, regardless of age or position.
1. Faced with sudden bereavement
Mr. Rihara witnessed many deaths, including some incredible and bizarre sudden deaths. He said that when we encounter such reasons, we will be deeply sad and unable to extricate ourselves. However, human beings have a special ability, that is, with the passage of time, we will eventually come to forget the sorrow. Don't lose heart when you are sad, please believe that the flowers will bloom again, and please wait patiently for the beautiful arrival again. He said, maybe at the moment, we can't understand this feeling, but it doesn't matter, because once, he couldn't understand it either. As long as you wait patiently for that day to come, you will find that because you believe, you will see.
2. When confronted with opposition
Mr. Rihara's father lived in America for some time when he was young. After returning to China, he served as the president of Hiroshima Women's College. Feeling the good environment and atmosphere of American campus, he dreamed of establishing an American university in Japan. In order to realize this idea, we must buy land and carry out reform. But the education system at that time was unacceptable. While these measures were strongly criticized, some people made a fuss and questioned that Mr. Rihara's father did it out of his own selfish desire. Therefore, Mr. Rihara's father was called a "traitor" and a "great sinner" and finally had to leave Hiroshima. Until a few decades later, Hiroshima Women's College built a bronze statue of Mr. Rihara to thank her father. Mr Nichinohara said that if you want to believe something really valuable, it will be recognized one day. Even if it is not accepted at that time, it must not be influenced and confused.
In addition, when challenging something that no one has done before, keep asking yourself: Why are you doing this? For example, when kazuo inamori founded KDDI, he often asked himself whether he had achieved "the best motive and no selfishness". He spent two years repeatedly asking himself this question and finally found the answer.
So, in order to practice this creed, he announced that he would not hold any shares in KDDI. After years of development, KDDI has become the second largest telecommunications company in Japan. Generally speaking, in the face of opposition, Mr. Rihara believes that, first, look far and don't be discouraged; Second, tell the other person what you think in the tone of "I think so too"; Third, keep asking yourself, "Why are you doing this?"
Cultivate children
When Mr Nichinohara was a child, he would lie on the ground and cry for two hours if he didn't understand or accept anything. Whenever this happens, his mother will smile and say, will the child grow up to be a great person or a big hooligan? Mr. Rihara's mother always thought that he was a conscious child and always gave him freedom and complete trust. This is his greatest thanks to his mother. There is one thing that Mr rihara will never forget. When he was a child, when his sister started reading, he was angry that he couldn't read. Once, he wrote a word on the ground and asked his mother how to read it. His mother said, when Chongming grows up, learn by yourself. Mr. Rihara said that he would always miss his mother who trusted him and waited for him to grow up. He said that if mothers often force their children to "do this and that", it seems to be protecting their children, but the result may be counterproductive. What parents should do is wait patiently for their children to grow up and mature. This patience is the most important factor in being a good parent.
1. How to keep a young mind?
Mr. Rihara not only pays attention to his diet and living habits, but also attaches great importance to his appearance. 100 years old, he also tried freckle treatment. He thinks that paying attention to appearance will make him more active and willing to associate with others. And its essence is that a person wants to live a brand-new self. Mr. Rihara said, don't say "I am like this …" easily. Without setting limits, you can discover your new self by trying more. Adversity and disease make it easier for us to discover the unknown ourselves. At the same time, always keep the state of "going on". This is also the secret of Mr. Rihara's eternal youth.
2. How to get close to people
How to make people feel close, Mr Nichinohara puts humor first. He said that humor can make people laugh together, and laughing together can quickly narrow the distance between people. That year, he was hijacked by the lake. Although he was fighting to the death, an interesting thing happened. Because it was the first hijacking in Japanese history, someone heard the word "hijacking" for the first time. A passenger asked the hijacker what "hijacking" meant. The hijackers couldn't answer. Therefore, Mr. Nishihara said that as a hijacker, I don't even know what "hijacking" means. Is this good? The passengers laughed and the hijackers laughed together. At that moment, the dignified atmosphere at the scene began to have a trace of warmth. It is this experience that makes Mr. Rihara feel strongly that he should always keep a sense of humor. Laughing together can bridge the gap between people and connect people closely.
3. What is a "great man" like?
Mr. Nichinohara said that there are many good things to see in the world, but there are also many precious things invisible to the naked eye. These invisible things can really enrich our lives and make us feel happy. It is sad to blindly pursue fame, wealth, status and material life. He believes that great men will cherish their lives and be grateful. Great men not only want more, but also want to make good use of what they have. Besides, they are willing to give their time to others. A great man is one who can spend time for others.
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Nichinohara Chongming said that great people are people who can spend time for others.
As a doctor, he always helped others when he was alive. I have to say, he is a great man.
And he hopes that although he is still alive, these words left behind can bear fruitful results in the world like a grain of wheat.
I believe that when you meet this book, you will understand it and gain something.