First, the water dispenser incident.
When my daughter is almost one year old, she is curious about everything, especially the switch of the water dispenser. Her grandmother was so worried about her that she kept watching her and stopped her. It is very difficult to know that adults always walk away, while her daughter can walk around in a walker. So I decided not to watch it. The switch of the water dispenser is not very dangerous. As soon as I let go, the water stopped. Let her burn it instead of watching it all the time. Soon, she burned, thinking it was dangerous, and she didn't touch it for a long time. By the way, I told her that we stopped her because this thing is dangerous, so remember that everything adults stop you from moving is reasonable. Don't think that one-year-old children don't understand, but they will. Well, girls should understand earlier and boys should understand later.
Second, the socket event.
When my daughter was almost two years old, she was very interested in the socket hole on the wall, so I brought her a tape recorder and told her that there was electricity in the hole on the wall, which was needed by the tape recorder. When plugging in, she needs to hold the plastic part in the back, which is safer. If she takes the first two pieces of metal, she will die, and her hands will be wet and she will die if she plugs into the socket. My daughter is still afraid of death. Although she may not understand what will happen, it is a very bad and terrible thing in short. When she was less than two years old, she learned to plug in the socket. From that day on, we often ask her XX to help me plug in this or that socket. She often drags her tape recorder to listen in this room, and then drags it to that room without asking us to help her. Well, she has lived safely until now. She has never been exposed to electricity, and I have never worried that she will get an electric shock. I even told her that if you see a metal wire and want to know if it is charged, you can try it with your back. If charged, it will hit you, it will hurt a little, it will be a little numb, but remember never to scratch it with your palm. The back of your hand will bounce off when touched, which is not dangerous. If it touches it, your palm will hold it tightly, which is fatal.
Third, change clothes for PP.
When my daughter is two years old, she wears her own clothes after taking a shower, but after wearing fresh clothes, she will try to be lazy. One day after taking a shower, I wore more than half of my clothes and said to me, Mom, please help me get dressed. I am happy to say, yes, but with conditions, I will help you wear a suit and let me type. I like the way you type. She thought about it and agreed to exchange it, so I helped her put on two socks and changed PP twice. I still remember that I hurt my hand twice. After the fight, her face was embarrassed. I was intoxicated and praised her for how good PP felt, which would be addictive. . . . . . When I got dressed the next day, I was so excited that Pippi volunteered to help her dress, repeatedly stating that she liked the feeling of hitting her PP, hoping that she would give me another chance to enjoy it.
Of course, I haven't found this opportunity to enjoy it up to now.
Fourth, go home by yourself.
My daughter is two and a half years old and has been in a small class for some time. She has a deep understanding of the rules that when the red light stops, the green light goes.
Once I took her shopping, told her I was going to work in downtown and asked her if she knew the way home and could go home by herself. Of course, she felt fine, so I followed her far away to see how she got home. My daughter waited for the traffic lights carefully at every intersection, and even waited for the sixth green light at one of the intersections. Afterwards, I learned that she not only looked at the green light, but also looked at whether other cars might run a red light when passing, and confirmed that 100% was safe before passing.
In fact, when children are responsible for themselves, they are far more responsible than adults think.
Bugs are very lovely creatures.
I'm afraid of those soft-skinned carnivores. Although I know it's actually harmless, I'm afraid.
Children don't know how to be afraid. My selfishness is to teach my daughter not to be afraid and help me stop bugs in the future. So one day there was only one peach with insects. I told her that the peach with insects was sweeter, and the insects inside were cute, fat and white, and could crawl. My daughter asked if the bug would bite me. I replied that these bugs are vegetarian, while you are carnivorous. When you are old, bugs can't bite.
My daughter was quite sure that she caught the bug in her hand and watched it crawl around. Her palm crawled back and forth, her left hand climbed to her right hand, and then climbed back to her left hand. When eating, she put the worms on the table and watched them eat. When she crawled away, she grabbed it and continued to look. I, I, I screamed in my throat, but I couldn't make a scared expression. If I look a little scared, my daughter will always be afraid of harmless bugs. I don't remember how I finished eating that time.
She began to bring back all kinds of bugs, big and small, to my home. Finally, my nerves became extremely strong, and I was no longer afraid of these fat and soft bugs. Then I found that some bugs have round heads and cartoon brains. We have always wanted to raise butterflies. It turns out that all these caterpillars will eventually grow into moths of all sizes.
Sixth, sex education.
Every child will ask himself where he is from. I've been waiting. Finally, she asked, so I took her to buy two anatomical maps and found two external maps. Then explained in detail all the organs, the function of each organ, including the different reproductive organs of men and women, where she came from and how she came out. The summary is how to go out as you come in, but you need a microscope to see it, and you will be a big baby when you come out ten months later. This is just common sense. To tell the truth, I think so, and so does my daughter. It's not mysterious at all. After fully understanding this, my daughter is no longer interested in it. When others tease her, she will calm her face and tell them in detail where she comes from. Everyone comes out like this.
Seven, lying on the ground crying.
My daughter seldom uses crying as a means to achieve her goal, because she has never succeeded once. After a small class, she saw a successful case and learned to use it. One day, in order to eat rice porridge with us, she still had to lie on the ground alone. Our family should do whatever it wants and be her air. Thanks to my mother, she even started sweeping the floor. She went to the place where her daughter was lying and said to her, come, lie down for a while. I'm going to sweep the floor here. Don't get in the way. I will clean and play before you lie down. So the daughter moved and continued to lie down and cry. Later, she said, well, I have cleaned this place, so you can lie back. My two-and-a-half-year-old daughter actually lay back in her original place, whining. Our whole family hid and laughed wildly. My daughter stayed in the air for half an hour and finally found that other people's success stories could not be successful for her. She stood up and said, please, I also think rice porridge is delicious. After that, she went to eat clean rice porridge.
Until now, I have never seen her cry on the ground as a means to achieve her goal. In fact, many children's behavior is just temptation. If they were stopped for the first time, the same behavior would hardly happen again.
Eight, not eating is your own loss, not others'.
One day, we quarreled before dinner. I put the bowl heavily on the dining table and said, I'm tired of seeing you. I won't eat it. I said at once, yes, but I can't eat anything before the next meal. My daughter began to feel a little guilty. Go on, I'm not saying I won't eat. I just won't eat with you. I'll eat after you finish eating. I answered her, either eat together now or save it for next time. There is no third option. She said angrily, then I won't eat.
After we finished eating, we got rid of the counter and began to discuss with a smile. How can such a stupid person threaten others by refusing to eat? No one else is hungry without eating. It's funny that they threaten others by starving themselves. Ha ha ha ha ha. . . . . . . So at the cost of a hungry stomach, the daughter understood that it was foolish to threaten others by hurting herself. A similar thing never happened in her life again.
Nine, limited toys, unlimited fun
My daughter's toys from childhood are extremely limited, and there are basically no electric ones. All toys can be packed in a big bag.
There are so few toys, not because of economic reasons, but because the fewer toys children have, the simpler they are, the easier they are to concentrate, the more imaginative they are, and the more they know how to cherish things.
Children like playing with water, and my daughter is no exception. My condition is that I can play with water, but only in the bathroom, and I have to clean the bathroom myself. A bucket, a basin, an empty coke bottle, plus a funnel, a spoon can kill the whole afternoon. She will use a small bottle cap or spoon to pour the water in the bucket into the big coke bottle bit by bit. Sometimes when the funnel is not needed, she will fill a bottle and pour it into the basin. When the basin is full, she will put the water into the bucket in the same way. Sometimes, she will press the above tools into the bucket and into the basin, and when it is full, she will press half the water out.
In a small class, my daughter can sit there for an hour or two and concentrate on one thing.
Teletubbies was my daughter's favorite program at that time, and it was also sold in the mall. She liked it very much, so I told her that she could have one for her birthday and she could choose one of the four. She waited for the second Teletubbies on her next birthday, and everything she got after a long wait was worth cherishing. Growing up, she had to wait a whole year for what she wanted most. So now she cherishes everything, understands the value, and will consider whether she really needs anything.
Ten, learning to write requires quotas.
It is time to learn how to write numbers. I bought a book depicting red, gave it to my daughter, and then told her that there was a quota, and I could only write half a page a day, and I couldn't exceed it.
Children are always interested in learning things at first, and they can't wait to write half of them at once. Every day when they are happy, the places are used up and the books are taken away. It's no use begging, they can only write tomorrow. So I got into the habit of writing half a page every day to be happy. I finished the process of learning to write numbers easily and happily.
The key is to remain mysterious, keep hanging on to her, arouse her interest and curiosity, and turn begging her to learn to write into begging you to write more, but you must not promise to keep hanging on to her with quotas until the task is completed.
XI。 share
My daughter is less than two years old (I suddenly found that most behaviors are corrected and shaped within three years old). Her grandmother often buys shrimp for her to fry. Once I saw it, I took some chopsticks and tasted them. My daughter said how you eat my shrimp. I answered who said it was your shrimp, picked up the spoon and ate half of it with two spoons. My daughter reacted and rushed up to grab it from me, but how could she rob me? How could she rob me? . . . . . Hey hey! My daughter looked at the empty shrimp bowl and burst into tears. I told her that anyone can eat anything, and nothing is eaten by you alone. Everyone can eat whatever he wants. From that day on, I will share everything she likes. Children are easy to teach, and she soon got used to sharing.
Sometimes when we see something that she particularly likes to eat, we just want her to eat more, saying that I have a toothache and can't bite it, or that I don't like it very much. . . . . . Waiting for a plausible excuse. Do me a favor and help me eat it. Be sure to make her feel that she is helping you (of course, this kind of thing can't be done too much, it will be boring). At this time, your daughter will eat happily, which is an unexpected happiness. If you don't learn to share, the child will think that he deserves it, and he won't feel happy, but as long as he is divided by others, he will be angry. Children who are used to sharing will feel surprised and happy even if they eat one more bite. Eating less will not affect life. Knowing how to share and be relaxed and happy will benefit children for life.
Twelve, do it yourself
When I was a child (I really forget what year it was, but I'm definitely not three years old), I took her downstairs to play after dinner every day. Many children in the square, some brought some toys. My daughter sometimes wanted to play but was afraid to say so, so she begged me to help her. Of course I refused, telling her that this is something you want to play, and you can borrow it yourself or not. Endure a few days, she finally took the first step, by playing. Of course, sometimes she can't borrow it, but most of the time she can borrow it successfully As long as you succeed once, things will be much easier in the future. Children are naturally mature creatures. Later, she found it easier to play with what she wanted by bringing a toy and exchanging it with others. You can handle it yourself.
Thirteen, failed talent training
When children are young, they depend entirely on adults for survival. They can't protect themselves, so God gave them a gift, that is, they can carefully distinguish the tone of adults and make judgments. When they grow up, they will observe the subtle environment in which they live, and even the slightest change can be found. This is also a gift or animal instinct. Because they can't protect themselves, they are extremely sensitive to environmental changes. When the child is one or two years old, almost all parents will find that the child's observation is very keen and almost unforgettable. Parents will be surprised at this time, but soon, when they grow up, their abilities will become stronger and stronger, and their talents will gradually disappear. How to keep this fleeting talent?
At this point, I failed, the method was simple, but I persisted at least until I was six years old. . . . . . Unfortunately, if the opportunity is missed, it will be gone.
Read a story to your child every night. When the child can speak, let him retell yesterday's story. If he can't say it, read it again (please believe in the child's memory talent). If he can repeat it, he will continue to read the next paragraph, from short to long, day after day. When he is five or six years old, you will find that the child will never forget the big story he heard the night before, and almost every word can be missed the next night. Later, because I can recite the story completely, it is natural to read books by myself and read words in front of books. This requires parents to have strong patience and perseverance (blaming themselves for 10 thousand times), and every child is actually a genius who never forgets anything.
My cousin succeeded, and only after I failed did I realize how powerful her parents were to make her such a genius.
Fourteen, fall, bleed
My daughter fell outside and got up to find her skin broken, bleeding and nervous. After I squatted down to observe, I smiled and said to her, Ah, it's bleeding. Let's go back and find a bowl for blood. We can also cook a pot of blood soup. It is very nutritious. Don't waste it The daughter's tense nerves immediately relaxed.
When I got home, I took out alcohol to help her disinfect. First of all, I explained to her that this is for disinfection, and it may hurt if it is placed on broken skin. However, if I can't stand the pain, the wound may become infected and the meat may rot. It hurts more when meat falls, or bacteria get into the blood and get septicemia, and then die. My daughter thought about it and said, then you can disinfect it. I can bear it.
Fifteen, filling teeth
After attending a small class, my daughter finally gave up the habit of sleeping with a bottle in her mouth, but her two front teeth were a little decayed because she had been soaked in milk for a long time, so I plan to take her to have her teeth filled to avoid getting worse.
Tell my daughter in advance that her teeth have decayed, and if she is not treated now, it will cause harm to her permanent teeth. If you take her to have her teeth filled, it may hurt a little and bleed a little, but it won't be too serious. Then ask her if she wants to fix it. The daughter agreed. Sitting in the dentist's chair, the doctor didn't dare to do it, so I had to ask my daughter again when she was a doctor. After being affirmed again, the doctor moved her hand trembling. During the whole process, my daughter opened her mouth wide and remained motionless. Afterwards, she told me that you said it would hurt a little, but it didn't hurt at all. Seeing too many children sitting in chairs is like killing pigs, and doctors can't adapt to such a calm child who fills his teeth.
Why is my daughter so calm? Because I told her in advance what might happen, such as pain, such as bleeding, and she was psychologically prepared, she was not afraid. Children's crying and resistance may be more because of pain, but because of the fear of unknown injury instinct.
So don't cheat just because your child is young. They will remember that you cheated, and they won't trust you. It won't be so gullible next time. Don't underestimate children's endurance. Telling the truth will make them trust you more and prepare them for possible pain. They are actually very tolerant little creatures.
Sixteen, corporal punishment
No matter how clever a child is, there will always be times when his parents go on the rampage, hoping to slap him to death, otherwise he will not be a child or a puppet.
One day, I was worried that I could not help slapping my daughter to express my anger. But the anger is like this. If you put up with it, you may get internal injuries. Once it starts, it will burst like the Yellow River, and it may not be out of control. Many parents who beat their children are excused for their children, in fact, more for their own relief. This is her own daughter, and she can only suffer internal injuries.
I said to my daughter, for the last time, I remind you that if you do this again, I will hit you once, twice, and four times for the third time, doubling each time. The daughter said, no, I said, supplementary conditions, take off your pants when you are punished and be beaten in bed. If you don't want to, then I'll catch the beating, twice for the beating and four times for the beating. In short, it will double.
She challenged me, challenged me, challenged me. . . . . . Finally, I gave her the freedom to choose the punishment place. She chose a room, cleared the room and was not allowed to look at it. She locked the door, took off her pants and was beaten by herself. For her, this is a very shameful thing, but it is also an effective way of discipline. Under normal circumstances, as long as she is reminded to set the rules once, she will abide by them to avoid being humiliated and beaten again.
My opinion of three years old. I often hear this old saying, but I don't quite understand it. After my daughter was born, I gradually discovered in her upbringing that the ancients were really fucking wise.
Experts say that children should be educated with warmth and reason. Can children under the age of three understand the truth? Maybe. But it is more important not to reason with such a small child. The most important thing is to make rules first, so that one-year-old children will understand the word "no" If the child is wrong, even the youngest child can't stand it. We must stop it immediately and guide his behavior correctly. Don't believe that children will naturally understand this statement when they are older. As long as mistakes are resolutely stopped at the first time, children will soon understand and make correct behaviors. Once a child's deviant behavior becomes a habit, it will be much more difficult to stop it, and the child will be at a loss. Most of children's behavior habits have been formed within three years old. If we constantly correct it from the beginning, there will be no need to entangle every deviation repeatedly in the later period, and the follow-up education will become more and more smooth.
Embroidery or dancing?
One day, my daughter's grandmother said to me, come and talk to her. She is more willing to listen to you. Kindergarten runs extracurricular classes. Girls had better let her learn to dance, she won't embroider. I called my daughter and asked her if she wanted to go to an extracurricular class. She said yes, I said, what class do you want to take? My daughter said, I want to learn embroidery. I haven't embroidered yet, but my grandmother wants me to learn to dance. Me: Never mind Grandma, it's your class, not her. What class you want to take is your freedom, and others can't control it. But since it is your choice, you should be responsible for yourself and study hard.
At the end of the term, my daughter said with regret that I had just finished embroidering A and B, and the class was over when embroidering C, so I don't need to embroider.
Eighteen, their actions are responsible for the results.
Many children and daughters in the community are familiar with themselves, because they are not sissy or melodramatic.
One day, my daughter asked me if I could bring my children to play. I replied that this home is yours, and you can make decisions. If you bring your children to play, you can do whatever you want, but in the end, you have to put everything back to its original state. Because you brought a friend, you are responsible.
Because of freedom, children like to come to my house. Usually I turn a blind eye to them. They play with them, and I'll take mine. My daughter is in charge of entertaining, eating or playing, and it's up to her.
Sometimes having fun can make a mess on the ground. Before leaving, my daughter will organize them to clean up. If you don't clean up before you leave, your daughter will clean up herself in the end. This is what we agreed. She is the master, and she is responsible for the result.
Nineteen, the bottom line of steamed stuffed bun
My daughter usually acts like a steamed stuffed bun and doesn't care much about others. I have never seen her quarrel with her friends. Her grandmother has been very worried, complaining that I will suffer in the future by teaching my daughter to be a steamed stuffed bun.
When she was in the big class, she brought a classmate to play and decided to give her classmate a book. Two piles of books, one she read and the other she didn't finish. The daughter asked her classmates to choose one from a pile of books she read, and the classmates insisted on one she didn't read. My daughter insisted, and so did my classmates, so my daughter said, I haven't read this book, so I can't give it to you, but I can lend it to you. I'll write a library card, you sign it and return it to me after reading it. The two children carefully made a library card, signed their names and wrote down the date.
Steamed buns are just a superficial phenomenon, and there is always a bottom line. When you touch the bottom line, you will find a way to solve it without having conflicts with your friends. Parents can only force her to find a way to solve her own problems when she is young, which also needs practice.
Twenty, write a composition
When I was in primary school, the teacher asked me to write a composition, but my daughter couldn't write, so I was asked to teach. I took her to the computer, taught her to open Google, input the composition topic vaguely, press the search key, and then told her that these are all the compositions you need, please copy them. However, your teachers should have read them all, so it is easy to find the whole book. You need to find more articles to copy together. Copying a composition over and over again is a familiar thing, and it takes three or four times to experience it.
Why do you teach your daughter to copy a composition? Children in grades 12 and 12 have a small vocabulary and it is difficult to write vivid compositions. The best way is to copy others'. When she pieced together many articles, she had to study all the articles carefully, pick out the available paragraphs and try to connect them into a complete composition.
Hey hey, I'm lazy, but this method is really effective.
Twenty-one, do your homework until ten o'clock
On the second day of the first grade, because the school is close to my grandmother's house, I live in her house, but I often do my homework until 90 o'clock. At first, adults complained that there was too much homework at school. Later, after talking with her classmates, I found that some of the same homework was finished before 6 o'clock, and some children, like their daughters, didn't finish it until 90 o'clock. As a matter of fact, my daughter didn't concentrate on her homework seriously. Of course, she did it while playing. Later, for a while, her grandfather watched her do it every day, and what she did was not very effective. As a result, a lazy landlord appeared. Actually, I just told her seriously that I knew your homework. Starting today, I will do my homework at 8 o'clock at the latest every day. If I dare to do my homework after 8 o'clock, I will throw away my notebook. If my daughter resists, I will tell the teacher that I can't hand in my homework because you won't let me finish it. I laugh, then you can talk to the teacher. Anyway, it's you who can't hand in your homework, not me. The name on the blackboard is you, not me. My daughter is helpless. I went to see her every day for a whole month. For a whole month, her homework was finished before six o'clock. Then, she got into the habit of being able to concentrate quickly without looking.
Why can she correct her bad habits so easily this time? There are actually two necessary conditions.
First, I instilled in her from an early age that she must be responsible for her own life. I will never be responsible for her, and I have always carried it out this way, so she knows what I said is true, and she will bear the consequences if she fails to hand in her homework.
Second, all the rules I made since I was a child will be implemented. It is impossible, maybe next time, so I threw away her notebook when I said I would do it after 8 o'clock. Although she didn't really implement it, she knew that as long as she violated me, she would definitely implement it.