Shortly after his mother died, the musician Beethoven became deaf again, just like the end of the world. In despair, thinking of his mother's ardent expectations, Beethoven wrote: I will seize fate by the throat, and it will never make me yield. Created a symphony of destiny, hero, sadness, moonlight and so on that sensationalized the world. These works are filled with life and love, tenacity and death, and more of them are praises of maternal love. Love is a mother's instinct, and love is the most lasting and effective way. Under the nourishment of love, children will also feel life with love, stubbornly encounter difficulties and grow up in the sun. Stay away from wrong love and spoil. Treat children as treasures, do everything for them, eat and dress, and even pave the way for your words and deeds. Even when he grows up, he is still a huge baby. He is self-centered and dependent on his parents. On the one hand, he is timid. On the other hand, his wife is arrogant and selfish. Taking one's own expectations as the goal and replacing children's needs with one's own needs is vanity.
When Tao Xingzhi, an educator, was the principal, he saw a boy throwing bricks at another classmate, stopped him in time and asked the students to go to the office. Knowing the situation, he went back to the office and took out the first piece of candy and handed it to him. This is your reward, because you are punctual and arrive earlier than me. He took out the second candy, which is also a reward for you. I won't let you hit people, so you stop at once, which shows that you respect me very much. The boy held the sugar suspiciously. Tao Xingzhi took out the third one. It is understood that you beat your classmate because he bullied girls, which shows that you have a sense of justice. At this moment, the boy cried. Principal, I was wrong. Anyway, it is wrong for me to hit people with bricks. President Tao took out the fourth candy. You admit your mistake. We're done talking. Real education is not rude accusations that hurt people's self-esteem. But squat down, put yourself in the shoes, attack sideways and wake up. Smile is more powerful than severity, and appreciation is more energetic than criticism.
How to appreciate? Children's tastes vary from person to person and from person to person. Appreciation includes motivating children. Don't just praise you for being too smart, you are great. Then they will only do some simple things to appear smart. He will be afraid of failure. More importantly, whether he works harder, is more patient and is more persistent in this process. The more specific the boast, the more confident the child will be. Then, the appreciation should be convincing. When a child encounters setbacks or even does something wrong, parents will smile trustfully and coax him patiently. Instead of putting children aside, it is better to suppress their self-esteem and self-confidence and make them feel worthless. Finally, the appreciation should be consistent. Appreciation education can't fish for three days and dry the net for two days. The mood of many parents has become a barometer of appreciation. When they are in a good mood, they are angels, taking their children to heaven. When you are in a bad mood, it is impossible to step on your child in hell like the devil, which will bring psychological problems to your child.