However, with the changes of society and the adjustment of fashion.

The emergence of private schools, the birth of schools and the popularization of the class teaching system led to school education in modern social life in China.

And now when the epidemic is spreading again and online teaching is time-consuming,

How to get along with children at home? In these days when I don't know when it will end, how can I get along with my children in a warm and harmonious way?

This has become a topic, problem and difficult problem that many families must face in reality.

? 1 Starting from psychological acceptance: speaking well is an ability.

The duration of the epidemic was unexpected, and it also extended the time for online learning and children to stay at home.

Instead of complaining about this unchangeable reality, it is better to choose psychological acceptance and communicate with children in the process of acceptance.

Because of psychological exclusion, we gradually increase our dislike of children.

"How many times have I said, stop watching TV and do your homework!"

"Why didn't you hand in your homework today? What have you been doing all day? "

"I work hard to earn money every day, for what, for you! Do you still play games at home? "

Also because of psychological disapproval, we began to complain about the teacher more or less.

"Now the teacher is really relaxed. Our parents are staring at our homework, and we have to take care of the children ourselves. Teachers are very comfortable at home! "

"Now teachers are paid the same, but they do much less work."

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These complaints all reflect parents' dissatisfaction with online teaching and children's home study.

In this unacceptable psychology, the family is also full of complaints, quarreling and crying.

Perhaps, changing a psychological concept will make the environment in the family look completely different.

Watch TV 10 minutes and do your homework. Wait five minutes, then remind me, seriously and firmly.

"The game can be played, but the homework has to be done. Have you planned and allocated your own time? "

"Are you willing to work for your mother? Will your mother help you with your homework?"

Looking at the problem with a different attitude will also make your heart less bitter.

"Didn't the teacher specially call to remind the children to hand in their homework yesterday?"

"Teacher, this is not easy. I am still sending messages at 23 o'clock in the evening. "

Psychologically speaking, the style of accepting and dealing with problems will directly contribute to the way we express ourselves in language.

Calm, objective and warm psychology, and speaking well in family space are really scarce abilities now.

? Children can't hear the sermon, but they are willing to imitate it.

White said, very naked, but very true:

"Parents who play mahjong can't teach motivated children."

In front of children, parents are like a mirror, and children can see what they want to be from their parents.

If you put down your mobile phone and brush videos every day when you go home, how can you keep your children from touching their mobile phones?

If you always take takeout at night, how can you expect your children to take the initiative to learn to cook?

If your parents always quarrel, how can you expect your children to talk peacefully with others?

In family education, our expressions, intonation and words when we speak will become the objects of children's imitation, and then they will be copied in later life.

During the period when the epidemic swept again, a business friend was forced to close the restaurant and house.

Usually busy with business, I go out early and return late. Sometimes I will live in the unit for three or five days without seeing my children.

Now he usually stays at home all day. For the first time, he really saw his son's laziness, distraction and carelessness.

Which line is this? Boys will have to support their families in the future. In this way, it is difficult to support yourself in the future.

My son doesn't take online classes seriously, so I accompany him? He is in school and I am studying economics at the Open University.

My son doesn't hand in his homework. Who will finish it first?

My son doesn't read. I punch in with him for half an hour every night.

Now, the serious photos that his friends take out every night and watch with his son have become a grand scene in the circle of friends.

The story of Su Xun's education of his two sons in the Northern Song Dynasty is still sung by people.

Su Shi and Su Zhe, two brothers, are as naughty and playful as children and don't know how to study hard.

Faced with the situation that his two sons neglected their studies, he was extremely anxious, but he didn't want to criticize this rude method.

In order to make his two sons understand the fun of reading, he studied hard. Whenever his two sons see him reading, he immediately hides the book in the corner.

Over time, Su Shi and Su Zhe were curious and stole books while their father was away.

The experience of "stealing" a book with impulse and curiosity must be rich and absorbed spiritually.

The younger the child, the less sensible he is, but the younger the child, the more he knows how to imitate.

Give children a space to imitate, a reason to imitate,

They will give us an answer that will make us happy.

3 independent value: one more skill will lead to another way out.

The words "independence", "value" and "way out" remind me of a sentence by the writer Liu Yong:

Son, mom and dad can't stay with you forever. I'll give you fish and a net. You have to catch the fish below you.

Many times, it is our own hands that fill our children with fish, which makes them lose the opportunity and possibility of fishing in nets.

With the change of social life and the acceleration of knowledge change, simply understanding knowledge can not fully adapt to this era.

Understanding, transferring and applying knowledge has become the necessary character and key ability that this generation of children need to master in the face of future life.

Recently, the controversial Shanghai protest countermeasures have pushed magic to the forefront.

On this cusp, let us see the importance of the next ability of the epidemic-learning to cook.

Mr. Wang, the manager of Nanhui, RT Mart, described many calls for help he received during the epidemic.

"Some young people after 00 or just working told me on the phone that because there is no habit of cooking, there is no pot at home, and meat and vegetables are meaningless to him."

I wonder how the parents of these children will feel when the news spreads among the people. 00 after the child said:

"He wants nothing but instant noodles, biscuits and some fruit."

This skill, which was once taken for granted in family education, has become a way of survival or a wall of death for the younger generation.

After 00 who can't cook, we may feel the importance of family education in cultivating children's earning skills by comparing the following chefs.

Writer Li Yueliang shared such a story:

Coordinates are in Xi, Shaanxi. A mother named Pangpang Xiaoyu shares her son's cooking routines in her spare time.

From Hu spicy soup to sauerkraut to prawns with garlic, small fish can handle it by themselves.

Small fish in primary schools can often contract to make a "big meal" for the whole family.

Children will eventually grow up slowly, but in the process of growing up, we should gently ask ourselves:

"What did we teach the child when he was young?

Wash your own clothes? Cooking with your own hands?

Manage your own pocket money?

Do you know how to treat people?

Or do you have special abilities? "

During the epidemic, we spent a lot of time with our children.

Try to make room for them to exercise a life skill, and they will be more comfortable in life.

If a child lacks the ability to live independently and take care of himself, it is difficult to become a strong man in life.

What the speaker said inspired all parents.

4 Zero-distance family contact should be blessed with positive emotions.

Emotions are innate, but people can adjust.

Under the epidemic, many families suffered the fate of being isolated or locked up at home.

Unemployed at home, in a bad mood, plus children are not sensible and perfunctory.

It is possible to collapse our emotional defense at any time.

At this special time, it will test the wisdom of parents in managing the family.

The couple next door, who work in the same company, are now locked at home because of close contact.

Moreover, it was also insinuated by neighbors in the same building: it brought bad luck to the buildings in the community.

Faced with unemployment, staying at home and being laughed at, their mood can't be too low, but they, no!

They said:

"Although temporarily unemployed, but:

At least the mortgage pressure is not great, don't worry too much;

At least the savings we usually accumulate will not make our lives stretched;

At least I'm not so busy now. I can spend time with my child and grow up with him. "

They will contact community volunteers every two days, buy some daily fruits and vegetables, and send some to several neighbors in the same building for volunteers to send and apologize.

After a week, the neighbors on the same floor were embarrassed to accept it and felt embarrassed. I began to bring some vegetables and melons to their home.

Now that the community has been unsealed, several families have more happy intersections.

Now, on weekdays, they discuss with each other how to manage their children and share which supermarket has fresh ingredients ... The children of several families have changed from strangers to good friends.

A little thing that we get along with is passed down as a much-told story by the community, which is not the current family education model.

In The Power of Positive Emotion, there is a passage like this:

"We will not feel positive emotions because of a complete life and a healthy body.

It is sincere positive emotions that create a complete and healthy life. "

It is this positive emotional power that makes this originally unhappy family live a life as fragrant as petals.

When we face the problem of children's education, we might as well say softly, at least we have something to do.

When it is not easy for us to face family life, we might as well summon up courage to say, I believe we can handle it.

Children will become optimistic, stronger and more active.

Because they are also imitating and inheriting their parents' ways, attitudes and elegant appearance.

Under the epidemic situation, zero-distance contact with family education is another compulsory course in life.