Either way, it is actually unwise. How to deal with children fighting? Let's see how this precious mother handles it.
When the children fight at school, the teacher accepts the mother's high emotional intelligence: open-mindedness.
Ma Bao Xiao Mo started her own small company, and after sending her son to school every day, she would come to work in the company. One afternoon, Xiao Mo received a phone call from the school. It turned out to be the phone of the class teacher. The class teacher and Xiao Mo said that her child had a fight with her classmates and asked her to come to school to deal with it if it was convenient.
This is going to change the parents of other families, and maybe they will go to school immediately to be accountable. But Xiao Mo is very calm. After coming to school, she got a general idea of what had happened. At this time, the mother of the classmate who fought with her son also came over. The teacher said that in fact, both children have the responsibility to fight.
Xiao Mo used to shake hands with his mother calmly, and then said, "Boys fighting is inevitable. Since neither child was hurt, let them apologize to each other for this matter. What do you think? " Mother said nothing and nodded.
Seeing Xiao Mo's mother's high EQ, the teacher couldn't help admiring: What an open mind.
It's time for school. After apologizing, the children followed their mother out of school. When she arrived at the school gate, Xiao Mo said to her mother, "Are you free now? There is a restaurant downstairs in my company, which tastes very good. Let's have dinner together. "
Mother didn't refuse, so she went to the restaurant with Xiao Mo. They talked and laughed and the two children were embarrassed at first. After all, they just had a fight, but we can see that mothers are so friendly. Under the influence of adults, they gradually began to talk.
After dinner, Xiao Mo has one more friend, and her children have one less "enemy".
How to deal with children fighting?
1: Don't criticize the child in a hurry, ask the reason first.
When children fight, parents should not criticize their children in a hurry, but control their emotions first. When asking children why they fight, parents should judge them according to the nature of their fighting and how to educate them.
For example, this fight is actually just a fight between children. Parents should not exaggerate and handle it normally. If the fight is serious, parents should find out who is wrong.
If your child is wrong, he should dare to admit it. Parents should also dare to be their strong backing when other children make mistakes.
2. Help children solve independently.
Many times, children don't know how to deal with fights. At this time, parents should help their children understand that fighting is not the only way to solve things, but also through communication. Tell your child that if something happens, don't rush to deal with it by fighting, but try to communicate.
Only in extreme cases, children can start work, such as other people's hands, and their hands are heavy. At this time, children should not be patient all the time, but should fight back.
Step 3 lead by example
Why do some children like to fight to deal with problems? Sometimes it has something to do with parents. Some parents also like to use straightforward methods when dealing with problems, such as abuse and hands-on.
Imagine that if you deal with things in this thoughtless way, children will be influenced by their parents invisibly and deal with problems in this way.