When the mood comes up, separate yourself from the bad temper. Don't think of yourself as a bad-tempered guy, but be an independent person, aware of the bad temper and controlled by it. This is a way to manage your emotions. As the ancients said, if you are not afraid of remembering, you are afraid of being late. That's what you mean. Wake up as soon as possible when your mind starts to get out of control, so as to avoid the result that you will regret. This method may not be immediate, but over time, it will improve our ability to perceive and control emotions, and gradually, the degree and frequency of losing temper will gradually decrease.
On the other hand, when you calm down, look back at how the baby angered you at that time and calmly analyze the influence of the baby's "disobedience" on yourself and the baby. Endanger the baby's safety? Affect rest? Make trouble for others? Or is the baby expressing your unconscious emotional needs? ..... and see if there is a better way to deal with it. This kind of reflection is much more, and Yuanbao can better control his emotions and be more calm when encountering similar incidents.
Question 2: Why are parents always impatient with their children? Hello, teacher! Daughter 3 years and 2 months. When she is obedient, she is quite likable. But when she didn't listen, my temper became violent and uncontrollable, but I regretted it very much afterwards. In fact, my daughter is still a very good child. I know I'm often impatient. As long as I'm unhappy and the child makes trouble again, I will either hit her or yell at her. I know it's not good for children, but I just can't help it. Strange to say, I am completely different from others. My friends say that I am good-natured and easy-going, but I am angry with my husband occasionally. Why? Why am I always impatient with children? Is there any good way to stop my behavior? A bad-tempered mother: Hello, parents! In the letter, you blame yourself for being impatient with your daughter, and at the same time you are confused about being easy-going to others but angry with your daughter. Maybe many mothers have had such distress, and I can understand your feelings. In fact, even a good mother sometimes loses her temper, but some mothers realize it when they want to lose their temper and stop it in time; Some people regret it after losing their temper. So how can we be patient with our children and not lose our temper like those good mothers? We may need to carefully sort out where these "bad temper" come from, find the source, and maybe we can find a good way to let it go. First, know the meaning of "patience". The dictionary explains "patience" in this way: the first meaning is "not impatient, not bored", which mainly reflects a person's way of treating people and things; The second meaning refers to "not impatient and not bored", which reflects a person's personality problems. As can be seen from the letter, you are generally good-tempered, patient with others, and everyone has a good evaluation of you, which can rule out your personality problems. In other words, we need to pay attention to the way you treat your daughter. Secondly, sort out several situations in which you are impatient with your daughter. I believe you have no patience with yourself, and you must have thought of many ways to improve it. The reason why the effect is not good is probably that your method is right about the "symptoms" (problems) and not about the "roots" (roots). The first situation: when your daughter is "disobedient", you show "impatience". Daughter's disobedience is a "symptom" (problem), which is a "setback event" for you, thus stimulating your inner anxiety (root cause). Infantile stage is a high incidence of parent-child conflict. The main reason is that parents can't understand their children's psychological needs at this time, or parents take it for granted to replace their children's ideas with those of adults. For example, if a child is disobedient, many parents think that the child is deliberately making trouble and it is inevitable that he will be impatient. Looking at it from another angle, you may find that things are not what you think at all, because adults don't "understand what children say." A child's words are not necessarily words, but his nonverbal behaviors such as emotions, expressions and actions are his "words". The contradiction between children and parents should be more because parents don't understand children. Only by figuring out what the child wants to do first can you guide him to achieve it in a suitable way and the problem can be really solved. The second situation: if you are unhappy, you will lose your temper and be impatient with your child again. When you are unhappy, especially when you are emotional, it is a big challenge for everyone to keep a good temper, not to mention the children coming to join in the fun again. The root of losing your temper with your daughter at this time is not what the child did, but the way you handled it. There is a way to deal with emotions called "emotional coping". When the mood comes up, you yell at others regardless of the willy-nilly, and others become scapegoats for their own emotions. As for the connection between others and their emotions, they have never seriously thought about it. Such people have no consciousness or control over their emotions. Therefore, your impatience with your daughter may reflect your own lack of emotional management ability. If you accidentally lose your temper with your child, when you calm down, think back about how the baby angered yourself at that time, and objectively analyze whether the unhappy feeling you just had was brought to you by your child or what you had. How does this affect yourself and your baby and endanger your baby's safety? Affect rest? Make trouble for others? Or is the baby expressing your unconscious emotional needs? Is there a better way to deal with it? Wait a minute, with more reflection, you can gradually learn to control your emotions, so that violent attacks will be later, slower and lighter, and similar incidents will be more serious in the future. > & gt
Question 3: How to teach children impatience? I believe you are a very responsible parent who can ask such a question! I don't know what makes you lose patience, but it's really urgent to educate children. We need to grow up with them. If you suddenly feel impatient, you can stop and do nothing first, and then think about the countermeasures slowly. I believe you can figure out the best way to let your children receive your education and cultivate good study habits and living habits. Don't worry, the parent-child relationship will be very tense and you will be very painful. When the child can understand us, he will naturally tell you the truth, and our education on the right medicine will be more effective.
Question 4: What if you are impatient with your child's education? Do you mean education to help children learn or when they do something wrong? Your own children know best. When treating children, we should explore their bright spots, look at their advantages and look at their shortcomings less. (There is a famous Rosenthal effect) Your child's future is in your hands. Impatience with children may be related to their recent working and living mood. Try to adjust your emotions and let the father educate the children temporarily.
Question 5: What if the child has no patience and refuses to learn? 1. Teach children to learn to "delay satisfaction". The requirements for children can only be obtained through some efforts, so that children can resist some temptations around them and insist on doing things well. Parents should set an example. Children's impatience is often due to parents' demands for their children's work. Before starting a new activity, let him finish the ongoing activity. 3. Set some obstacles for children. Give children some opportunities to overcome difficulties. The more difficult the environment, the more they can exercise their patience. Encourage him not to give up halfway. 4. Concentrate the children's energy and immerse themselves in an activity for a long time. When a child completes something through hard work, praise it in time. At the same time, treat the child's temper rationally. Second, 1 Some problems that should be paid attention to. Because of their young age, children have strong excitability and weak inhibition of nerve activity, their activities can't last long, their interests are changeable, and their attention is easy to shift. The average child's attention stability time is 5- 10 minutes. After this period of time, they will be restless and impatient. 2. The game project is difficult, not suitable for children's age characteristics, and it will also make children unable to master it quickly, resulting in burnout. 3. If the content of the game is simple and monotonous, children will learn quickly, or play it many times, and they will play the game impatiently. Children are not interested in games. 5. When playing games, there are too many toys for children at one time, which makes children dazzled and half-hearted, and there is no persistence in playing games. View original post >>
Question 6: I am always impatient with my parents. What should I do? I am in a similar situation. I controlled my emotions and enthusiasm to communicate with my parents, but I failed in the end. I gave my good temper to others, but the closest person accepted my bad temper. . .
Question 7: What should parents do if they are always impatient with their children? Patience needs to be cultivated slowly, especially for a child. Parents should try their best to put themselves in others' shoes. We all come from childhood to understand some reactions made by children, and some behaviors need to be treated patiently when educating children. Play games with children, tell stories to children, and do handicrafts with children. You will find that in the process of accompanying children, you will gain a lot and see some magical things from children.
Question 8: What should I do if I am impatient with my child? You should consider the problem from the perspective of children. He first said that he had a good time in kindergarten, and then according to his answer, he further asked him what to play in the morning, what to play in the afternoon and what to eat at noon. He should say to his friends in that tone, make the child feel comfortable and help him remember what he has done, which not only enhances his memory, but also gives her the opportunity to express her ability to answer.
Question 9: What should I do if my child is impatient? Judging from your description, the child's concentration is not very good. Children's inattention is usually manifested in two situations: first, attention floats, and the focused target often deviates; Second, absent-minded, often immersed in daydreaming, forget the immediate things. The latter is actually not a child with inattention, but his attention is misplaced. As long as parents correct them with their heart and let them shift their minds to the main things, they will improve a lot.
Parents should realize that concentration is actually a behavior habit that can be trained, studied and cultivated. Therefore, while complaining about children's inattention, we should also reflect on ourselves. For example, when children play with a toy, they devote themselves to developing the habit of concentration. At this time, parents must not disturb or interfere. Set a fixed corner to play games, organize the environment in an orderly way, and reduce children's distraction. Don't buy too many toys and books for your children at the same time, so that you are at a loss, and you can't cultivate the habit of being careful, patient, repetitive and focused on one thing. Parents should set an example and show concentration, persistence and patience. Once you find that your child is paying attention, you should encourage and praise him.
For young children, you can start with telling a story and increase the number to train. As for older children, they are encouraged to do what they are interested in, and then start doing another thing after finishing one thing, and the time invested is gradually increasing. In addition to reminding yourself not to be distracted, parents should also show a kind attitude. As long as these methods are adopted, children's inattention will definitely be improved.
Question 10: If you are always impatient with children, it is easy to lose your temper. What should you do? You found your own shortcomings. Parents are children's first teachers, and your words and deeds will leave a deep impression on children. You have no patience with children, and children will have no patience with learning. Children need more communication and influence. Parents should do it first. Parents should be equal in front of their children, be their good friends, let them tell you what they think and accept their parents' instruction. I suggest you read some books about children's education, or Baidu.