In a blink of an eye, xxx is 7 years old and has been studying at Chaofeng Road Primary School for one semester. Before the topic of how to do a good job in family education, as parents for the first time, we have been crossing the river by feeling the stones and gradually learning and summing up in our daily life with our children. We feel that what we do is helpful to children's growth, so we use it a lot in the process of getting along with children, and we will resolutely abandon things that are counterproductive. I also slowly summed up some so-called experiences. I will share these ideas and practices with you today, and please criticize and correct the shortcomings. First, pay attention to the importance of family education to children and be a friend and parent who is willing to accompany their children.
"Life should be accompanied by life, soul should be inspired by soul, thoughts should be influenced by thoughts, wisdom should be enlightened by wisdom, will should be tempered by will, and personality should be shaped by personality." This is a sentence that my father and I agree with very much. As parents, it is most important to accompany their children as much as possible, because the cultivation of children's moral character, good habits and character formation are all edified and enlightened in the family first. Parents' words and deeds are the background color of children, and family education is the first button of children's life.
If Sun Ting is a typical mother-born, grandmother-raised child, because both parents are office workers, they rarely work at home, and the children's daily food, clothing, housing and transportation are basically taken care of by grandma; But children are not alienated from their parents, because once we have time at home, we will spend as much time with our children as possible. Tingruo's father spends more time with his children than I do. Father's company is very important for girls, which makes Ting Re feel safe from childhood. He is very concerned about two things. First, he plays with his children, big or small, so Ting Ruo is sunny and lively. The second is to observe children in play, find out their advantages and disadvantages, and further cultivate them in combination with their strengths and advantages to broaden their knowledge (see Article 2 for details). I am an educator. I usually pay close attention to children's mental health, pay attention to children's emotional changes, and communicate and guide them in time. It is not difficult to do this. The most important thing is not to let the child feel that you have always treated her like a child. We should listen more, ask children what they think and why they think so, and share some lovely little secrets with them. This kind of friendly interaction will enhance children's perception and judgment of things. Ting Ruo often says that I am her friend, and I think this good parent-child relationship is inseparable from the company of children.
Second, don't put too much pressure on learning skills, and have strict rules on habit formation.
Parents have a lot of expectations for each child, but we should know that the most important task as parents is to cultivate their children into a person with independent personality. Our long-term plan for our child is to hope that she can become a healthy, happy, simple, kind, self-reliant and life-loving person first. On the basis of this necessary goal, children can develop freely. In primary school, we won't give her too much study pressure except to complete the teaching tasks assigned by the school and develop her hobbies. I hope she can have a happy childhood. However, in developing living habits, we must abide by strict rules, such as having good work and rest habits, getting up before 7 o'clock every morning, going to bed before 9 o'clock every night, and doing homework first thing after school; Have good hygiene habits, wash your hands before and after meals, wash yourself before going to bed every night, and tidy up your schoolbag and desk; Be polite, say hello to your elders, say thank you when you get help, and say sorry when you are influenced by others. These seemingly small things, but "there is no journey of a thousand miles without accumulation, and there is no river and sea without trickle accumulation", little things show great civilization, and children themselves can appreciate the beauty of human nature brought by civilization and have a better ability to perceive happiness.
Third, interest is the teacher of children, and the exploration and cultivation of special skills will build children's self-confidence.
We all say that interest is a child's teacher, so how can we find a child's interest? Let the children try more. Forrest Gump's mother said, "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get." I thought, "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get." So when a child has the idea of trying something, just encourage him/her. At the same time, we should distinguish between "fun" and "novelty". For example, many children are curious about the piano at the age of 5 or 6, and they are very excited to play the melody of "Two Tigers" in the first audition class. At this time, parents should never think that the child's initial excitement is his/her interest. Maybe it's just that he/she feels fresh for a while and may want to give up in two days, not to mention saying "Look at you, you don't have any perseverance and don't know how to persist" at this time. Otherwise, children can only practice the piano against their will, and eventually negative emotions accumulate to a certain extent. The key is frustration. In fact, these have nothing to do with "perseverance" and "persistence", but we will misunderstand them. Interest is not "do whatever you are told", but "do it without asking". Once children find something they are interested in, their learning ability and attention will surprise us. Ting Ruo feels a lot of new things in the process of growing up, which basically has nothing to do with learning, but as long as it is beneficial to her growth, we all support her to try. She tried to do it by hand for a month and then gave up. She tried piano lessons twice, swimming for two weeks, roller skating once and raising rabbits for two months. But some people insist on it because of hobbies, such as painting. When the holiday interest class is closed, she will also let adults buy gouache and daub "gouache masterpieces" at home; For example, in dance, in order to catch up with the progress of a higher class, she can actually bear the hard work of practicing basic skills four times a week.
Another thing to note is that a child should explore his/her special skills and cultivate more when he/she is young. If a child grows up, his/her specialty is only their hobby, which will be a very happy thing; Even if not, cultivating his/her specialty and getting them used to doing what they are good at can also bring great confidence to children. When Ting Ruo 1 1/2 years old, we found that her expressive ability and ability to recognize colors and figures were very strong. Dad used games to let her remember the names, flags and capitals of all countries in the world. When Sun Ting was 4 years old, she could recognize the flags of more than 150 countries, remember the names of their capitals, and point out the positions of most of them on the earth. In the middle class, we found that when she watched the TV program of Chinese Poetry Conference with adults, she could remember simple poems and use them properly. For example, when she sees other children's leftovers, she will say "every grain is hard", and when she sees willow trees in the park, she will say "a tapestry of green silk hangs down". From then on, her father taught her to recite Tang poetry and Song poetry. She recited about 65,438+00 minutes a day, one short poem and two long poems a day. She will get bored by reciting poems. At this time, her father will use the "flying flower order" or the game of performing poems to arouse her enthusiasm and form a habit, so it is easy to stick to it. We have never thought about what she wants to achieve by reciting poems, but we firmly believe that "she is full of poetry and painting" and always insist on doing one thing to make her very confident in herself.
Fourthly, cultivating children's reading habits is a gift we can give them.
Every child begins to explore the world with curious eyes from the moment he opens his eyes. This is an innate thirst for knowledge. However, with the growth of age, many children's thirst for knowledge gradually lost. There must be parents in this. When children ask their parents questions, some parents will be impatient and shut their children up if they can't answer them. At this time, the child's subconscious will feel that his behavior is wrong, and gradually there will be fewer problems. In fact, his thirst for knowledge has weakened. When you are asked by your child's question and can't answer it, the correct way is never to feel embarrassed, but to find the answer from the book with your child. Only in this way can the child's thirst for knowledge be protected, and he/she will know that books are good things, and he/she must know more words to read more books. If children's brains are occupied by books, what are we worried about? Therefore, gifts should be given with books with pinyin suitable for them to read; Ask questions naturally when chatting and tell them which book will have the answer; Reading more books and newspapers in front of children is also a good way to guide yourself. Once children fall in love with quiet reading, you will find how cute they are! Ting Ruo often stumbles her parents because of dinosaur problems, and then we watch Children's Dinosaur Encyclopedia together to arouse her interest in studying paleontology. During the primary selection of magazines this semester, she chose Ocean Quest, Nature Quest, Animal Miracle and Exploring Geography, and she could read them carefully. Now she is determined to be a paleontologist when she grows up. The cultivation of reading habits is really a gift we can give to our children!
The above is the family education experience that I want to share with you most. It may not be suitable for all children, but the family education method is suitable for children. In fact, I am deeply touched, and we must cultivate children's sense of social responsibility. Fortunately, as a parent, I very much agree with the educational concept advocated by Chaofeng Road Primary School-"Make yourself talented, kind and beautiful". How warm and affectionate this sentence is! In the final analysis, our children belong to society and the world. Therefore, children must be broad-minded, socially responsible and caring. In the future, the children we cultivate together with the school will not only make individuals beautiful, but also make people around us beautiful and make the world beautiful. In the words of Professor Chen Guo of Fudan University, this is the upward force, which can make people live as a beam of light.
I am glad that my children can study in such an educational school. I am very grateful to the school teachers for their love and justice, giving them the opportunity to know themselves, challenge themselves and show themselves. I hope we can discuss all kinds of family education with more teachers and parents in the future, so that all parents can find a family education guidance model suitable for their children's development and let our children grow up happily together!
Experience of co-education between parents in two schools
Because parents generally think that they are most concerned about their children, they will say: as long as the children can be happy in the future, we are willing to pay everything! It is worthwhile to eat hard for the children. Even most parents regard their children's future as a continuation of their dreams. However, I inadvertently noticed that parents seem to have overlooked a question: Are you professional in participating in the growth of children? Can you ask your children to do it? We are not experts, that's for sure. In fact, our children are already excellent and have been working hard. What they need is our help, the help of positive energy! Since we lack professional knowledge and ability, we must study. As for "parents staying in school", I don't think it will help much to get involved. Even my original intention was just to help the teachers make up the numbers. If I had known that other parents in my class could go, I wouldn't have taken part in this activity. But as soon as I stepped into the campus, I suddenly realized that it was right to come. This is the environment where children grow up and the cradle where they will go in four years. It will prune and cut leaves for my children and your children, and provide them with unlimited positive energy. Although this school is rural, it is not too big.
The school is not too big, but it is enough for children to learn cultural knowledge in class and broaden their horizons; Run after class, shout and let yourself go. The school is not too big, but it is clean, with bright windows and rich green plants.
The school is not too big, but the ground inside and outside the classroom is bright and the teaching facilities are placed reasonably. It is convenient to set up toilets in many places. Toilets are tasteless, sanitary and clean.
The school is not too big, but the restaurant is rich in food and just right in nutrition. The playground is plastic, with high safety and environmental protection. The spiritual, cultural and material foundation is comprehensive.
The school is not too big, but I see the positive attitude of all the teachers. The class teacher and the class teacher wholeheartedly spare no effort to run before and after for our children. Today, President Wang also interacted with the resident parents in his busy schedule. Give everyone a vivid education lesson. I still remember the two themes that President Wang talked about:
First, the competition among students is not the competition of IQ, but the competition of family environment and parents' educational ideas. The change of family education concept is really a lesson that our rural parents need to make up.
Second, don't let children lose at the starting line, but let them not stand on the wrong track. Be sure to let the children stand on the runway that they are good at.
After leaving school, profound words always echo in my ears.
I hope all parents will come to participate in the "Parents at School" activity! Only when you come can you appreciate the teachers' initial heart. Only when I come can I appreciate the careful arrangements made by the school for children's study, including busy early self-study, thoughtful guidance from teachers in class, word recitation during recess, hygiene after lunch, and 10 minute word practice.
The school is not too big, the arrangement is reasonable and compact, waiting for your advice.
The school is not too big, and the basic contents of socialist core values are prominently placed on the podium: the national value goal is "prosperity, democracy, civilization and harmony", the social value goal is "freedom, equality, justice and the rule of law", and the personal value goal is "patriotism, professionalism, honesty and friendliness". The overall arrangement of the class is also exquisite and well-founded, and all parents have the opportunity to praise it.
The school is not too big, I want to show it to you! It is a great honor to participate in the "Parents at School" activity!
Experience of cooperative education for parents in three schools
After reading the expert lecture on the home-school co-education platform, I felt a lot. I believe that most parents, like me, usually only pay attention to their children's studies, not to mention housework. Even my own personal hygiene is basically arranged by my parents. Many parents have the view that "learning is paramount and it doesn't matter to cultivate living habits". After reading the lecture, I realized that it is a big misunderstanding to separate the study habits from the living habits. A person with rough hair and a lazy life will not be diligent in learning. Nowadays, children's work habits are really shameful and their living environment is comfortable. Housework is done by parents, and even the most basic housework, such as sweeping the floor, wiping the table and dividing the dishes and chopsticks, is not done by themselves. Sometimes they have to symbolically do these basic tasks under the guidance of their parents. Over time, they developed the bad habit of being effeminate and lazy. Parents are always used to thinking that their children are still young and will help themselves when they are older. Finally, they find that the older they get, the less sensible they are and they can't understand their parents' hard work.
An educator said: "Education should not only cultivate students' respect and love for labor, but also cultivate students' labor habits." And housework is a way to cultivate children's labor habits. Only in housework can children respect and love labor, let them experience their feelings and let them see their value.
As the saying goes, "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?" Allowing children to participate in proper housework can make them feel their position at home, not just a learning machine, which is also an aspect of exercising children.
So, how can parents cultivate their children to love labor?
1, cultivate children's interest in labor. It is necessary to cultivate the concept of labor according to the characteristics of children who are active and easy to imitate. They often like some small things that mom and dad do, and they are very excited after being praised. Parents should encourage them, let their children feel that what they are doing is right, and stick to it happily, from unconscious imitation to conscious behavior.
2. Always encourage and praise your children. Teachers should praise and encourage children's labor achievements in time and learn some basic actions such as eating and gargling.
3. Teach children some simple labor knowledge and skills. When children begin to learn to work, parents must lead by example, step by step, teach by hand, and pay attention to safety and hygiene.
After reading the lecture, from now on, children must learn to do some simple housework, let them realize the value of labor, let them experience life in labor, exercise themselves, cultivate their spirit of self-reliance, diligence and thrift, and bear hardships and stand hard work, so that children can enjoy it, learn from it and personally feel the sadness and hardship behind a happy life. Let children realize that labor is a life that parents and society must experience during their children's growth.