I saw a particularly funny screenshot in my circle of friends:

I couldn't help laughing and began to reflect.

Look around, is it because our children are too stupid and ignorant, or because there is something wrong with education.

Why can't you raise an independent, confident and positive child after giving everything? What's the problem?

Perhaps this is the root of education failure: children don't work hard, mothers work too hard, and fathers don't contribute.

A few days ago, a video of "Mom helps children with their homework and wipes their tears together" was widely circulated on the Internet.

In the video, the mother sobbed while helping the child clean the homework, as if she had been greatly wronged and could not burst into tears.

The children on the side are also wiping their tears.

After the mother and son became "popular" on the Internet, the voice from the father explained: Because the children have different homework requirements after transfer, they can't learn to teach, and the mother is anxious to cry.

Doing homework once is the relationship between parents and children, just like a play, crying, laughing and yelling.

Studs like "What does it matter" and "One child learns and the whole community is educated" come one after another.

Zhou said: When self-study becomes instinct, education is successful.

In the case of children's persistent education, parents should stop, let go of their anxiety and think about why their children can't learn well, why they can always play mobile phones and watch TV wholeheartedly, but they always play around in their studies, or just like outsiders.

Nothing more than not opening the entrance to autonomous learning.

Just like the child above, "transfer" may be his psychological obstacle. It may be that he hasn't adapted to the teacher's teaching methods, or there may be some pressure between freshmen, which makes the children have resistance.

Unlike adults, children can express their ideas relatively accurately and can only resist instinctively in action.

In Courage Regardless of Teaching, the author always emphasizes that learning is a child's own business.

If parents can't make their children understand this, no matter how good the training class is, parents are learning and children are pushing. Over time, it will only lead to the tension between parents and children, and the internal motivation of children's learning is insufficient.

The best education for children should be accompanied by parents, set an example, and experience challenges with children again and again.

Some time ago, a 7-year-old child named Xu Jingkai aroused the sympathy of many netizens.

Xu Jingkai's mother is a typical "hen mother" in supervising children's learning. She has prepared rich complementary foods for her children and knows how to "add meals" to them after class.

In her view, there are only two situations for children to grow up: "When they are young, they will suffer when they grow up" or "When they are young, they will enjoy happiness when they grow up".

She thinks that children should not have a happy childhood.

In this regard, Fu Seoul angered anxiously: Are you crazy?

And Xu Jingkai, who was threatened by homework all day, promised her mother:

I like doing my homework. Mom will give me another paper. Mom, I must finish these this summer vacation.

While constantly denying yourself in my heart, I think I am not good at anything.

When other children are frolicking with each other, he will only stand far away, don't know how to communicate with others, and dare not show himself in public.

We have all heard the story of "sand and hands". If you hold a handful of sand in your hand with just the right strength, you can have sand for a long time. On the other hand, the tighter you hold it, the faster it will be lost.

It is understandable that mothers are worried about their children's future, but if they work too hard, they will only bury their interest in learning and growth.

Even if the child is willing to cooperate with all the arrangements given by his mother, he is just a puppet, and under the traction of his mother, he has no motivation to move forward.

However, children who enjoy happiness as children do not necessarily suffer when they grow up, and children who suffer when they grow up do not necessarily enjoy happiness when they grow up.

The biggest pain of children is the true self that is forcibly suppressed; The greatest blessing of children should be that parents should see their children first, and then see their study and future.

Psychologist Sydney said: "Children with normal development will naturally be curious about all kinds of things."

I believe that every child is a natural learning expert.

Except for special congenital cases, almost every child has his own growth law.

A wise mother will not be led by anxiety, but will stand behind her children and lead them away.

Let the children go if they can;

Children can't leave, or, when they ask you for help, give them appropriate help.

I watched a funny news the other day.

A father went to the kindergarten to pick up his children from school. As a result, the teacher didn't know him, and the child looked puzzled.

The reason is that dad answered for the first time.

Dad said that he was usually busy at work and hardly took care of the children.

Dad didn't take over the child, so the teacher can understand if he doesn't know him. However, through the child's reaction, the root cause can be better reflected.

This father, probably in normal times, doesn't take care of the children very much, so that the children can't react at the moment and can't see their father.

"Widowed parenting" is a particularly popular word in recent years, and it is also a particularly common phenomenon in family education.

In the variety show Diary of a Freshman, Jordan chan "staged" a model of "Dad doesn't give strength". Obviously, I have been a father once, but I can't even tell the difference between bathing my baby and changing diapers. Take care of the child occasionally, and let the child be coaxed by his temper.

Li Na, the world champion with only two children, said frankly: I feel that I have raised three children.

When cooking in the kitchen, she always hears the child shout "Mom", while the father sitting on the sofa in the living room only plays with his mobile phone, and the requirements for the child are like shielding his ears.

Li Na said that she was glad that she was calm at that time. First, she put down the knife in her hand to cut vegetables.

Some people compare a home to a triangle. Father, mother and children stand together on three legs, so that the triangle will not collapse.

Some people compare a home to starting a company. Father, mother and children are all members of the company. If you want to run the company well, everyone should work hard.

In fact, whether it is home or not, on the whole, if one person does not contribute or lag behind, another person must finish the work that should belong to him.

Dad who didn't work hard harmed the whole family.

It is not difficult to understand that when people are under too much pressure, they will naturally feel anxious and their emotions are often on the verge of breaking out.

Specific to the family, the father who does not pay directly affects the mother's mood and ignores the child's growth and needs.

How can a mother in a bad mood manage her family and take care of her children?

The father's long-term absence or inaction is in the eyes of the children and also in their hearts.

It is the father's fault that his son doesn't teach.

Dad's greatest contribution to the family should not be just an "ATM".

The position of a qualified father should be: the strong backing of the mother, together with the mother, constantly fill the position in the family and strive for the upper position; The child's thick backing gives the child a sense of security and becomes a role model for the child.

Even if you take ten minutes every day, take on the responsibility of housework and accompany your child's growth.

The most successful education: father is more attentive, mother is relaxed and children are happier.

In the art of love, there is a saying:

"Mother represents the natural world, father represents the ideological world, and represents the world of law, order and discipline created by people.

A father is a person who educates children and shows them the way to the world. "

It is the first time for both parents and children.

Mom should not put too much pressure on herself, but dad should learn to put more energy into it. At that time, children will have the opportunity to contribute to themselves in their own lives.

Every effort of my mother is worthy of thanks;

Every change of dad is worth encouraging.

The biggest motivation for children to contribute to themselves is to see their parents look better and better in life, so that children can have a template created by themselves.

The best educational relationship should be that parents raise their children and children raise their parents.

The most beautiful educational achievements should be: mom relaxes, dad works hard and children are happy.