How to change the child's meanness? We need to correct our children when they are mean. This personality will seriously affect future interpersonal communication, so parents' education is very important. So here's how to change the child's meanness.
How to change the child's meanness 1 strategy 1: avoid turning around the child.
Spoiling is the bane. Some parents buy delicious food, and when they see their children excited, they are often moved: Eat it yourself! We are reluctant to eat. It is this reluctance that, over time, there will be no one else's share. If your parents don't eat, I have to eat. Why don't we parents spend a little more money and buy back the same amount of things and let the children take the lead in distributing them?
Strategy 2: Strengthen gratitude education.
It takes a process for children to understand others and be compassionate. First of all, we should respect our parents, which requires creating situations, especially at home. Don't always treat children as children. They are very obedient, don't let their children do anything, and lack experience. The correct way is to let the children do housework and the whole family do it together. In this way, the child will feel that his father is very tired, and his mother has paid a lot for me, all for my good ... Only when his heart is moved can he have filial piety.
Secondly, guide children to participate in emotional experiences, such as actively cleaning the building and yard, letting children feel the hard work of the cleaning staff, going out for a walk on a hot day, feeling the fatigue of the traffic police ... and so on. This kind of experience is to make children resonate and know how to be grateful.
Strategy 3: Training sharing.
Some children don't want to show their things to their children, mainly for fear of losing them or being robbed by others. It should be said that this kind of psychology is normal. If we want to correct it, the core is to let children feel mutual benefit. Therefore, parents should consciously guide their children to give their "good things" to their children first, and then make an agreement to take away their "good things" when others come next time, or make an agreement in advance to bring them when the children come. In this way, everyone can learn from each other and learn from each other, so it is easy to have a sense of happiness.
Strategy 4: The role of parents as role models.
Parents are children's first teachers, and their words and deeds directly affect children's thoughts. Selfish, stingy, narrow-minded and calculating parents obviously infected their children. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the details of life, honor the elderly on both sides, think of the elderly first when they have delicious food, often accompany them, do laundry and cook ... These things must be seen by children to guide their actions.
How to change children's meanness 2 "meanness" is a bad personality characteristic, and preventing and correcting children's "meanness" behavior as soon as possible is an important content of parents' early education.
So, what are the performances of "stingy" children?
The research of child psychologists points out that "stingy" children have the most direct characteristics such as "refusing to give others food" and "refusing to lend others toys and school use", and also have the following main characteristics: haggle over every ounce and love to talk about conditions; Poor self-sacrifice and dedication; Selfish; Conservative thinking, lack of sympathy; Poor adaptability; Narrow-minded and jealous; I am hesitant, suspicious and lack of determination.
Why do children form a "stingy" character? This is mainly due to: the "stingy" behavior of people around children and the influence of bad education; Parents and family members spoil their children too much, which makes them form bad behavior habits such as eating alone and playing alone; Children lack communication and have no chance to experience the happiness shared with others; Some families have poor economic conditions, which is also an important reason why some children's requirements are not easy to meet.
How to cultivate children's generous personality?
Set a good example for children. Parents' behavior has the most direct and lasting influence on their children. Setting an example for children to learn and imitate is the primary task of parents. In daily life, parents should be generous to others first. If you are willing to lend things to your neighbors, you can take the initiative to offer delicious food to others, and you are willing to transfer your beloved items to others.
Look for examples of generosity among people that children are familiar with, and let children associate with such children or adults more. In the process of long-term communication, children will unconsciously learn to be generous to others. Use movies, TV, fairy tales, stories and other literary wounds to educate and cultivate children. Under the influence of various role models, children will gradually develop a sense of generosity and lay a good foundation for the formation of generosity.
Providing children with opportunities to practice sharing behavior is a generous character to others, so parents should try to provide their children with some opportunities to practice sharing behavior in their daily lives. If you buy all the sweets back, don't leave them for your children. Let your children hand out candy to family members and share it with them. When playing, guide the children to give their beloved building blocks and toys to them. In these exercises, parents should praise their children's generosity in time, let them get comfortable psychological experience and promote the further development of their generosity. In the process of communication between children and friends, parents can also guide their children to play with toys. In the process of exchanging toys repeatedly, children will gradually understand the necessity of reciprocity and the importance of mutual assistance. This is of great significance to the cultivation of children's generous character.
Encourage children to help people in need. In our life, we often meet some poor people and victims who need help. Parents should encourage their children to help each other. For example, give your toys or food to children from poor families, donate your lucky money to disaster areas or people who need money to treat diseases, and also ask children to help those in need to do something within their power to reduce their burden. After children repeatedly realize the pleasure of helping others, they will regard this pleasure as a strong spiritual need, thus learning to export and pursue, and finally forming a stable and generous character.