Home is the harbor where children grow up. As long as the home is full of warmth, children can feel the happiness of the family. As long as the family is full of joy, children can grow up happily in the family; Family environment plays a vital role in children's growth. Feeding and heating are not enough to meet children's growth needs. In fact, children's psychology, health and education should develop well, and families need to provide a good growth environment for their children.
The second role: life coach-cultivating growth ability
1, can't put it down.
In this learning process, if parents leave their children alone and let them develop, children will spontaneously form various behavior habits. Of course, there are also good and bad behaviors in these behaviors. Therefore, parents must pay attention to what is wrong with their children's behavior when teaching them various life skills. Parents should correct bad behaviors in time.
2, not too strict.
In the process of children's growth, parents should be careful not to be too strict with their children and not to let them do everything according to their parents' requirements. If parents do this, the child you accompany is a mechanical animal, which can't adapt to the development of society. Therefore, parents should leave enough space for their children to grow freely and stimulate and cultivate their creativity. Our parents should play the role of help and guidance, and the relationship between parents and children should not be the relationship of command and obedience.
3. Be patient with children.
While cultivating children's abilities in all aspects, our parents should pay attention to one thing: children are growing and their learning ability is limited. Don't judge children by their learning status. Children who can learn once by adults may not learn, but children who can't learn by adults may learn once. Our parents should understand the characteristics of children's learning and growth. Too many things are the first time for children, so our parents should not think that they can master everything at once. Parents should be patient. Be careful not to scold the child, and never say to the child, "How can you be so stupid!" " "No matter what the child did wrong, our parents should say to the child," No problem, we must do it well next time. Dad believes you! " "Parents' trust is a great driving force for children's growth.
4. Allow children to make mistakes
Children often make mistakes when they grow up. They often break things. Our parents should not think that their children are making trouble. So, don't beat and scold children. Even if he breaks your priceless things, don't hit the child. Because the child doesn't know that he is in trouble. In the process of children's growth, no matter what happens, children are constantly learning. Every time something goes wrong, the child will make a little progress.
The third role: bosom friend-solving the problem of growth
One of the most important roles of parents in children's life is to be their intimate friends. When a child regards his parents as his best friends, he can open his heart to his parents, and parents will have the opportunity to understand the inner thoughts of the child and the internal reasons for his external behavior, thus possibly providing correct guidance to the child. By sharing children's inner feelings and pains, children's emotional problems such as loneliness, helplessness, fear and anxiety can be eliminated, and children can have positive emotions, thus generating motivation for growth. If there is no friendship between parents and children, the relationship between parents and children is condescending, which will inevitably lead to tension and contradiction between children and parents. After a long time, children will never communicate with their parents again. Parents' words and deeds have no influence on their children. Such a child is like a runaway car, and our parents can't control its direction.
The fourth role: life mentor-guide the growth direction
In the process of children's growth, various views on things will be formed, and the accumulation of these views will gradually form the children's conceptual system. If no one gives him correct guidance in the process of growing up, the child will form some wrong ideas. Or form an incomplete concept. Wrong ideas can lead to wrong behavior. Incomplete concept system will make children at a loss.
Therefore, our parents should help their children to establish various concepts in the process of growing up. In reality, our parents themselves have incorrect or incomplete ideas. Of course, it is not conducive to the establishment of children's correct concepts.
The establishment of a correct concept is a social project, which needs to be completed by families, schools and society. Ideas are the rules for the orderly operation of society. If a society does not have a complete and correct concept, it will be in disorder.
Fifth role: cheerleader-stimulate growth momentum
Children need motivation just as plants need watering. Children can't live without motivation. Encourage children. We should fully affirm the advantages of children and avoid hurting their self-esteem. We often chase after some shortcomings of our children and expect them to change the next day, so that everyone's attention is focused on the bad aspects of their children and both sides lose confidence. Only by having confidence in children can we effectively encourage them; Only when children have confidence in themselves can they accept encouragement without obstacles. Learning to motivate children is not an easy task. Every parent should seriously study and think about strategies to encourage their children and form the habit of encouraging them. Motivation is respect and trust for children's ability, and appreciation is the process of children's efforts.