Which parent doesn't want their children to grow up carefree in the future? Worry-free However, this mentality of "expecting his son to succeed" and "expecting his daughter to succeed" has evolved into the "stick education" that the father implemented for his children in reality. Everything seems almost inhuman to others, but it is his basic family rule.
We are all talking about the success of Wolf Dad. There are countless people who oppose it, but so are countless people who support it. We have the same understanding of the choice of the former, but why does the latter accept and agree with this inhuman "wolf dad" education? They saw the success of Wolf Dad and the bright future of Wolf Dad's children.
Does being admitted to Peking University mean success? Is being admitted to a good school a typical pragmatism? Isn't the real standard of success self-realization?
Recently, a post called "Complete Works of Fighting Mothers" became popular in Weibo and on the Internet. The author described how he struggled with his mother with immature brushstrokes and pictures. To the surprise of netizens, the author is actually two fourth-grade girls with 65,438+00, and more than 20 moves of "fighting mothers" presented in the book are all hilarious.
In my opinion, the popularity of "fighting mothers" is not accidental, and parents cannot avoid conflicts with their children. At this time, smart parents often control and implement the most suitable tutor according to their children's unique nature and specific conditions. By the same token, some smart children will choose the most favorable protection and coping style according to their parents' characteristics, personalities and usual practices. And "Fighting Mom Daquan" is just such a post, full of the accumulation of conflicts between children and parents, and it can be regarded as the crystallization of inspiration after reading.
In the traditional education of our country, parents and other elders are absolutely authoritative and inviolable to their children. Even today, ordinary parents let their children openly refute themselves regardless of their own right or wrong. If you don't obey the discipline, "you will scold lightly and hit hard." Therefore, children are faced with two choices at home, either to be disobedient "problem of juvenile" or obedient "baby". The latter is attractive, while the former leads to parents' outburst or helplessness. Helpless parents just give up hope for their children and just want to "cross the bridge when you come to it." In such a family, because of the inequality between parents and children, they always think that children are not sensible and need strict discipline.
As everyone knows, their long-term severe beating and cursing will cause serious physical and mental trauma to children, and even lead to inferiority, cowardice, depression and autism throughout their lives. Children may commit suicide when they encounter setbacks. Leading to the retrogression of interpersonal communication and study. Parents' "stick education" may be counterproductive.
On this platform where "Wolf Dad Education" and "Fighting Mom Daquan" are hot, I hope parents can think from our perspective, and we have the same strong self-awareness. Please respect us and your children! ! !