Compared with our parents, parents now pay more attention to their children's education. On the one hand, it is because parents' educational level is getting higher and higher; At the same time, there are more and more educational forms to choose from.

Even so, in my shallow understanding, from rural areas to cities, from remote cities to first-and second-tier cities, there are huge differences in education, not only for children, but also for parents.

After returning to my hometown, I observed and chatted with my classmates and felt five different educational concepts. Let me sort it out and share it with you.

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In the first case, in the county, parents' education is average, and most middle and high schools drop out of school to do small business at home or find jobs through relationships. Children's learning depends entirely on self-awareness, and they basically don't enroll in any extracurricular classes, except playing wild games everywhere. In addition to watching TV, parents play cards, and basically don't take their children out to play. Homework is just about helping.

This situation is not much different from when we were children. Parents basically don't care about their children's education, more precisely, they don't know how to care. They tend to value only the final score. Such children are weak in later learning, generally lack of stamina and lack of comprehensive development. However, there is an unexpected benefit: parents' great indulgence allows them to enjoy more freedom and more childhood.

In the second case, in the urban area, parents have a general education, and most of them drop out of junior high school to do small business. Influenced by the surrounding environment, I am very concerned about my children's study, and I signed up for some extracurricular classes, but I am not good at self-study. All educational concepts have been deeply rooted in my heart for a long time, and I am often helpless in the face of children's education.

This situation is mainly because parents are willing but ultimately unable to better guide their children, which requires their own efforts. The key for parents is to strengthen their study consciously, instead of being trapped by their own experience or hearsay educational ideas.

Third, in urban areas, parents are highly educated, and most of them go back to their hometown after graduating from college. Such parents already have their own teaching ideas and are good at learning and self-analysis. However, in third-and fourth-tier cities, the pressure for children to choose schools and enter higher schools is relatively small, and the learning atmosphere around their children is relatively not strong enough. Parents often do not have the spirit of devoting themselves wholeheartedly to their children's education as parents living in first-and second-tier cities.

I think this situation is better. Giving children proper pressure and some space for self-development and thinking is of great help to cultivate their sound personality. The key for parents is to provide more opportunities for their children to broaden their horizons.

Fourth, in first-and second-tier cities or cities with intensive education in third-and fourth-tier cities, parents have good academic qualifications, and most of them graduated from master's degree or above. Basically, they came to work here far from home, influenced by various educational concepts and fierce educational pressure around them. These parents are very concerned about their children's education, study well and are willing to study with their children. They have higher requirements for themselves and their children, whether watching TV, playing games, reading and literacy, or various extracurricular classes and parent-child books. These parents are characterized by high self-discipline, but they are very tired and too easy.

In this case, children are tired, many external things deprive them of the happiness they deserve as a child, and children lose a lot of space and time to think freely. In this case, it is easy for parents to follow blindly, because there are too many things to choose from, and all kinds of ideas about education from outside always make parents feel at a loss. The key is to rely on parents' further study.

In the fifth case, they live in the same city as in the fourth case. Some of these parents have studied abroad, and some families have a strong learning atmosphere. With their unique personal charm and good personal habits, they have a great influence on children in a subtle way. They advocate guiding children's learning in life and have a complete set of their own ideas on early childhood education, which is perfect.

In this case, children's personality is more sound and their development is more comprehensive. They often show enough differences at an early age and have great development potential.

For example, Liu Chuanzhi's daughter, Yang, extroverted daughter, Wu Jun's children ... these children all graduated from international famous schools. Although they are from prestigious schools, they still work very hard and have achieved good results in their own fields. It can be said that this is the best family education environment, with excellent parents and well-off family, and their educational ideas are self-contained.

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Living in this world,

Except at the same time,

But why is there such a big gap,

I think the main reason is the parents' vision.

The broader one's horizon, the clearer one's thinking about problems, and the less he will be affected by the immediate disturbances. Not only can he walk well, but he will certainly affect his children.

Therefore, I have always advocated that instead of staring at the growth of children, it is better to pay more attention to their own growth. The child will leave you eventually, as Hua Tuo (CEO of Luo Ji Thinking) said: To locate the child in your home, the child is only a guest in your home after all, just like your roommate, he will eventually spread his wings and soar in his own world.

What parents can do is to be themselves and help their children better when they pass by, instead of holding him back; Give him positive influence, not negative energy.