In fact, family education started earlier than school and society, and its main function for children is "enlightenment", which is why people always say: "What kind of parents there are, what kind of babies there are".
However, it is precisely because the child's words and deeds are closely related to his family situation. In the process of raising children, parents should pay more attention to methods, master the scale, and it is not advisable to "cut out the lungs" blindly.
Xiao Min's 6-year-old son is so cute that the whole family likes him very much.
Later, as the little guy grew up, Xiao Min suddenly found that children became fond of grabbing things. When he sees what he wants, whether at home or outside, he always reaches for it.
At first, Xiao Min didn't take it to heart. After all, children are at an incomprehensible age, and boys are lively and active. Xiao Min thinks it's no big deal to make mistakes occasionally, so he simply criticizes it and talks about the truth.
Who knows that after a while, my son's problem became more and more serious. From robbing things to hitting people, I even dared to chase my grandmother once, and my family simply couldn't control it.
Xiao Min realized that his "love" was too unprincipled, which made his children's small trees "grow crooked".
In life, many parents treat their children too "young". As long as they can do something for their children, they will do it well. Even the little things you can do are not allowed to be done independently, and you are especially indulgent to your children.
And some parents just interfere too much, even in order to make friends, telling the truth to their children when nothing happens, thinking that this way of communicating with their children can be understood.
In fact, these "arranged parents" don't know that they bring more burden to their children than care.
From the child's point of view, parents are in charge of everything. After a long time, they will become dependent, difficult to live independently and lose trust. Excessive love makes children feel that their lives are always disturbed and there is no freedom.
Instead of never leaving, parents should learn to be appropriate "indifferent" and "cruel", give their children some room to grow up, and let them understand that there is not only a "boundary" between themselves and their parents, but also on the issue of right and wrong. Mom and Dad are not willful "umbrellas".
On this issue, if parents can master the principle of "3 unaccustomed and 2 unconcerned" put forward by Professor Li Meijin, the baby's future will be better.
Professor Li Meijin said frankly in a speech: On the road of children's growth, we should not only let them know "love", but also let them feel "awe", which requires parents to know "3 unaccustomed and 2 indifferent" when raising children, so that children will be better in the future.
Three unaccustomed:
When children cross the line, they are not used to it.
Although parents' love for their children is selfless, it must not be a "bottomless pit". When a child's behavior has crossed the parents' bottom line, it must not be tolerated.
A correct view of right and wrong is the foundation for children to stand on the society. Parents can't be soft on punishment when children do black and white things.
When a child loses his temper at will, he is not used to it.
Some children especially like to lose their temper, but parents often think that children will grow up slowly, but they don't know that if they are not disciplined in time, they will lay a curse for the future.
Such words and deeds will affect children's future interpersonal relationships, so children can't get used to losing their temper at will.
I'm not used to seeing children disrespect others.
Parents of children who are neither too big nor too small for their elders, do not know how to respect their teachers, and scold their classmates as soon as they open their mouths must be severely stopped. Children should understand the basic etiquette of society, and should not be spoiled just because they are young.
Anyway:
What the baby can handle independently, no matter what.
Children are also independent individuals, and they should learn to do what they can from an early age.
When children encounter difficulties, parents might as well wait there and let them try to solve the problem through their own thinking and understanding, so that children will be more confident when they grow up.
The responsibility that the baby can bear, no matter what.
Babies should cultivate a sense of responsibility when they are young, so that when they encounter setbacks, they can bravely take responsibility, calmly face it and find a solution to the problem in time.
Motherly love is the biggest driving force for children's growth, but excessive doting may become a lifelong resistance for children. Mothers should do what they can for their children, and more importantly, take a step back in time.
Sometimes changing the score from 100 to 60 will bring "qualitative" changes to children's self-care ability, psychological maturity and adversity quotient.