The first stage: the cultivation of children-the establishment of a good personality
As we all know, 0 to 3 years old is the stage of "the highest plasticity and the easiest to teach" in a person's life, and it is the golden age of education. Unfortunately, most people easily miss it. How to draw the most beautiful case on this piece of pure white paper and build a rock foundation that will stand for life is really an important topic that parents all over the world should care about together.
Looking back on life, we all feel the same way: "A leopard cannot change his spots.". We can say for sure that the most difficult person in life is habit; Once a good habit is formed, it will benefit you for life, and vice versa. Therefore, the first stage of "parenting" education is particularly important. Children in this period have almost no ability to learn independently, but their pure hearts can fully absorb all the information from the outside world with a high degree of intuition, just like taking pictures of the scenery in a mirror, and accept it indiscriminately. This is an important period that constitutes the foundation of temperament and personality throughout their lives. Education at this time depends on parents' initiative to give correct guidance.
For example, when you hold your child in your arms or play with him, you often affirm your child with pleasant mood and gentle praise: "You are the most filial child, the kindest child, the most cheerful child, the smartest child, the healthiest child, the most diligent child and the most fond of reading ...". In addition, parents can often play beautiful Chinese and western classical music to cultivate their children's elegant temperament.
Creating a good educational atmosphere and learning environment is an important factor affecting the sound development of children's personality. Therefore, if parents want their children to have good personality traits (results) in the future, they should praise their children more now (reasons). Praise and affirm him happily several times every day, which will inevitably impress children's pure hearts and form lifelong personality traits. The formation of good habits and the establishment of a good personality are all accomplished in the relaxed and pleasant praise and affirmation of parents. Children with good nature will develop more self-confidence and perfection after such praise and affirmation. Children with low temperament need more praise and affirmation from their parents to make up for it, so as to correct or alleviate their bad habits invisibly. This is the secret of preschool education! Wise parents, please don't miss this short three years!
The second stage: the cultivation of innocence-the cultivation of sage wisdom.
By the time the child is 4 years old, he has gradually learned the application of language and his learning ability has gradually improved. At this time, they should accept the education of "educating children and improving their integrity". Cultivating honesty means cultivating their correct thoughts and behaviors. Whether it is psychological research or the growth experience of ordinary people, we all know that children aged 4 to 13 rely on their parents because of their underdeveloped knowledge and weak understanding. However, because he is not deeply involved in the world, his heart is still pure, which is the most memorable stage in his life. How to grasp the particularity of his memory and do a good job in education is the most worthy of deep reflection.
The ancient sages and sages were far-sighted, and invariably chose the Four Books and Five Classics, Lao Zi and Zhuangzi as the main teaching materials, and the beautiful ancient poems recognized in the past dynasties as the auxiliary teaching materials to teach children to read repeatedly and encourage them to recite. In this way, he gave full play to his good memory and recited the most valuable classics. When his heart is pure, he often comes into contact with the aboveboard wisdom of sages to subtly influence his temperament. The value of classics will be fragrant and bright with the growth of his life experience, which can help him overcome the adversity in life. Long-term reading and training can cultivate his ability to read ancient Chinese, so the wisdom treasure of Mandarin Chinese will be left for him to explore. He is convinced that this will cultivate his spirit, broaden his mind and correct his conduct. Reading one more book like this will benefit you, and even reading one more sentence will have the effect of one sentence. This lifelong education will plant roots and seedlings in the children's reading stage. Ten years is easy, but conscience is rare. Don't idle away your time.
As for how to teach children to read the Bible? The method is simple. As long as parents and teachers are good at using their spare time, they will naturally recite fluently by guiding, encouraging or rewarding their children to read and familiarize themselves repeatedly. If parents can take time out to accompany their children to study, it is not only good for themselves, but also the best parent-child activity. According to the experience of the older generation, if you can grasp this decade with the best memory, it is easy to read and recite 30 minutes a day and recite 20 or 30 books, and you can also use the winter and summer vacations to strengthen your review.
The third stage: the ambition of young people-the encouragement of ideals and ambitions.
/kloc-after the age of 0/3, teenagers' knowledge is gradually broadened, their understanding is also significantly developed, and they are gradually separated from their parents' care. This is the stage of high-spirited learning independence. At this time, we should step into the education of "keeping young people's ambitions". Cultivating ambition means inspiring their courage to pursue lofty ideals and cultivating lofty ambitions.
Ziri: "Nine times out of ten, I am determined to learn" is a model for young people in China to learn. It is suggested that teenagers in junior high school and senior high school should choose the following extracurricular reading materials to encourage them to read besides studying normal school assignments and books on subjects of special interest:
(1) biographies of great men, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign.
(2) the classic story of loyalty, filial piety and loyalty, and a deep understanding of cause and effect.
(3) All walks of life adhere to their ideals, work hard, and constantly strive to set an example.
If you can get in touch with the above books extensively, and be familiar with them, you can find out the objects you admire most and are willing to imitate, which can best stimulate young people's lofty aspirations. This positive force not only ignited the enthusiasm of young people for positions, but also established firm confidence. Because teenagers are at the stage of conceiving their own future direction, they need to have a sense of identity with the objects to be imitated at this time, thus encouraging them to establish lofty ideals and the courage to persist in their ideals and struggle.
The fourth stage: adult moral cultivation-the development of real life
As an adult, entering the society is the stage of giving full play to one's special skills and getting married. We should try our best to stand on our own feet, and then help the backward people to establish themselves. In the future, in the process of more frequent contact with people and more complicated personnel environment, it is bound to be difficult and comprehensive, so it is more necessary to constantly reflect on your own shortcomings and deficiencies and encourage yourself to correct them in order to make progress. Imitate the spirit of Mr. Yuan Lefan in Ming Dynasty, reform, accumulate goodness and be modest. Treat people with sincerity everywhere, and always accumulate goodness and cultivate one's morality with convenience and altruism, enrich oneself and purify society.
If we have a deeper understanding, the ego is just a drop in the ocean, and what we have learned is only a drop in the ocean, so we can always remain humble. However, Xiu De's career is endless, and the three of us must have a teacher, so that we can devote ourselves to practice and progress anytime and anywhere. As long as our self-life can develop gradually, the world will be full of vitality. Therefore, when we are adults, we will cultivate our self-cultivation and do our best in this life, and it will never end.
If our society is like a big garden, then every newborn baby, like a newly unearthed seedling, needs parents to water the seedling with love and four stages of education as nutrients. I firmly believe that a big garden with trees, flowers and delicious fruits will naturally appear in front of everyone.