● Western parents generally believe that children are independent individuals from the day they are born and have their own independent will and personality. Neither parents, teachers nor relatives and friends have the privilege to dominate and restrict his behavior. In most cases, they can't make choices for their children. It is to make children feel that they are their own masters, and even under what circumstances, parents should carefully consider, respect and understand their children's psychology. Most parents in China require their children to be obedient and obedient.
● Western parents generally believe that children have the ability of self-reflection and education. Children should work hard, live by themselves, get happiness from their efforts, get all kinds of knowledge and skills from their hands.
Let children do what they can, which is respect for children. For example, in the west, there are many cases where a father or mother walks in front and a toddler follows. They think it is very important to cultivate children's independence. China's parents are afraid that their children will bump into each other, so they often hold or pull their children.
● Westerners have a relatively weak desire for their children to become famous and start a family. Instead of painstakingly designing their children's future, they pay attention to their free development and strive to cultivate their children into social people who can adapt to various environments and have the ability to survive independently. Their family education is based on cultivating children's pioneering spirit and becoming an independent person.
Based on this concept, many families in western countries attach great importance to children's self-exercise since childhood. They generally believe that children's growth must rely on their own strength, so it is necessary to cultivate and exercise children's sense of self-reliance and independent living ability from an early age, such as letting them know the value of labor from an early age, letting them repair and assemble motorcycles themselves, and sharing the work of mowing the lawn, painting the house, and simple carpentry repairs at home. In addition, I have to go out to do odd jobs, push the lawn mower in summer, shovel snow in winter and sweep leaves in autumn. The labor such as delivering newspapers that western children have been engaged in since childhood is itself a tempering of the spirit of hardship. In the cold winter, when children of the same age in China are still asleep in the hot bed, western children have already got up and delivered newspapers door to door. This may seem cruel to the doting parents in China, and it is this seemingly cruel education that has created the life skills of independent and self-reliant western children. In this subtle process, children gradually grow into citizens with independent viability and social responsibility.
Many parents in China are eager for their children's success, so they go beyond the high requirements of their children's actual level, encourage their children to pull out seedlings to encourage them, and hate iron to produce steel, which is pervasive in their families. In the process of children's growth, in addition to paying more attention to life, parents are most concerned about their children's learning. In order to make children behave well in school, parents will not let their children do things other than study in the future. It seems that studying well is everything, but they seldom pay attention to their independent living ability, social adaptability, mental health, moral sentiment and civic awareness, and some even ignore them completely. From birth to adulthood, parents prepare almost everything for their children, such as cooking, washing clothes, cleaning, saving money for their children to go to college, go abroad, get married, raise their children and so on. Although our parents want their children to be talented and happy, such family education can neither make them talented nor happy, because social competition is not only a contest between knowledge and intelligence, but also a contest between will, mental state and being a man.
● Western parents pay more attention to the cultivation of children's healthy psychology, so they attach great importance to emotional communication with children and care about their psychological needs. Parents regard happy education as an important educational content. They often discuss problems with their children, and children are willing to discuss things with their parents when they are unhappy. Psychological research shows that healthy psychology is very important for children's success and the shaping of healthy personality.